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My serious interest in yoni eggs started when I began dating a man who had been in a long-term relationship with a woman who had never had children and bragged about her great sexual techniques.
I didn’t just hear alarm bells, but great insecurity sirens when I discovered that my now husband had only had sex with women who had either never had children or had never gone through vaginal birth.
Having birthed two children vaginally, I couldn’t help the feelings of insecurity and fear of being inferior that washed over me. Our relationship was young, but I was hooked pretty early on, and as everything else was so good, I didn’t want to be a disappointment in the bedroom.
For years, I had heard the terms “yoni eggs,” love eggs,” and “jade eggs,” but despite having trained as a crystal therapist over 15 years ago, I had never really taken much of an interest in using this amazing tool that has been around for thousands of years.
To be honest, it wasn’t until I had birthed my second child that I started to become concerned about maintaining my pelvic floor muscles. According to the Yale University School of Medicine, women have up to a 60 percent rate of incontinence and a 50 percent rate of POP (pelvic organ prolapse) postpartum, so not wanting to be a statistic, I looked to strengthen my pelvic floor.
However, I approached this by doing mainstream pelvic floor strengthening exercises. I had worked hard at these exercises, but my worries still remained. After all, every day I’d take the time to moisturize my face, apply my makeup, and touch up my lipstick during the day, but I hardly gave my vagina a second thought.
Then I went on a retreat to Tao Gardens in Thailand and attended a workshop on jade egg practices. It was inspiring and liberating. After attending the workshop, I read many books and invested in a good quality yoni egg.
My reading reinforced the idea that practicing with a yoni egg not only helps tighten the vaginal walls, but it also awakens the tissues, organs, and muscles, promotes new nerve growth, and increases overall sensitivity. What I felt was most important was that using a yoni egg encouraged me to take control of my body and really connect with my vagina.
There is no doubt that using a yoni egg allows women to become more intimate with themselves—and important for me was the fact that using a yoni egg taught me about my body and really aided intimate self-connection and mind-body connection as well.
According to a study published in the International Journal of Sexual Health, women who had a positive view of their genitalia are more comfortable in their bodies, more prone to orgasm, and more likely to experiment in bed. Basically, intimate self-connection leads to increased self-confidence, and a self-confident woman is naturally happier and oozes more sexual appeal. It’s the old adage of feeling sexy in order to become sexy.
I must say that yoni egg practices are a womanly art that really connect a woman with her vagina. I found yoni egg practices to be a voyage of self-discovery; and while these practices have the added bonus of increasing sexual pleasure and, through practice, the ability to isolate different muscles of your pelvic floor and move them individually, in unison, or in sequence, which results in amazing sexual sensation for both partners, there are so many benefits, it’s hard to know where to start, But, below are some of the top benefits I have found in my experience:
>> Increased awareness and appreciation of the vagina. Using a yoni egg really helped to create a positive connection with this intimate and important part of my body.
>> Awakening of creative energy, passion, and the harnessing of sexual energy.
>> Increasing and owning of sexual appeal.
>> Achieving orgasmic bliss and deeper intimacy.
>> Gaining control of the perineum and all groups of pelvic floor muscles.
>> Improving the experience of sexual intercourse.
>> Reducing the symptoms of pre-menstrual tension and menstrual symptoms.
>> Reducing menopausal symptoms by balancing the system, increasing vaginal lubrication, and balancing estrogen levels through the facilitation of fresh blood flow to the pelvic region.
>> Rejuvenation of the body and mind through the increased flow of Kundalini life-force energy throughout the entire body.
>> Improved tone in the pelvic floor, which helps increase blood flow, innervates neural pathways, and awakens more subtle sensations throughout the whole pelvic region—all of which transmits a spectrum of pleasure messages to the brain.
>> Suppleness is the ability to open the vagina and sip something in. It is a concept that I myself had lost: the vagina is meant to sip something in, rather than have something pushed in.
>> The ability to isolate different muscles of the pelvic floor and move them individually, in unison, or in sequence, which results in increased pleasure and sensation during intercourse.
In his book, Emotional Detox through Bodywork, Mal Weeraratne explains that, “One way to help a woman strengthen her PC muscles is to use the jade egg, which can be inserted into the yoni. The Jade Egg ‘sexercises’ provide more power to the chi muscle to lift the sexual energy inward and upward, where it can be circulated to the other vital organs…and improve the vital energy and overall well-being of the woman.”
Speaking with Tantra Therapist, Kate Elena, who is very experienced in yoni egg practices, she explained that she often recommends that her female clients begin yoni egg practices to help ‘’support the release of emotions trapped within the body, raise sexual energy and bring more vital life-force in the body.’’
Kate explained that jade egg practices are becoming more popular, and she will be running courses in London to meet the demand of women wanting to learn more about jade egg exercises. I am certainly no expert in the field of jade egg practices, but I have found it a useful tool to promote my own body confidence and my own knowledge of my body.
I found that the most useful piece of advice I received was to “take time”—using a jade egg effectively is most definitely a skill that takes time to master, and I worried in the beginning about getting the exercises right, which is not the thing to do, as it is really important to relax.
So my guide to getting started with a jade egg begins with the creation of a calm and pleasant environment where you can practice in comfort and peace. You are really looking to create a space that is calm and relaxing where you can practice undisturbed. Light candles or incense, and play relaxing music or whatever makes you feel relaxed and the space sacred. Now thread your yoni egg:
- Use a natural (unwaxed and unflavored) dental floss that is thin enough to fit through the yoni egg hole when doubled up. Cut a piece that is still approximately 10 inches (25cm) when folded in half.
- Fold the dental floss in half.
- Thread the string through the drilled holes in the egg—inserting the end that is folded over first.
- A loop is created on the side of the yoni egg where the string has exited. Thread the two loose ends through the loop. Now you have secured your string.
- Pull it tight. The wider side of the egg should be inserted into the yoni first, so the ends of the string should hang comfortably and within reach.
When you feel ready, insert your jade egg. Take the widest part of the egg against your vagina and take a few deep calming breaths until you feel comfortable. It is absolutely essential that you are relaxed and at ease. Then let the egg slip into your vagina. This should be a relaxing and pleasurable sensation; it should not require you to struggle to push the egg in. This is a wonderful opportunity to slow down, unwind, and send love and positive intentions to your vagina. The first time you practice with your jade egg, you can very well stay at this stage and just breathe and relax with your jade egg. It is a lovely opportunity to connect with your yoni and get used to using a yoni egg.
The first time you use the egg, it is natural to feel a little apprehensive, and you will probably want to, and should, take things slowly until you become accustomed to it.
Once inserted, and when you are ready, you can begin to strengthen the pelvic floor and yoni muscles, develop awareness in the vaginal muscles, and strengthen the PC muscle. I found that it is important to fully master this first technique before moving on to the other exercises. After all, there is no rush, and once you have fully mastered inserting the yoni egg and doing this first exercise, you can begin enjoying your newly found skill and add to your repertoire of exercises.
Since starting jade egg practices, I have had another baby and currently have another on the way, and I must say that I found jade egg exercises incredibly helpful in both my last birthing process and the postpartum recovery. My worries about the condition of my pelvic floor have melted away, and I’m certainly no longer intimidated by my husband’s non-childbearing ex-partners.
More importantly, I have found the yoni egg to be a great tool for spiritual self-development.
Author: Seren Charrington-Hollins
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