December 3, 2011

December 3 – reverb11 – Anicca (Change)

What did you let go of this year? Whom did you let go?o

Anicca. Anicca. Anicca. Everything that arises passes away sooner or later. It’s a fact of life. You know it, I know it. And yet we so often want to deny the fact. Pretend like things can stay the same, relationships can stay the same, people don’t change, there is some semblance of sameness, of control. The sooner we can accept the reality of constant change, the better. Breathe it in. The present moment only lasts a moment. Change is the only constant. The only “stability” to be found is in change itself.


I lost Lucy on March 27. It was the worst day of my year and one of the hardest of my life. Yet, the moment of despair was also a moment of epiphany. In an instant, she was gone forever, but (once the initial shock passed), as long as I was present, I could sense Lucy’s sweet loyalty and undying devotion. Tangibly. In my heart. And I still can. And I always will.

“When the heart truly understands, it lets go of everything.” ~ Ajahn Chah

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Doe Dec 5, 2011 11:06am

Since my word was grief and my theme is loss, there are has been much letting go this year..most of it not of my own choosing.
I visited Badrinath this year, the temple of liberation in India. Moksha. Release. and here I did finally release quite a bit. None of it I was prepared it release, I was willing to hold on to it forever, but it released it self from me. The angry grief made room for loving grief, for sadness instead of anger, for appreciation instead of more anger. I was blessed to be in that space at that time. Letting go was not easy, but worth it.

Kate Bartolotta Dec 4, 2011 1:33pm

Sad and beautiful Michelle! I lost my "Lucy" (12 yr. old cat) about a month ago. Losing pets is so hard!

I think letting go of control and letting go of attachment have been big for me this year. They are illusions anyway, but it is so hard not to hold tight to them sometimes. And letting go of them allows things that aren't supposed to be in my life to float away like the little girl's kite, and beautiful new things in that maybe I was holding at bay.

Life is an ocean. Things fall apart and come together. They swell like the crest of a wave, they crash, they wash away again. Trying to hold on to the illusion of control is like trying to contain the ocean in a pail. We can only sail when we let go.

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Michelle Margaret is a heart-centered writer, teacher and creator of Yoga Freedom.

She has been a columnist on Elephant Journal since 2010 and has self-published inspiring books. She incorporates dharma, hatha, yin, mindfulness, chakras, chanting and pranayama into her teachings and practice. A former advertising copywriter and elementary school teacher, she is now a freelance writer and translator. Michelle learned yoga from a book at age 12 and started teaching at 22. She met the Buddha in California at 23 and has been a student of the dharma ever since. Michelle is now approaching her forties with grace and gratitude.

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