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April 27, 2021

Wiggy Stardust: How My Cancer Diagnosis gave me the Courage to Reinvent Myself.

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Taking a Walk on the Wild Side

During my long and grueling treatment regimen for breast cancer that included chemo, surgery, and radiation, I began journaling about my experiences both as a coping strategy and as a way of keeping my friends posted about my situation.

I found this process extremely therapeutic, both the writing and the sharing and support I received from friends who received my long missives.

The following is an excerpt from my journal.

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January 14, 2016

I feel human for the first time today, seven days after my third chemo. So I ask my husband to take me to a wig shop. We are in Vegas this week and after careful research, he finds a reputable wig shop. Rows and rows of gorgeous wigs: pretty, noble, chic, curly, straight, alluring, cultured, mature, and in a range of colours and lengths. We stroll, admire, and coo. I pick a few, but the moment I meet her, I know we were meant to be together.

The saleswoman is skeptical at first. She has me try several wigs she selected for me. They all look wrong, merely hiding the trademark baldness of cancer in an obvious way. But, when I put her on, even the saleswoman gasps. Styled unevenly as if no one can tame her, yet smooth like melted mercury; she works quite the gravitational pull.

I call her: Wiggy Stardust.

I know what you’re thinking. I’m plagiarizing from David Bowie and he has left this planet so he can’t protest. Not so. It’s an homage to my hero. I was distraught to hear that he died at the young age of 69 last Sunday. In my late teens and 20s, he was the closest thing I had to an idol.

Bowie’s haunting alter egos fascinated me. I was captivated by his music and ever-changing style. I found him superbly handsome in an androgynous vanilla-scented kind of way. The combination of his versatile music, rule-breaking and pushing limits, sense of fun, fashion, and character creations, was unparalleled. After immigrating to Canada, I had multiple opportunities to see him live in Toronto, and I missed them all. What was I thinking?

Still, why Wiggy Stardust? Bowie was the ultimate chameleon who repeatedly reinvented himself. He once said in an interview that he was extremely shy and “wearing” these alter egos or personas allowed him to go on stage and perform with confidence. I believe that he also bravely expressed parts of himself that the rest of us suppress in fear of judgment.

Ziggy Stardust was my favourite of Bowie’s alter egos. I call on him for a dose of courage and inspiration.

Recently, I saw “Kinky Boots” (twice!) and thought of Bowie. I saw it the first time before my cancer diagnosis with my older daughter. I could not stop raving about the show. Less than a month later, post-diagnosis, I went again with my best friend who came from overseas to support me. Seeing the musical with her after my first chemo lifted my spirit for weeks. Especially the Drag Queens’ numbers, which I could now sing along to. It was intoxicating. Drag Queens embody for me what Bowie was all about—a celebration of hidden personas. Maybe I was so drawn to this show because I could use a little help unleashing mine at a time I needed them most.

For me, the recent diagnosis of cancer was inevitably a call to push myself beyond my limits, further than what I thought was possible. A call and a challenge to reinvent myself. The old self, while it had some good resources and skills, had not been equipped to deal with this aggressive cancer and the equally aggressive treatment.

My first alter ego post-diagnosis was Pink. I zoomed in on this funky pink wig at the Princess Margaret Hospital wig and hat shop. In the pink wig, I am no longer a 53-year-old woman with two cancer diagnoses in two years who has every excuse to feel defeated. Pink cures the blues. She loves taking selfies at parties and making people smile.

With Wiggy on, I am glam, I am fully alive, upward, and forward-looking, and I have no room for doubts or regrets. The possibilities ahead are endless, even though life isn’t.

I wonder what other personas I am yet to discover. It will be my gift to myself in the second part of chemo. This whole experience has unleashed the wild side within, manifesting itself in kinky boots, wigs, and a trip to a realm I hadn’t yet allowed myself to explore. And in return, these personas make me feel hyper-alive and fully myself.

Thank you and goodbye Starman—see you in heaven, but not too soon. In the meantime, I plan to boogie some more, on the wild side.

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