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May 1, 2022

My Emotional Regulation Journey: from a Strong Current to Gentle Waters.

I finally began to understand emotional regulation when I realized that my emotions were like a river.

Sometimes, the current was strong and pushed me in a certain direction, whether I liked it or not. Other times, the current was gentle and allowed me to float along at my own pace. It took a while, but I eventually learned how to use the winds to my advantage, steering myself toward calmer waters whenever necessary.

The Currents of Emotion

Much like a river, our emotions can have different levels of intensity. There are times when the current is strong and pushes us in a particular direction, and other times when it is gentle and allows us to float along at our own pace. Learning how to navigate these different currents is an integral part of emotional regulation.

The first step is to become aware of the different emotions that we experience. This can be a difficult task, as we often try to ignore or suppress our negative emotions. However, it is essential to acknowledge them to work through them in a healthy way. Once we are aware of our emotions, we can begin to understand why we are feeling them. This is where the analogy of a river becomes helpful.

When we can understand the root cause of our emotions, it becomes easier to manage them. For example, if we feel angry because someone has wronged us, we can begin to work through that anger by communicating with the person who hurt us. On the other hand, if we feel sad because we’ve lost someone, we can begin to work through that sadness by talking about our memories of the person or participating in activities that make us feel happy.

The key is to find what works for you. Unfortunately, there is no one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to emotional regulation. What works for one person may not work for another. The important thing is to find what helps you calm the waters of your emotions.

Rocks in the Water

There will be times when the current is strong and pushes us in a specific direction, no matter how much we try to fight it. These are the times when our emotions get the best of us, and we lash out in anger, say things we don’t mean, or make impulsive decisions that we later regret.

In these moments, it is important to remember that we are not alone. We all have rocks in our rivers from time to time. The important thing is to find a way to navigate around them.

One way to do this is to take a step back and assess the situation. This can be difficult when we find ourselves in an emotional storm, but it is essential to remain calm and objective. Once we have a clear head, we can look for a solution to help us get around the rocks and back into more tranquil waters.

Another way to navigate rocks is to ask for help from someone who has already been through them. This could be a friend, family member, therapist, or anyone you trust. They can offer guidance and support to help you get through the tough times.

The important thing is not to give up. There will be times when the journey is difficult, but if we keep moving forward, eventually, we will find our way back to calm waters.

Swimming Against the Current

There will be times when the current is strong, and we feel like we are swimming against the tide. These are when it is most important to focus on our breathing. Breathing exercises can help calm the mind and body, which will help manage emotions.

When we are feeling overwhelmed, it can be helpful to close our eyes and imagine ourselves in a peaceful place. This could be a beach, a forest, or anywhere else that brings you peace and tranquility. Visualizing ourselves in this peaceful place can help relax the mind and body, making it easier to manage our emotions.

A Place of Rest

Eventually, we will reach a place of rest. This is the goal of emotional regulation. It is not about getting rid of all of our emotions but rather learning how to manage them in a healthy way. When we reach this place of rest, we will be able to float along with the current without being pushed in any particular direction.

The calm and peace that we feel in this place will be a welcome respite from the emotional storms we have been through. We will finally be able to take a deep breath and relax, knowing that we have the skills and tools necessary to manage our emotions, no matter what the current may bring.

If you are struggling with emotional regulation, know that you are not alone. We all have to find our own way to navigate the river of emotions. But if you keep moving forward, eventually, you will find your way to calmer waters.

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