Thigh Friendship.

Via Kate Bartolotta
on Jun 27, 2012
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{In Celtic times, the female warriors would grant their male colleagues “the friendship of the thighs” as a way of making peace. They would set aside their weapons and war making and just be man and woman. Beyond god and goddess, before sacred or divine—we are human, first. Beyond the “war between the sexes” there are small countries where we come together and call a truce.}

 Thigh Friendship

We are in the in-between country;

we are at war.

The feel of your hairy knees

behind my smooth ones

comforts me—and you know this,

you use this.

It’s your last defense.

But I don’t want your comfort.

I want to play with my anger a little more.

I’m not ready to set it down.

I am not sacred;

I can’t be a goddess.

I am a warrior.

(I am tired of being at war with you.)

In the space between anger

and lust there’s a gap,

a place where we are both human.

Forget divine and sacred and psychobabble bullshit.

There’s a place where I can write whole novels

about the scent of your skin.

There’s a place where no one is on a pedestal.

It’s not in that field beyond rightdoing or wrongdoing or whatever that was.

It’s in the small of my back.

It’s in the curve of your jaw.

It’s in the late afternoon when we should be at work.

It’s the last light of day falling across my skin through the window

as I arch my back and rise to meet you.

Words fall away.

There’s a place where I can forget how angry I am

and stop warring with you for a minute

or two or twenty

or an afternoon.

I can’t be a goddess

(and I don’t want to).

But I can tuck you into me

and we can rock each other to sleep.


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About Kate Bartolotta

Kate Bartolotta is a wellness cheerleader, yogini storyteller, and self-care maven. She also writes for Huffington Post, Yoga International, Mantra Yoga+ Health, a beauty full mind, The Good Men Project, The Green Divas, The Body Project, Project Eve, Thought Catalog and Soulseeds. Kate's books are now available on and Barnes & She is passionate about helping people fall in love with their lives. You can connect with Kate on Facebook and Instagram.


17 Responses to “Thigh Friendship.”

  1. Brilliant. Scrumptious. YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks for putting things into perspective, dear Kate, thank you.

  2. jhepstein says:

    oh fuck that's good.

  3. GinaEngels says:

    woooaaah, damn. that's it right there.

  4. Jess Avila says:


  5. Craig says:

    HA HA ONLY problem in Celtic times BOTH women and men had hairy legs and other body parts:)

  6. MarLynn says:

    Wow… E.L. James ain't got nothing on you girl!

  7. Aww thanks! E.L. James…ehh…glad she got women talking…not a fan myself.

  8. Delicious reminder of the sweetness of this flesh, the power of the ordinary and the glory of being human. (but hey, I'm still a goddess. too 🙂 (LOL…should I duck?)

  9. Go for it, goddess. I'll leave that part to you!

  10. Eric says:

    Aw, Kate. I thought it read "Thai Friendship" 🙂

    "Out beyond ideas of rightdoing and wrongdoing there is a field. I will meet you there for Pad Thai and we will get buck-nekked and frolic…watch out for thistles if yer hirsute…"

  11. hahahahha! Pad Thai sharing post thigh friendship is the only way to go!

  12. johnbrier says:

    I enjoyed this. I actually think that within sex is the possibility of leaving behind the ego and entering the divine, so I don't try to forget it, because that is it. I wonder if when you say forget the bullshit, you're forgetting the what the ego has attached to the divine.. but the divine isn't anything that can be defined. 😀