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I was the type of person who would immediately dose up on pain killers at the first sign of a headache. But when I became pregnant, I knew that I wanted to have an â€śall naturalâ€ť birth without any drugs or interventions. How could I possibly prepare for such a thing?
I mean, I was headed toward the most physically intense experience of my life and I couldnâ€™t even handle a little headache! I watched â€śBirth As We Know
Itâ€ť and â€śOrgasmic Birthâ€ť (both excellent films), and read â€śBirthing From Withinâ€ť from cover to cover. These things were very inspiring, but I knew that in the heat of the moment, there was no way that Iâ€™d be thinking about that â€śinspirational thing I read about inner strength that one time.â€ť
At some point I realized that there was actually nothing I could do to make myself have an ideal birthing experience. Everybodyâ€™s birth is different, and you canâ€™t know beforehand how it will all unfold. I realized that I would have to learn how to be ok with whatever happened, even if it happened in an unexpected way. I started practicing being okay with THIS MOMENT, in every new moment (without a story about what happened before and what might/should happen next). I just kept noticing my body sensations, what I was hearing/seeing, etc. without focusing on my thoughts about any of it. And something awesome began to happen. I noticed that my experience of reality was largely based upon my interpretations of what was actually happening.
For example: In the past when I would get a headache, I would immediately start thinking something like â€śOh no! This is a headache and it is gonna suck!â€ť. But I noticed that without that description, there was just the sensation in THAT MOMENT, and it changed from moment to moment. When I started to think â€śThis is pain, and pain is BAD!â€ť, I would start to tense up my body and mind, and THAT was what actually made the experience so horrific. Without the story, it was just a squeezing sensation, and eventually it passed.
Ok, sure. But can that really work during CHILDBIRTH?
Yes! But you might have to practice it a lot beforehand for it to become second-nature. All throughout the last couple months of my pregnancy, I spent
most of my time noticing my body sensations and what I was hearing/seeing/experiencing, and noticing that my thoughts about all of this profoundly altered my experience of it. I practiced being aware in every new moment that I remembered that I could. I had no real background in meditation, but I have come to understand that this is what I was doing. I was basically meditating for 2 months.
So when the time came to give birth, I felt a calmness and a trust in my body. I experienced every intense sensation that came along with labor, without a story of â€śpainâ€ť or â€śsufferingâ€ť. And thus, I did not experience any of it as pain or suffering! I went into a deep trance, and envisioned being in a cave with drums beating. I felt a powerful spiraling energy moving through me, and I trusted that it knew what to do. All I had to do was to let it move through me, without tensing up or trying to stop it.
A â€ścontractionâ€ť is that intense spiraling energy pushing through you, and people experience it as pain when they try to fight against it by clenching down on it or â€śbeing toughâ€ť to get through it. It is like huge waves in an ocean, and you can either try to fight them (and lose), try to ignore them (and they will hit you anyway), or you can RIDE them!
I was surprised to find that I didnâ€™t need all the hysterical screaming like you see in movies. I made some low groaning noises when I felt moved to, as the energy was moving through me. Much of the time I remained silent. The midwife said that she couldnâ€™t remember the last time sheâ€™d seen a woman with such focus during labor. To me, it felt effortless because I was not DOING something extra; I was merely letting myself have the experience. At one point I made a noise and she said something like â€śwas that a contraction?â€ť. Her speaking brought me out of the trance and I realized that perhaps I should let everyone know that I had already gone into the final (pushing) phase some time ago. My nurse, midwife, and husband all swooped over as soon as I told them. I thought it was funny because I felt like their presence was totally unnecessary. I was doing fine on my own, and feeling powerfully awesome. Moments later, little Ariana burst into the world.
Later, I realized that just because I had already gone through the intensity of labor did not mean that I had to stop using this meditation practice. Now, when I am experiencing each new moment, and noticing how my thoughts change my experience of it, I have so much more enjoyment from life. Some people have esteemed gurus as their â€śspiritual teachers.â€ť I had pregnancy as mine.
Tikva Adler spends 100% of her time with her guru (her baby daughter), and therefore her day generally revolves around chalk-drawing at the park, throwing rocks into the river, and flashing her boobs all over town (because she’s nursing). Â When the guru us asleep, Tikva paints.Â Â Because her brainÂ gives a lot of attention to mystical Judaism, environmentalism, and the â€śdivine feminineâ€ť, her artwork often takes on these themes. Â Check it out: Â http://www.etsy.com/shop/ShirChadash
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