We have molded ourselves
from the aprons of our grandmothers—
gingham, soft and worn around the seams.
We stand on top of the mountains
our mothers fought
quietly and earnestly on our behalf,
while we picked bouquets of dandelions.
We clothed ourselves with words
that came out of the mouths of our sisters and kindred spirits.
This is how we became our true selves…
compiling the compassion and
piecing together plans for our future.
even with these well-paved paths,
we found that nothing
truly prepares you for motherhood.
Nothing prepares you for sympathy pains your heart is about to endure.
Nothing prepares you for pressure you put on yourself to be perfect, all the time.
Nothing prepares you for how much you don’t know, despite reading every parenting book on the market.
For some of us,
we had an idea of who we were
who we wanted to be,
being a mom allowed us to step into our own.
It was as though having a child gave our lives more purpose, meaning, and legacy.
Or maybe it came to be that,
for the first time,
we could no longer be selfish.
While other mothers
have sorted through the process,
unsure and without support.
They are weary and clinching to words, echoing down hallowed halls of loneliness,
thinking to themselves,
“I was told motherhood would bring me joy.”
I was lucky enough to have a mother who led by example.
She was the calm.
she was the storm.
She knew how to solve everything
by encouraging and empowering.
on a solid foundation
that made her belief
stronger than concrete.
We were taught
to not compare ourselves
to “other mothers”
translate those findings into shortcomings.
Rather, we were blessed with a mind-set
to be surrounded by women
who are savvy entrepreneurs,
a fierce mix of it all.
They pushed us to raise our standards
allow for the wiggle room
But most importantly, women like my mother were honest about their own stories.
They told the real and raw of it all.
They made certain that we knew the challenges they faced
but also raised us with ferocity.
They could see our brave hearts.
They could truly see us.
They are ones who support us in our battles,
hold our hands,
tilt our heads up higher
as we trudge on.
They are the ones who stay,
not just when it is convenient.
They are the ones who listen
and not just “talk at us”
hear all the words we never speak.
are what truly make up the real stories of motherhood and kinship.
The stories and moments that have allowed us to expand our worlds.
To grow beyond our borders.
Growth is a grand thing
we outgrow people
that aren’t growing.
Those time are difficult,
and have forced even the strongest women
to question themselves,
to question everything.
In those moments
it often feels
we are being pulled
A Mexican proverb says, “They tried to bury us…they didn’t know we were seeds.”
Courageously we grow.
As a mother, we understand
there are little eyes watching
little ears listening.
Be brave to expect respect.
Be brave to speak the truth.
Be brave to courageously grow.
The bravest thing that we can do
for these children
is give them the choice
to become their own person,
to courageously grow.
By watching us
finding our voice
and not hardening from the hardships.
Here’s to all those who helped us…
Helped all of us to grow
Here’s to those who taught us to be brave
and, most importantly,
to be our true selves.