Catching Thoughts: Yes Massa

Via Celia Aurora de Blas
on Jan 2, 2011
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We’ve all had those people and those situations that compel us to keep going back for more even when we know it’s not right. Why is it I keep drawing the same kinds of relationships to me over and over and over again? It’s cause of one reason…



About Celia Aurora de Blas

Celia Aurora de Blas is an Actress, Producer and Yoga Nidra teacher in Los Angeles. By being honest and public about her path in changing herself, she intends to help others by example. "Change is challenging, but it helps when we see others do what we're trying to do. It makes it less scary."


7 Responses to “Catching Thoughts: Yes Massa”

  1. Jay says:

    I can go along with that…

    As far as a person having a relationship with someone that has a habit that is not complimentary to their health, I would say maybe the guy didn't smoke when the began the relationship. If that is not the case, then maybe the girl found something within this guy that made her happy…so she is/was willing to tolerate the smoking habit.

    So, what if you are right? What if we have certain relationships…and within those relationships we want to control the adversary. What if we want to somehow find a way to manipulate the person/persons that cause havoc in our lives…so that whatever the rival may be/do…we can control it? If that is the case, then I would have to agree with you: if I can realize that I am not able to control anything outside of myself, then I can begin turning inward to determine the action that I can take to cease the "inner fire".

    What do you think?

  2. fluffy says:

    I`m having a few situations myself with this at the moment – or it`s coming to the forefront… my feeling was you can`t control what happens, only how you RESPOND to it – I had a really good positive day, despite challenges in my life – and really was `vibrating on a good level` when 3 situations arose in one day to challenge me…
    result? I couldnt get to sleep, woke very early and now read this…
    now I believe that if you think good things – good things come…so these 3 events must have been `sent ` to test my strength/communication /confidence /boundaries… but I just feel negative and tired – equals fail equals…feel even worse ?
    Ive had a tough year /(life) ! and I had good sleep and felt vaguely physically ok – I thought about how I could attain and maintain health – small steps and set boundaries for myself – to look after myself – felt positive…
    then tested and failed – how can I make a start? I need to feel secure to not care what people think of me – I know! Or do I need to be more vocal, stick up for myself – say `no, actually – I take no responsibility for someone elses actions` ?
    oh Im rambling! anyway…Namaste! Thanks for posting…

  3. angie says:

    I feel we draw the same relationships to us because they are familiar to us, we started with one, tried to control it, gain from it what we were searching for, if we could control it-"fix" it, then we would feel loved, whole. when the first relationship came and went, we didn't realize initially what it was we were searching for and so the pattern began…and continued. until one day we are sitting online, reading a book, or speaking to friends about why we have this need for control and drawing these people to us habitually. the answer of course lies within us. maybe something that happened to us when we were young left a void that we try to fill when we are adults. nonetheless, it is all about awareness of our thoughts, our speech, our actions. you have to be able to end relationships that are not healthy for you. control is just another way of saying you want to change someone and it comes from a place of fear. if you are feeling that way maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship at all. time alone with intensive work on the self is extremely difficult, but key to healthy living.

  4. Aurora says:

    Oh Absolutely! We have so many teachers in so many forms. . We just have to know how to look and watch at what is going on instead of react. Thanks Kimberly!

  5. Aurora says:

    "you have to be able to end relationships that are not healthy for you."
    yeah, that's the hardest part. And,
    "time alone with intensive work on the self is extremely difficult, but key to healthy living. "
    Than you, Angie!

  6. Aurora says:

    No problem, Fluffy. I'm glad this caught you. I think you're right on about thinking good things. This does get challenging. I surely have a hard time with this sometimes too. It's really helpful to surround ourselves with people that we like and trust to help us up when we are low. Don't do it by yourself but like you said, make sure the boundaries in tact. You don't want others dirty laundry in there when you're healing. It just makes it harder…. thank you for this! -Aurora

  7. Aurora says:

    thanks for the response, Jay:) I think you are right that of course there are other things that make the relationship work between them. If there wasn't, it would be completely adversarial. I don't know their complete history. I do know that his habit was def not a new one….

    I'm actually curious to know what other options you were weighing. It sounds to me like there may have been some other theories tumbling around in there that you might have been considering…