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People constantly shouting for anti-abortion and how we need to demand control of strangers’ bodies—it’s a deafening yell that I’m personally sick of hearing.
I don’t know how much longer fights to stop abortion will last, but what I can say is, the argument over what someone can do with their body is getting old and it needs to stop.
If you want to prevent abortion and unwanted pregnancy, I have a solution for you.
Get a vasectomy.
If you’re a man, get one.
If you’re a woman having sex with a man, ask him to get one.
If being told to get a vasectomy makes you angry, imagine being a woman with an unwanted pregnancy and being told, “What you do with your body isn’t your decision.”
Imagine literally any pregnancy scenario, the best, or the absolute worst, and being told, “Sorry, this is what we think is best for you to do and we don’t care what you have to say about it.”
Imagine being told you could die if you carried a pregnancy full-term and a law prevented you from saving your living, breathing self.
Imagine being unknowingly pregnant and having a miscarriage that ultimately lands you in jail.
Imagine having someone, who doesn’t even personally know you dictating how you do anything that is your free will choice.
Vasectomies are reversible and effective.
According to a study from WebMD,
“About 500,000 vasectomies are performed each year in the U.S. Although the procedure is cheaper, faster, safer, and more reliable than female sterilization (1 pregnancy in 100), only 9% of sexually active men in the United States get vasectomies, while 27% of women get tubal ligations.”
In another study from US News,
“Most American women between 15 and 49 years of age use birth control, according to a new U.S. government report.
Between 2017 and 2019, 65% of those women used some form of contraception, according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.”
An even more shocking study with Cosmopolitan says,
“These and other musings inspired us to grill 18–34-year-olds on their condom use—or rather, their alarming lack thereof. A measly 30% of men and women wrapped it up the last time they had sex.”
While yes, it takes two to tango when preventing pregnancy, there is a huge difference in the statistics of men and women when it comes to actively preventing pregnancy.
Right now, actively preventing pregnancy is not looking so great on the men’s side.
A sheer number of sexually active men are performing vasectomies while 65% of women are on birth control to prevent pregnancy.
You can’t fertilize the egg without the seed. And if you want to keep having sex but don’t want to get pregnant, it’s time to find a solution that works for everyone.
Fortunately, this one works for most everyone and can prevent people from ever opening their mouths again about abortion.
If you’re that concerned about getting a woman pregnant, or if you’re a woman concerned about your man getting you pregnant, get a vasectomy.
Plain and simple.
Concerned the procedure will be painful? It might be.
You will experience recovery time. But think about what it takes for your procedure.
Then compare it to a woman’s 24-48 hours of contractions during labor or her being burdened with carrying a child for nine months while her feet swell to the size of balloons.
Think about her morning sickness, her back pain, and the fact that like many women, she will go through this pregnancy ritual once or twice more after her first birth.
If you’re afraid of being in pain, just remember what a woman goes through during pregnancy and labor.
But beyond this, I have so many other questions about the double standards put forth around the topic of preventing pregnancy, or which human genitals are placed on the highest pedestal.
Why is there so much concern around what happens with a woman’s vagina and less concern about what happens with a man’s penis?
Why do penises get more special treatment, like skipping exams? Shouldn’t we all be getting annual pelvic exams—and not just women?
“The researchers found that almost one-quarter, or 2.6 million, young women between the ages of 15 and 20 received a bimanual pelvic exam — during which a doctor places two fingers inside the patient’s vagina to check for abnormalities in the uterus or ovaries. More than half of those exams were potentially unnecessary.” ~ CPR News
How many men get pelvic exams? I’m still looking for that statistic.
Why are women pushed into pelvic exams to get birth control, but men can get their viagra and condoms without a physical or penis exam?
Why is defunding Planned Parenthood, which provides birth control to women called for, but not the defunding or canceling of condoms? Both are forms of protection, are they not? Yet, no one complains about condoms being made available everywhere to prevent pregnancy and practice safe sex.
Also, why are condoms so easily and readily available, but birth control isn’t?
Why do people care more about men’s reproductive health and sexual activity than they do women’s?
After all, women have carried and given birth to all of you living and breathing. We should all be kinder to those who helped you pass through the birth canal.
You can’t scream pro-life and then condemn the very children who end up in the foster care system, only to be discriminated against for relying on welfare.
You can’t defund Planned Parenthood and still demand access to birth control and other reproductive health care services.
You can’t deny people’s right to birth control and then say condoms are still okay to sell everywhere.
Women without access to birth control methods and abortions will be more likely to take financial and physical health risks in order to get one.
Abortions will not stop if made illegal. Women will find a way to get them, but it may not always be the safest solution. Yet, they will take the risk anyway.
If you’re not sold on that narrative, read this:
“When performed by a trained provider using a method recommended by the World Health Organization, abortion is an overwhelmingly safe medical procedure. Unfortunately, almost half of all abortions—35 million—take place in unsafe conditions, resulting in an estimated 23,000 preventable pregnancy-related deaths every year.”
Put aside your personal beliefs. They have no place in an individual’s personal decisions.
If you want to reduce the risk of pregnancy, then stop fighting against organizations that will provide abortions and birth control—and get a vasectomy (or encourage your man to get one).
Women deserve access to affordable reproductive healthcare and their services. Women deserve the right to choose what happens with their bodies.
Someone’s choice to have an abortion is none of your business.
If you don’t want to make it your business anymore, if you don’t agree with abortions, get a vasectomy or just stop having sex altogether.
Whatever you do is no matter to me—as long as the complaining stops.