Are You In Control of Your Life…. Or Is Time?

Via Jennifer K. Jones
on Oct 17, 2010
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Lately, I’ve been very aware of my relationship with time. This ever-present, sometimes all consuming constant in life – daunting, welcoming and everything in between.

When life’s hectic schedules are permitted to overtake our attention, time seems to move at a much different speed that when we anxiously await news or an event. Some days seem to fit into just a couple hours while others drag on for a lifetime.  Regardless, on either end of the spectrum, most people struggle with this personal relationship with time. So, what really dictates the amount of time that we have in our day?

We logically know that time moves at constant, uniform increments, however, it’s our perception of time that changes – A function of our mindfulness.  So, to an extent, we are in control of the breadth of our time.

Slightly empowering, isn’t it?

This is practice that I often use to remind myself of this power within myself. Most of us have a cheap clock or watch that ‘ticks’.  Almost every clock in my house has a very audible sound.  I put myself in a quiet place with a clock and meditate on the sound of the seconds as they appear and disappear.  I get acquainted with them, play with them, and attempt at altering increments in between, longer and shorter, depending on my concentration (and yes, it works). Then, while still holding on to that awareness and power, I venture back out into the world.

I feel like I’m paying homage to, or agreeing to peacefully co-exist with, this ruling force of our modern world. I think to myself, ‘I understand that time must pass, however, I am wielding my ability to control how I perceive and utilize this constant, dynamic aspect of life.’

This exercise also instills in me a sense of respect and appreciation for the ephemeral nature of life. Every ‘tick’ of the clock represents a moment pregnant with possibilities and every pause before the next signifies that it’s gone forever… and yet another moment to savor at its heels.

We may have many ‘ticks’ in this lifetime but how many are you willing to waste in a mindless, autopilot existence?

When this idea is taken to a larger scope, beyond increments of seconds, it is blatantly obvious how habits and cycles control whole aspects of our day-to-day lives.  We simply surrender to time and allow auto-pilot to take control.  To different degrees, these habits and cyclical reoccurrences become more of an exercise in insanity than an actual mindful existence.

I know that this is all old news.  We are inundated with ‘mindful living’ prompts but, because we’re still so busy thinking about tomorrow, reminders are generally welcomed.

We are all armed with the tools, it’s just a matter of remembering to use them.

Just, yet another, loving reminder.

Who is in control of your life?


About Jennifer K. Jones

Jennifer K. Jones is the owner of a multi-media marketing firm, yoga instructor and practitioner, holistic health practitioner, writer and artist. She is the mother of three incredible little boys & an amazing baby girl, all of whom will hopefully grow up to live their passions with gratitude, radiate and spread pure, unconditional love to every being that they encounter, and thrive within the vast openness of their wildest dreams... and Jennifer is striving daily to lead them by example. Contact Jennifer at her website.


9 Responses to “Are You In Control of Your Life…. Or Is Time?”

  1. Love these thoughts, Jennifer, especially the idea of meditating on the tick-tocks of your clocks. It reminded me of this poem I once wrote with a similar theme:

    Each Moment is Like a Precious Diamond

    Bob W.

  2. Lynn Hasselberger says:

    wonderful poem, Bob! Just shared on twitter 🙂

  3. Lynn Hasselberger says:

    Always love to read your posts, Jennifer. I'm constantly struggling with my perception of time–do I have enough to read, write, do everything I want to do PLUS fit in the mundane things like laundry, blah blah blah. This one in particular hit home. Cheers!

  4. JenniferKH says:

    Much gratitude for the kind words, Bob.

    Your poem is fantastic. Thank you so much for sharing!

  5. JenniferKH says:

    Thank you very much, Lynn. We all share those same struggles. I get most frustrated when I don't have the time to do my time meditations! I hope, with practice, to finally become completely unconcerned with time when I am able to mindfully exist with my own sense of a second, minute, hour, and day.

  6. JenniferKH says:

    Thank you, as always, Dylan, for your kind comments.

  7. Don says:

    What a great article! I especially like the playing with the intervals between seconds. It does demonstrate our ability to "control the seemingly uncontrollable". 🙂 I've recently started walking for exercise and occasionally struggle with the time it takes to walk, as opposed to jogging or running the same distance. This definitely gives me a good exercise to think about during my moving meditation time.

    Thanks and namaste!

  8. JenniferKH says:

    Thank you, Don. Namaste.

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