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July 12, 2019

The One and Only Thing You Need to Find “The One”

Across the internet there are loads of articles about finding ‘The One’. All sorts of tips and ‘how to’s’. Yet, there is so much more to coming into finding someone who makes you happy. Most of those relationships are free from lasting. Why? Because they are based upon concepts that have you reaching ‘outside’ of yourself and usually based in lack, fear, and separation. To truly find ‘The One’, we are to look deeper within our soul.

Love is our natural vibration and resonance of BEing, for it is the consciousness we are as Source/God/the Master Artist is. We are created of this Love and from this Love, therefore we are this Love. Ergo, what I invite you into understanding is that when we are ‘looking’ for ‘The One’, what we are really looking for is Source or this Love that Source is and that we are within another.

When one falls in Love with the Divine Masculine man or the Divine Feminine woman, the Love one feels is free from coming from that man or woman; it is the Love that is already and always, in all ways, flowing from within your own heart of who we are as Love/Source that you feel and is then subsequently being shown through another (which there is free from being another, but that is for another article). The one you choose to be in Love with is simply the reflection within an object of your attention that has you radiate that Love. For that Love you feel for a man or a woman is you seeing the God/Source/Master Artist within them and within you. When two beings are both in that resonant vibration, that is what we call falling in Love and BEing in Love.

In this brief vignette I wrote a few years gone now I share this~

How do you know if he/she is “the One”

He enquired ~ What are you looking for in a man?

She responded ~ God/Source


It was asked~ How do you know if he/she is the one?

And the Master Artist whispered “Does he/she bring you to me?, Does this one remind you of me, the God incarnate you are? Does this one uplift you into your Soul and of the wholeness, perfectness, completeness, and beautifulness you are no matter how you act, what you do or say as I see you?

THEN he/she is “The One”

A lover, ‘The One’ if you will, comes to us when we are BEing the vibration of Love and all its attributes as the reflection of the Love we are and of our happily ever after that we are already being within us rather than a lover coming because we want to be that Love and happily ever after as if it is not here already and always. Since we are this Love as we are made of and from this Love, such Love is already and always, in all ways here as it is who we are.

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What are the attributes of Love? They are resonances such as loving kindness, compassion, caring, giving, showing another you love them and telling them, co~creation, co~operation, empathy, compassionate listening, community, freedom, union, the benefit of all, gentleness, tenderness, softness, real, raw, vulnerable from the heartness, generocity, how may I serve, what may I give, how can I assist, what is the loving thing to say, do, be in this moment, upliftment, encouragement, seeing the Source/God within one another and all.

When we are BEing that Love and that Happily Ever After with or without a lover, with or without that thing we desire, relationship we desire, job we desire etc. that is when such comes to us because the Universe then delivers to us because we are then a vibrational match, ie in the vibration of being open to receive as we are BEing that of what we desire. We are then being Love and Happily Ever After free from being because of a person or thing as that person or thing is free from being our Source of that happiness, that Love. We are simply loving because we Love, happy because we are happy and for no other reason. And this is the vibrational frequency language the Universe responds to in giving us the mirror of who we are BEing. As Neo said to Agent Smith in the last Matrix film in the trilogy when he asked him ‘why do you continue to do this?’ Neo responded, ‘Because I choose to’.

Thus, rather than coming from a resonance of lack and feeling separate from Love in looking for Love, searching for Love, longing for Love or coming from fear that are free from having nor will ever have such Love, I invite you to just Love. Just Love. Just BE Love and all its attributes. As just you loving places you in the openness to receive Love. May sound counter intuitive yet such is true. As you Love, and give Love, you then receive Love from many infinite sources rather than just that one Source of the job, or person, or thing do you not? As you can feel Love, BE Love, and BE in that vibration of yer Happily Ever After regardless of situations, circumstances, or people being Love to you and with you, THAT is where your true power and true freedom is. And when one or more of us are that together, wow! amasing magic occurs!

Then who knows, maybe that Love will come from that person you desire it to or that job or that thing or a REALationship (a real relationship) coming seemingly ‘out of the blue’. And if it does wonderful. And if it is free from coming then that is ok too because you are receiving Love within the infinite ways Source gives such and as you feel this within you and within all, this is then truly fulfilling.

For as I shared above, when we are ‘looking’ for ‘The One’, at the heart and soul of it all, what we are really looking for is Source or this Love that Source is and that we are within another. We think it is that ‘other’ yet we are really desiring connection with Love/Source, itself. This is the ultimate fulfillment of our soul and of life here on earth is the experience and express this Love with, for, and in Source. Then to share that wholeness, perfectness, completeness, of fulfillment you are with another is the expression from within out rather than seeking someone to make you happy or feel complete within from outside ourselves first.

The point is to be free from placing pressure upon anyone or anything that they ‘have to’ love you. For those things or people are free from being your Source of Love, Love within its infinite ways it gives is. Love can come through another as Source sending such Love to you, yet that person or thing is free from being your source of Love. As a song I wrote says Let Love Love You’ within all the infinite ways that Love has to give such Love to you. Starting with the Love between Source/God/the Master Artist and you, then the Love within you as you give to you, then with a lover that Love brings forth to you from the Love you are BEing, giving, and are, and then Love with all in the infinite forms that Love then takes place within friends, relatives, soul family, and infinitely more!

The One’ who is to be will come as that lover as you be this Love, give this Love. So that such lover or that job or that thing you desire is then the result of you BEing Love and giving Love everywhere rather than the reason you give Love everywhere. To the degree you be this Love, will be to the degree you receive this Love. There is only ever one exception to you being free from receiving such of ‘The One’ in terms of a REALationship with a lover, and that is if you have a soul agreement in this life (or any other incarnation) that you chose to be free from having such.

Can you feel that you are worthy and lovable right here and right now for no other reason than that you are and that Source sees you as worthy and loves you? Can you be happy just because? Source is ‘The One’ you seek and having been waiting for and what you seek is seeking you. Mmmmm…..such deliciousness, such enchantment, and oh aye indeed, such Love coming your way then! May your life be full of magic, awe, wonder….and Love!

Lady Nenari is the Founder/Director of The DiamondLight Soul Centre and as a Complimentary Wholistic Therapist specialises in OneSoul REALationships Mentoring for individuals and couples, Meditational Hypnotherapy, Sound Healing Therapy, and Akashic Records Soul Mediumship Reading. To book in a one to one session with her or for the courses she teaches, visit her website

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