How to Release Buried Emotions & Suppressed Feelings? {Video}

Via Ben Ralston
on Mar 7, 2012
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I’m taking questions related to healing, personal development, and spiritual growth.

This is my answer to a question sent me on my Facebook page. I hope you don’t get seasick watching it! The only time I could find lately to make the video was when I took my dog for a walk…

Any other questions? I’m aiming for a video (and a dog walk!) a day.

Please leave a comment, and share if it feels like it might be of value to someone else.

With love, Ben

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Editor: Kate Bartolotta


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About Ben Ralston

Ben Ralston is a therapist, healer, advanced Sivananda Yoga teacher, and writer. His writings have been read by millions of people and can be found on Elephant Journal, Rebelle Society, and various other portals online. He has been teaching Yoga for 16 years in hotels, ashrams, beaches, gyms and rooftops worldwide. And he runs a busy international therapeutic practice from his home in rural Croatia. Offering sessions in person or via Skype, his therapeutic work is based on healing trauma, and the tools he uses for this are varied – mainly RPT, Shamanism, and energy work. He has also developed some of his own methods, particularly in the area of abuse trauma; ‘resource state’ awareness; and boundary reconstruction. He regularly runs retreats combining Yoga and other energetic exercises with his therapy. He would love nothing more than to see you on one of these retreats, since he believes that this approach to personal development is really the only effective way of bringing love and peace to global human society. Connect with Ben on Facebook. Read more of his writing on his new website with integrated blog! Yes, he's excited about that :)

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42 Responses to “How to Release Buried Emotions & Suppressed Feelings? {Video}”

  1. Thank you Ben… I'm a "freezer" and I needed so badly to hear this today. Your video arrived at just the right time. Thanks for the boost – your video just helped me break through something I've been stuck on for a very long time. <3

  2. ValCarruthers says:

    Great walkin' with you, Ben :)

    Just posted to "Featured Today" on the Elephant Spirituality Homepage.

    Valerie Carruthers
    Please go and "Like" Elephant Spirituality on Facebook

  3. missbernklau says:

    Thank you for sharing, Ben! You have a gift in simplifying something as complicated as healing trauma and all the layers that go with it. I always love reading your thoughts on the subject, and I always learn something new that I can apply to my own life that helps me live more fully and without fear. Thank you!

  4. Ben_Ralston says:

    Anytime Val! Thanks for sharing.

  5. Becky says:

    Sometimes a concept doesn't sink in after hearing it once. Sometimes it takes time, practice, and then hearing it again, so at some point, it really sinks in. Great to listen to you Ben. Definitely got seasick during the first 3 seconds. Had to listen. :)

  6. Monique Dillewaard says:

    Thanks Ben, very helpful for myself and to help others getting out of this freeze mode.
    Have a nice day Monique

  7. Ben_Ralston says:

    From Facebook:
    Sonja Warren wow, that was amazing, it's so true! since I've been on my own again, I've decided to do an imaginary peeling back of layer upon layer of something ( before I watched your video) I couldn't name, to get back in touch with my innermost self; because the more I do this, the more I realize how beautiful and comforting my inner self really is…most of my adult life so far has been spent on being hung up on external things, not knowing why it was so unsatisfying; I never realized how close real happiness was until I started doing that :), as of right now it feels like there is no end to this, it's wonderful!
    14 hours ago · Unlike · 1

    Sonja Warren so here is a question for you Ben: when trauma happens to us, what is the best way to not even make it a 'layer' in the first place? cause at the time the situation may not allow us to express our immediate emotions and I have a feeling that this process of 'layering' is almost an automatic defense mechanism that could get 'away from us'…
    14 hours ago · Unlike · 1

    Ben Ralston Good question Sonja. I believe we first need to answer the question: why do we get 'locked in' to trauma in the first place, so that the layers need to arise. The answer to that is probably that there is unresolved ancestral trauma – meaning that our ancestors experienced trauma, and the survival instinct that helped them to survive it, without resolving it. So that the instinct stayed 'switched on'. That means that since then, we've been repeatedly re-enacting the same response (because of a subconscious association between Safety and Said Survival Instinct). So the answer to your question is this: heal ancestral trauma so that you're a) free from those old patterns completely, and b) in a higher state of consciousness than before. Sounds complex I guess – but it's not. Just heal the blockages and you automatically are free from them.
    14 hours ago · Like · 1

    Gretchen Waschke Sooooo… Here is my question, do we have to clearly identify the trauma itself? I know my heart is closed off & in protective mode (and had been for a LONG time – like since childhood) but I can't i.d. any particular reason why… I acknowledge the fear/struggle/maladaptive "stuff" and I work on keeping it in "check" but I want those blocks GONE.
    3 hours ago · Like

    Ben Ralston Hi Gretchen, great question, and the answer will surprise you (and make you happy)! NO – we don't need to identify the trauma. In fact, it's possible to heal all kinds of different traumas in one go without even talking about them :)
    2 hours ago · Like · 1

  8. Ben_Ralston says:

    And another comment that I'll keep anonymous:
    "Watched your walking video. As you went through the explanation and affirmation, I felt a release in my abdomen which caused me to take a breath! Release! Yes, all we ever do hear about is fight or flight! Keep doing what you do. Love that you are able to share your healing!"

  9. jianji says:

    Thank you.

  10. Beth Barron says:

    Really helpful and articulate wisdom… thank you…

  11. Joe Sparks says:

    Hi Ben, Good information! It is important to remember everyone is born with tremendous intellectual potential, natural zest, and lovingness, but that these qualiites have become blocked and obscured in most adults, not just traumatized adults, as the result of accumulated distress experiences ( fear, hurt, loss, pain, anger, embarrassment, etc.) which begin early in our lives. Any young person would recover from such trauma spontaneously by use of the natural process of emotional release ( crying, trembling, raging, laughing, etc.). However, this natural process is usually interfered with by well-meaning people ( "Don't cry," "Be a big boy," etc.) who mistakingly equate the emotional release( the healing of the hurt) with th hurt itself.

  12. Jane C says:

    Ben, as I sit here & see the morning newspaper, I wonder why your message isn't written on the front page of every news? Thank you, your words are beautifully said, simple and so true.
    Sending healing thoughts to the world… Jane

  13. Joe Sparks says:

    Now we are slowly realizing the importance of feelings. Almost all humans who are born have a back log of surpressed emotions. If we start building communities of listening partnerships we can heal from these past hurts. There is not enough of Ben's to go around. We need each other, now more than ever!. Healing from trauma could be resolved completely,if we really slow down and listen. We need to listen to our children from the moment they are born, and allow them to heal themselves by showing/ releasing their feelings, we can start to heal the planet if we do not interfer with the natural healing processes. This is where I think the next evolutionary leap will take place in human consciousness.

  14. Samira says:

    Thank you so much Ben! So relevant to the conversation I had today with a young person.
    Blessings
    Samira

  15. Atalwin says:

    Damn, the video got stuck at 4.23 and I am stuck so I need to hear what you have to say! I got dumped today and I feel heartbroken!

    It was nice to see the face and hear the voice that's behind the messages I have been receiving. Thank you for your existence, my fellow Warrior Brother.

    On a practical note: if you are filming this with your phone, try keeping the phone horizontal. I got this advice from a video professional. It will create a more natural frame. :)

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  21. James says:

    Thank you, Ben! Very helpful advice.
    In addition, the combination of your voice and your footsteps on the Earth is very soothing. Made for a great meditation!

  22. Joanna says:

    I just found this video tonight and I wish I'd seen it earlier. I didn't realise I had locked away my emotions all this time from fear but actually it makes sense now. I went through a very traumatic relationship end and instead of acknowledging that it was awful, I just thought, 'Whatever.' I didn't feel that way though and in the last few years since I've been completely emotionally frozen and numb, just like you have described. In fact, after it ended I felt like I needed to learn a few lessons about life, so I took a vow of abstinence for one year to 'clear my head.' That one year turned into 4 years, sadly, but more troublingly, I've been telling myself that I don't care about that stuff anymore, I can just be alone, I've got better things to do. I've been punishing myself without acknowledging my extreme fear (no wonder my eyes well up slightly whenever I think of my heart!) Anyway, this video has been a major revelation for me, so thanks for making it.

  23. Stephen says:

    Ben HI I have a question. How do you heal secondary gain. Thanks Stephen

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