Things that Cause Rape: Multiple-Choice.

Via Waylon Lewis
on Jun 9, 2011
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Amen, men and women. Listen up. What you really want isn’t sex, it’s love, and love can’t be forced. And before you roll your eyes, yes, love includes sex, especially when you’re young, and the high and rush and feeling of sex that you think you want comes full force when you’re both feeling the love. So hold your horses, cowboy, before you become someone you don’t want to be, and harm someone in the worst possible way. Remember: every girl is someone’s daughter, maybe sister. Be careful with young hearts, including your own.

And, as Daily What points out, if you chose any of the first three, click over then follow the link. Please note: the first comment after all the stats points out that times have changed, the stats reflect old studies. Check that link out, too.

Here’s a few resources I put together awhile back. Please add more in comments.


About Waylon Lewis

Waylon Lewis, founder of elephant magazine, now & host of Walk the Talk Show with Waylon Lewis, is a 1st generation American Buddhist “Dharma Brat." Voted #1 in U.S. on twitter for #green two years running, Changemaker & Eco Ambassador by Treehugger, Green Hero by Discovery’s Planet Green, Best (!) Shameless Self-Promoter at Westword's Web Awards, Prominent Buddhist by Shambhala Sun, & 100 Most Influential People in Health & Fitness 2011 by "Greatist", Waylon is a mediocre climber, lazy yogi, 365-day bicycle commuter & best friend to Redford (his rescue hound). His aim: to bring the good news re: "the mindful life" beyond the choir & to all those who didn't know they gave a care. | His first book, Things I would like to do with You, is now available.


7 Responses to “Things that Cause Rape: Multiple-Choice.”

  1. Samuel says:

    Inspiring,those who are wise will really pick the points out.
    Say no and stay safe.

  2. elephantjournal says:

    From our friend Rachel

    Thank you so much for helping to raise awareness, Way. This is such an important issue to bring to light. One crucial thing to add:

    If you or someone you know has been a victim of sexual assault, or if you have any questions at all, please don’t be afraid to ask for help. There are many confidential organizations and resources out there to support you. You are NOT alone.

    The Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network: For Definitions, Statistics, DNA and Resources,

    The National Sexual Violence Resource Center,

    The National Center for Victims of Crime,

    The National Organization for Victim Assistance,

    Speaking Out Against Rape,

    Gift from Within: PTSD Resources for Survivors and Caregivers,

    Abuse Consultants,

    GirlThrive: A website for all teen girls and young women who have experienced sexual abuse, or who know someone who is a survivor, or who just want to know the truth about sexual abuse,

    Truth About Rape: Aims to challenge myths about rape, and bring the truth and realities of rape back onto the public agenda,

  3. Elijah says:

    And every boy is somebody's son, and EVERYBODY's brother! Om Namah Siva!

  4. Beth says:

    I love that photo and your enthusiastic support of it!

    Another resource:

    http://ifshecryout/ – reflections on pop culture, social issues, religion, ethics, and of course rape, from the point of view of survivors of rape and other serious crimes. Also contains articles on survivor inspired and initiated social action and activism.

  5. Moi... says:

    I've heard countless guys bring up reasons, in casual conversation, why it would be okay to give her "what she wants". Because guys assume that if a girl is being flirty or if she acted like she wanted it, that a "no" is really code for a "yes." Especially when drinking is involved. I think it's safe to say they don't know what rape or assault feels like, but they know better. They know they wouldn't want to be forced into a sexual act. And as the victim of many counts of sexual abuse, I can say that alcohol makes it harder to say no (and really to speak at all), that saying no in any circumstance isn't always the easiest thing, but a lack of a yes should be enough. If I don't consent, I shouldn't have to be forced into consent. And the way *I* or any girl dresses or behaves should NOT be an excuse to force sex or anything of the sort. YES, it can be confusing if a woman is wildly flirtatious or dresses in a way that may communicate 'sex', but that does not = consent and is an illogical thought process. Women should not be shamed for the way they choose to dress, or who they choose to share their body with. And most definitely, when a woman IS abused, she should NOT be made to feel like the bad guy or taught how she could have prevented it/how she was responsible.

    Thank you for sharing this photo and your article.

  6. Sherry says:

    That is the best sign EVER. Thank you for sharing this. I am so sick of the "well look at what she was wearing" argument.

  7. Sue says:

    Thank you for this Waylon! It inspired me to write my shortest and maybe most powerful post ever!