Porn is not sex education.

Or, at least, it shouldn’t be.

But anyone who has had sex in the past several decades knows that porn has widespread influence on our sex practices, behaviors, and expectations.

Cindy Gallop, founder of MakeLoveNotPorn, would like to change that.

In her TED Talk, “Make love, not porn,” Gallop explains how many of us—specifically men—come to believe that sex in porn is the same as sex in reality:

“There is an entire generation growing up that believes that what you see in hard-core pornography is the way that you have sex.”

She also shares some personal experiences with the issue and explains why it’s such a necessary problem to address.

If you’re offended by sexually explicit language, you might want to cover your ears.