Be Who You Are!

Via Maureen Miller
on Jan 23, 2012
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Dr. Seuss said, “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”

I’ve written about authenticity before and the topic came up again a couple of weeks ago during week one of the most recent Yoga & Wellness session that I am facilitating. The word/concept inevitably comes up when we are talking about core values, beliefs and living yoga on and off the mat.

So, that led to my posting the Dr. Seuss quote yesterday morning on my Living Life, Making Choices Facebook page (if you haven’t ‘liked’ it yet – you can take care of that today – check it off your list 🙂) and then the topic of ‘keeping it real’ arose again when I spent time with a good friend yesterday. Where is this leading me, you might ask? I’m not sure – I don’t really have a detailed, thoughtful post here, but feel that it’s important to trust my instincts that someone needs this message today.

So, I’ll keep going with the flow…. I’ve been thinking about how even when authenticity is one of our core values – it can be challenging to be real all the time. I pride myself upon being authentic and truthful. I do, however, find myself thinking carefully about how I word things when I am delivering a message that I think might disappoint someone. My friend reminded me of the importance of Dr. Seuss’ words…. if someone ‘minds’ my truth – and/or I find it difficult to deliver that truth, then I should ask myself how much it matters since I am not responding authentically.

This is not new information to me – I know this – I practice this in my life pretty regularly, so what does it mean when I find myself spending too much time thinking about how to word something …. nothing, really – just a gentle reminder. No judgment of self, no harsh words/thoughts about others… just a gentle reminder. Those who matter – they really won’t mind. So say what you want to say.

Then I think – well this might not be realistic for us to do with everyone in our lives 24/7. So if we think about times when there is someone who we can’t say ‘it’ to, we can consider if anything needs to be said at all because most times – it doesn’t. Pay attention and you’ll be surprised how many times you feel like you REALLY need to say something and when you think about it, you really don’t.

Thanks to my friend, Tee – for her wise words and to my friend, Linda for the beautiful photo in this post – from the North Country of New Hampshire! And thank you, readers, for accepting this post as is…. usually I take more time and edit, edit away, but this one – I want it to be as it is. Thanks for not minding!


About Maureen Miller

Maureen is a yoga teacher, life/health coach and an aspiring writer. She teaches yoga and leads a yoga teacher training/develop your yoga practice program for students who want to learn more about integrating the body, mind and spirit. Maureen believes when we find balance in all areas of our lives, we live in alignment with our core values and we can live a life filled with intention and purpose.  As a yoga teacher and life/health coach, it is her intention to be with students/coaches on their journey as they investigate decisions that brought them to where they are today, examine options toward change and make choices to break through current challenges.  You can find Maureen on Facebook, Twitter and at her website: Living Life, Making Choices.


5 Responses to “Be Who You Are!”

  1. Dianne says:

    I agree that you don't always have to say what is on your mind. Often people will react to what you say not based on the words that you said, but rather based on some feeling tied to something in their past that your words reminded them of.

    Sometimes your authentic self doesn't get through because the person you are interacting with "reacts" instead of "responds." Often a genuine smile and patience are enough. Things end up working out as they should

  2. Maureen Miller says:

    Thanks, Dianne. It took me a while to learn that – I use to be the person who reacted – often negatively or judging. Awareness and yoga helped! Peace.

  3. Ben_Ralston says:

    No editing needed. None whatsoever.

    Whilst reading most of the post – about speaking your mind, being authentic, keeping it real – I was thinking 'Yes, but what about balancing truthfulness with compassion / non-violence". Your point about simply deciding not to say *anything* in certain situations is a great one, and I hadn't really considered it before!

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