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November 23, 2018

When your Pussy Speaks, do you Listen? {Adult}

She’s speaking to you all day, every day.

She’s got a voice as strong as the one in your head and as trustworthy as the one in your chest.

Those three centers—the mind, the heart, and the body—are constantly receiving information and giving instant feedback, which we can pay attention to or ignore as needed.

We all know that our pussies can be a source of pleasure, but their influence goes beyond the sexual realm and into full sensual enjoyment of life, wise femininity, and creative aliveness.

I spent a full month tuning into my body, with special attention paid to what my pussy had to say. And guess what I learned? I found out that I don’t truly know how to speak her language. I saw that I’m very good at ignoring her, even silencing her when her messages are inconvenient. She’s at the point of often going numb instead of bothering to speak up.

Mind

I’m a thinker—well, an overthinker—something I know many people can relate to. In this masculine world, we are dominated by our brains. That’s how we survive. That’s how we thrive and how we communicate with the other brain-led beings in our world.

Both women and men are allowed and encouraged to develop their brainpower. Our childhoods revolve around enhancing the intelligence in the logic centers of our bodies. We rarely learn how to turn the volume down in our heads, which is loud enough to drown out all other voices.

Heart

As women, it’s also acceptable for us to listen to our hearts. Now, that’s not to say we always let them guide us. We don’t. We can’t—or we would have to let them get trampled on more often. Opening our hearts means allowing vulnerability and accepting possible pain.

But we do have that familiarity with our heart centers. We know they’re there and we usually know what they’re saying. We even place value on those messages, if not make them the priority. And sometimes they lead us to amazing experiences, which we are celebrated for and encouraged to share with others. When we choose to not listen, it’s often a conscious choice.

Body

Too often our physical bodies—especially our sexual centers—take a back seat to both our hearts and our minds. The mind guides us through our days; the heart does its best to steer us in the right direction. What about the pussy? She is rarely considered to be of value in day-to-day dealings unless she’s got a specific job to do. (We all know what that is.)

Her intelligence goes beyond sex and even beyond pleasure. Those are two essential gifts she offers us—but if we think that’s where it ends, we’re missing out. She’s connected to our hearts and our brains, quite literally, and without her influence our “selves” are incomplete. She fuels our creativity and femininity. Our power and potential are limited by the absence of her input.

A combination of patriarchy, sexual shame, and societal ignorance has caused us to suppress our pussy sense—each of us to a different degree, but collectively enough that disconnection is the norm.

Reconnecting

So how can we reestablish and strengthen our connection to this powerful sense? An indulgent self-pleasure practice with slow, deliberate touch is a great place to begin. Yoni eggs can resensitize and give much-needed love to our bodies.

The quickest way (which can be done at anytime—even right now) is to close the eyes and simply feel. Breathe into your sexual center. Pay attention to the physical sensations and the energetic quality, both of which can change from minute to minute. Ask your pussy how she feels, what she wants in this moment, and where she would lead you if it were up to her.

After a few decades of unlearning the language of the pussy, I’m ready to recover that sense. I want her wisdom to bring me to higher states of being and to add to my experience as a human. As with everything in life worth learning, this connection will take time and practice.

Quiet the mind, open the heart. Allow the pussy to be heard.

~

author: Alissa King

Image: Lana Abie/Unsplash

Editor: Naomi Boshari

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Alyson Follenius Nov 28, 2018 12:15pm

YES! YES! YES! Thank You for sharing this beautiful piece. It is a topic I have been contemplating for a bit now. You have inspired me to try to listen in. ??

Aaron Patrick Applebottom Nov 27, 2018 8:59am

This is a beautiful piece. Thank you for sharing this.

gowricanberra Nov 26, 2018 3:43pm

She’s connected to our hearts and our brains, quite literally, and without her influence our “selves” are incomplete

Amazingly true Statement.
And your article makes lot of sense.
Keep up the good work.???

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Alissa King

Alissa is a Birth Story Listener who has been practicing various forms of yoga for 14 years and felt major shifts after beginning to incorporate tantric techniques into her daily life.

Her varied interests (all of which influence her teachings) include meditation, sexuality, feminine and masculine energies, shame, parenting, mind-body connection, human relationships, natural birth, psychology, and yoga.

Besides spending time with her partner and their six children, Alissa’s current focus is on overcoming the sexual shame that affects our society and her passion is facilitating the freedom from shame in herself and others.

Connect with her on Facebook and Instagram or check out Tantric Life-Making for couples retreats, pujas, and workshops.