What is an Awakening Man? ~ Jeff Brown

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There is a Newly Awake Man emerging in the collective and he is not fast asleep at the steering wheel.

This awakening man is conscious and heartfully defined. Through his eyes, being conscious is not a cerebral construct, nor an intellectual exercise bereft of feeling. It is a felt experience, an ever-expanding awareness that moves from the heart outward.

It is feeling God, not thinking God.

The new man is always in process, awakening through a deepening interface with the world of feeling. He continues to strive for a more heartfelt and inclusive awareness.

The awakening man has shifted his focus from a localized and ethnocentric perspective to a world-centric framework of perception. His community is humanity. Rooted in the relational, his sense of responsibility extends well beyond his localized self and community. Where possible, his choice-making is fuelled by an expansive vision of possibility for all of humankind. Not every man for himself, but every man for humanity.

The awakening man has reverence for the divine feminine, in all her forms. He celebrates the wonder that is woman. He is respectful, honouring and gracious. He is saddened by the horrors perpetuated against women by the malevolent masculine. He holds his brothers accountable. He makes amends for his own misdeeds. He co-creates a world where all women will feel safe to move about freely, to find their voice, to actualize their inherent magnificence. He welcomes a world where women and men stand as equal partners. Humankind.

The awakening man is not externally derived. He is authentically sourced. He does not compare himself to others. He does not adapt his personality to the dictates of the crowd. He stands in his own centre, respectful of others but not defined by them. He works diligently to liberate his consciousness from the egoic ties that bind. He has become his own benchmark, valuing authenticity over image. He is the sculptor of his own reality.

The awakening man courageously works on his emotional processes. He clears his emotional debris and sheds his armour. He faces his issues and unconscious patterns heart on. He calls himself on his self-avoidant tendencies and honours the wisdom at the heart of his pain. He communicates his feelings in a way that is respectful to others. He learns and speaks the language of the heart.

The awakening man leads a purpose-full existence. He has heard the call to a deeper life. Not satisfied with survival alone, his ambitions are rooted in higher considerations- the excavation and actualization of his sacred purpose. He is energized by his purpose, not by the machinations of the unhealthy ego. He is coated in an authenticity of purpose that sees through the veils to what really matters. His purpose is his path.

The awakening man is accountable for his actions and their effects. He does not deflect responsibility. He does not sidestep or blame. He is self-admitting and emotionally honest. He admits his errors, and makes amends. He works diligently in the deep within, crafting a more clarified awareness with every lesson.

The awakening man moves from the inside out. More interested in inner expansion than outer achievement, he cultivates and honours his intuition. He explores and develops his inner geography. He adventures deep within, integrating the treasures he excavates into his way of being. He seeks congruity between his inner life and his outer manifestation.

The awakening man seeks wholeness. He is not satisfied with a fragmented way of being. He has no attachment to archaic, linear notions of masculinity. He seeks a sacred balance between the healthy masculine and the healthy feminine. He seeks an inclusive way of being, one that reflects all of his archetypal aspects. He is role flexible, comfortable moving through life in many different ways.

The awakening man embodies the highest standard of integrity in his words and deeds. He makes a sustained effort to work through anything that is not integrity within him. His framework of integrity is never convenient or self-serving. He honours his word, even at his own expense. He moves from a value system that is unwaveringly incorruptible. He recognizes that success without integrity is karmically unsound and meaningless.

The awakening man prioritizes conscious relationship. He values authentic co-creation. He honours relationship as spiritual practice. He seeks physical intimacy that is deeply vulnerable and heartfully connective. He is attuned, engaged and healthily boundaried. When relational challenges arise, he courageously works through any obstructions to intimacy. He stands in the heartfire.

The awakening man is a warrior of the heart. He has taken his clarifying sword inward, cutting away everything that is not compassionate. After too many lifetimes with weapon in hand, a benevolent warrior is being birthed at the core of his being. He honours the warrior capacity for assertiveness, but he is not arbitrarily aggressive. He moves from love and compassion.

The awakening man endeavours to live in a state of perpetual gratitude. He is grateful for the gift of life. He is grateful for those ancestors who built the foundation that his expansion relies upon. He is grateful for those who encouraged him before he could encourage himself. He is grateful for those who stand beside him in this lifetime. He knows that he does not stand alone.

The awakening man is comfortable in his vulnerability. He participates in his own revealing. He is not afraid to surrender—to reality, to love, to truth. This is not a weakened form of surrender, but one that is emblazoned with courage. It takes more courage to surrender than to numb. He openly explores his capacities for receptivity and tenderness. He does not identify these capacities as distinctly feminine, but as whole human. He is strong enough at the core to live in a vast array of emotions.

The awakening man moves through the marketplace responsibly, with a vigilant eye to the ways of the unhealthy ego. He is not opportunistic in a vacuum. He does not compete for competition’s sake. He does not accumulate for the sake of accumulation. In charting his course, he is mindful of his impact on humanity. He is empowered but he does not exploit power. He derives his power from his connection to source, not from power over others. Where possible, he shares the abundance, gifting back to humanity. He works hard to bridge the world as it is with a world of divine possibility.

The awakening man has reverence for Mother Earth. He has reverence for animals. He never imagines himself superior or distinct from the natural world. He understands the interconnected and interdependent nature of reality. He knows that if he does damage to the environment, he does damage to himself. He walks carefully, with awareness, consciousness and appreciation.

The awakening man has no claims on God. His spirituality is tolerant, inclusive, respectful. He honours all paths to God, so long they are respectful of others. He accepts those who believe, and those who don’t. He condemns any path that uses religious differences as a justification for destruction.

The awakening man brings forward many of the qualities of the healthy masculine of old. He is noble. He is responsible. He is productive. He is kind-hearted. He is protective. He is unswervingly honourable. He is down to earth. He is sturdy. He is flexible. He is realistic. He is hopeful. He is sensitive, not fragile. He is healthily egoic, not self-centred. He is both practical and heightened at the same time. He ascends with both feet on the ground. He is really here.



A Call to the Sacred Masculine

Ecstasy With Nature: She is Awakening

A Call to the Divine Feminine

A former criminal lawyer and psychotherapist, Jeff Brown is the author of “Soulshaping: A Journey of Self-Creation,” and the soon to be released “Ascending with Both Feet on the Ground”. Endorsed by authors Elizabeth Lesser, Oriah Mountain Dreamer and Katherine Woodward Thomas, “Ascending” is a collection of Jeff’s most popular spiritual graffiti—quotes, soul-bytes and aphorisms frequently shared in social media. He is also the author of “Apologies to the Divine Feminine (from a warrior in transition)”. You can connect with his work at www.soulshaping.com.


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anonymous Oct 27, 2015 12:53am

I just survived a trip through the harsh gauntlet of life. I emerged a changed man. I didn’t know many of the things I have been feeling were shared philosophies. I didn’t know how to articulate my feelings and how to research them. This article spoke it for me. With the possible exception of the religious components, this is who I want to be. It’s who I am becoming. Thank you for being my voice.

anonymous Feb 28, 2015 2:53pm

So many rules of awakening

anonymous Feb 21, 2015 12:19pm

Though it’s so weird for a man to cry, but this article has deeply penetrated into my soul, my mind, my spirit, and my entire body like a lightning strike, and tears of joy are just flowing down, looking at the earth a paradise that each individual of its inhabitants shares his responsibility to contribute to make this world a better world, where history will witness.

One Faith/Devotion; One Heart; One World !!!
Together, We Change the World !!!

anonymous Feb 20, 2015 8:08am

A lovely and balanced article, Jeff. Ultimately, I believe there is no male or female gemder but we have to play these roles while we are here so why not play them respectfully.

anonymous Jan 22, 2015 2:44pm

it says 'AWAKEN-ING'

anonymous Jan 11, 2015 7:36pm

Awakening Man and Woman…One in the same? Beautifully written!

anonymous Jan 3, 2015 4:41am

How can we help a man to be interested in awakening? It is hard to live with an unawakened and pride for it man whilst being on the beautiful journey of awakening myself…
Jeff, any ideas?

anonymous Oct 12, 2014 2:48pm

On masculinity:
An awakening man is growing, changing, failing, staggering down then up, asking for help from his brothers and uncles and grand/fathers/mothers along the way. He feels his pride, struggles with it, and then eventually steps beyond it/ gets help to step beyond it to REALLY expand to the next level he can. He learns that by working interdependently, he can achieve and progress to legendary heights, bringing his tribe along with him on the joint journey.

An awakening man has growing reverence for the divine masculine in himself, in men around him, and in women around him. He does not allow that masculinity to be degraded in any way… as we heal from patriarchy, and from the ensuing cultural pendulum swings that denegrates masculinity, an awakening man includes masculinity in the protection of his quiet, solid, maybe fierce assertions… that both femininity and masculinity honor, appreciate and even revere *each other*. He is a fierce defender and protector of sacred polar energies. He knows that polarities enhance soul-unions.

anonymous Oct 12, 2014 5:37am

As always, Jeff–great stuff … gives me hope!

anonymous Sep 7, 2014 3:32pm

WOW, once I stopped crying and breathed this all in, my heart exploded with gratitude for such an enlightened piece of writing. Thank you.

anonymous Jul 15, 2014 12:47am

I like the sound of this awakening man concept!

anonymous Jul 14, 2014 2:11pm

That is a great article Jeff! Really great. I think it's fantastic that you are helping to develop space and awareness for the "awakening man". Having had time to reflect on your own article, what changes would you make to it if you were to write the article today? Do you think there is room in to celebrate the masculine a little more within the section/context that you celebrate the feminine? I'm looking forward to your response.

anonymous Jul 7, 2014 4:45am

Love this Jeff, what comes up for me is also expressing how difficult and challenging it as a man to step into this aspect of being and how vulnerability is our measure and friend, support through this transformation. I recently stepped out of a 6 year relationship with a magnificent women partner in crime and 6 month down the line I can see ive needed every experience and so to she, in order for me to strip away a few more layers so become what I know is possible beyond the many apsects you mention above, like conditionng and societies conforming and expectations of what a man is or isnt. I am for the first time feeling the sadness and anger more consciously and finding the ability to release the tears and cleanse. As you know its all beautiful, I just want to hihlight for other men reading this who are even new to some of the aspects of what you have written, thats is is not easy and bravery and courage are required. baby steps, its been 6 years birthing for me and continues, its the journey and intention and commitment to say no to what feels out of alignment and trust in the unknown, for this is the only place any knowing arises. Plenty of breathing deeply too!!!!

Lets set up another Simon on the Sofa on this topic.

anonymous Jul 6, 2014 3:08am

Thank you Jeff for an extraordinary posting. This is a path I have been following in an unconscious way for the last 3 years and it is only becoming clear to me recently. Thank you for the conscious awareness that will enable me to add to the direction! Steven

anonymous Jul 5, 2014 4:46pm

This post has single-handedly given me hope for the future. Blessings to you.

anonymous Jul 5, 2014 11:57am

wow…beautiful and moving…if only some of the "Yoga" men were actually about this and not FAUXGi ing their way through….

anonymous Jun 1, 2014 8:56am

There is a lot there, a lot to follow, a lot to sort out along the way; yet it's as simple as seeking/being 'Truth'.

anonymous Jan 31, 2014 2:31pm

Great post, The awakening man is connected to source, he knows he is from source, and that all things are just an illusion. He does not need to claim any rights, nor does he need to impose his ideologies onto another, for underneath it all he knows there is only truth, and love. Thank you for a great post!

anonymous Jan 30, 2014 11:32pm

This is the very finest, clearest article on the masculine I have read in the Elephant Journal. Absolutely beautiful in it simplicity and direct entrance to the heart of the matter…thank you.

anonymous Jan 30, 2014 9:13pm

Thank you for this incredibly beautiful and moving article Jeff. I'm sharing it with two of my most treasured guys in the world. May your returns be many, for the goodness you share.

anonymous Jun 16, 2013 10:39pm

Happy Father's Day, Awakening Men.

anonymous Apr 29, 2013 11:26am

Beautiful ideas, and I'm glad to see the topic addressed.
I find the webdesign distracting though. In particular: too many borders, "Reply" and "Report" button should be the same color (blue is standard), too much stuff in the sidebar and the sidebar should be on the right (we read right-left, easier to start at a clean line). "Yoga / Food / Love …" at the top of the article repeats what is at the top of the page. Also would appreciate the option to view elephantjournal articles in a printer-friendly manner.

anonymous Apr 27, 2013 9:07pm

Choices made that leave the Heart Beating with more peace IS the Peacfull path
Many speak of Love, but dont feel the Heart beat.. they are inacurate..
We shine Love, not absorb it
Love is an outward expression, Lust is an inward inclusion..
<3 Children should know this

anonymous Apr 27, 2013 9:04pm

Love is in the Heart. The Heart Beats..
Feel the Heart Beat, Feel the Love
Reality speaking

    anonymous Jun 1, 2014 8:54am

    Everything is made of energy, energy from the creator.

anonymous Apr 27, 2013 9:01pm

To Be Heartfelt, One must Be Heart Felt..
Feel the HeartBeat, Feel the Love
Then one knows

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anonymous Sep 17, 2012 6:58am

I agree Goddess Tenacity. It could easily be called The Awakening Human. I do wonder though, once we clear through all the perversions of polarity and fully embody the healthy masculine and healthy feminine, what the differences will be. Is gender something we will out grow- atleast in terms of behavioral differences- or will there still be a meaningful difference between us?

    anonymous Jun 1, 2014 8:52am

    We will never reach a perfect balance in varying areas of our life. The over abundance in a Male will carry over to the weaker part of the Female, and vice-verse to achieve balance. To properly procreate (without professional medical involvement) would also still require the two opposite sexes. We will always see behavioral differences as men have the warrior spirit and women have the nurturing spirit, both needed for survival and for ascending to a deeper level of understanding.

      anonymous Sep 11, 2014 6:04am

      I’d like to add that I have met many women with a strong warrior spirit and many men with a nurturing spirit. In fact in my life maybe due to my energy of attraction I often see the pattern I have mentioned more than men warriors and women nurturers. Which makes me think these things aren’t split amongst genders but really up to to an individual to see which one they want to embody. And what they do embody can often change and shift throughout life.

    anonymous Jul 13, 2014 11:40pm

    Yes. There will always be a meaningful behavioral difference. Two ready observations that can be observed every single day include: 1) People with high levels of testosterone will demonstrate behavioral characteristics different from people with low levels of testosterone. 2) Women will always have PMS and PMS leads to tangible behavioral effects … for many women.

    anonymous Sep 8, 2014 8:31am

    Indeed it can be applied to both genders, human consciousness. I believe in equality in every respect within relationship, if you seek awareness in another, its only fair they should receive it in connection to you. The conscious masculine has helped me heal trauma, enabled me to experience my desire and allow me to hold them in their own processes. I love this new experience of man now in my life. Liat

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anonymous Sep 16, 2012 4:11pm

Jeff I couldn't help but think that what you write here could be genderless?? I know I personally would like to embody all of these qualities not only as a woman/mother/sister/daughter/lover but also as an unabashed human being.


anonymous Sep 16, 2012 9:47am

Hi Jeff, Struggling to articulate how this has so deeply touched and moved me not because I am woman, your words speaks to the soul…feels a like a marriage to self, to source (no need for gender orientation) The possibility you present here is so powerful and utterly compelling about a Love (for self and another)that we have yet to experience…not sure if I am making any sense. Extraordinary depth in vulnerability and fearless to deeply connect – Shante Ishta.

anonymous Sep 14, 2012 4:05pm

Dear Jeff Brown,
This is truly a profound and moving piece. I saw myself in so many of your words and understand where I'm headed and who I'll ultimately become. My purpose IS my path, and reading these words brought me to a true vulnerable moment, giving the words even deeper meaning and comprehension of what lies within me.
Thank you for sharing your inspiration.
My very best wishes, to all of us,

anonymous Sep 14, 2012 10:39am

Made me cry. Thankyou, Jeff. Blessings on your journey.

anonymous Sep 13, 2012 8:47pm

Jeff, this article is so powerful! It is also so timely in my life as I just experienced something very unsavory involving a busload of senior high school football players, while I was with my youngest daughter, who is 12. I'm guessing this is public and available for us to copy and share? I would love to request that the football coach let me read this to the boys involved in the incident, or read it to them himself. I'd also share it with another all boy's school in Miami, where the boys do not honor girls, as I believe they should. I have 4 daughters, ages 12-22, so this in very dear to my heart. Thank you so much for writing this! I had not read it completely, only skimmed it, when I posted my previous comment, which in no way begins to express how valuable, articulate and profound this piece is. Much gratitude to you. I know your path as we are facebook friends and I follow your posts.

anonymous Sep 13, 2012 4:25pm

If we focused on this path- the inward path of awakening- we would never harm others.

anonymous Sep 13, 2012 4:18pm

Yes, Jeff!! Glad to see your article here! Some of my favorite reads and authors write for EJ!!

anonymous Sep 13, 2012 2:34pm

This is a beautiful outpouring here. SO appreciate the articulation of so many vital layers. I was just reading Alan Watts again today and felt it apropos…Nature, Man and Woman: "We do not know what man is so long as we know him piecemeal, categorically, as the separate individual, the agglomeration of blocklike instincts and passions and sensations regarded one by one under the fixed stare of an exclusive consciousness. What man is, and what human sexuality is, will come to be known as we lay ourselves open to experience with the full sensitivity of feeling which does not grasp. The experience of sexual love is therefore no longer to be sought as the repetition of a familiar ecstasy, prejudiced by the expectation of what we already know. It will be the exploration of our relationship with an ever-changing, ever unknown partner, unknown because he or she is not in truth the abstract role or person, the set of conditioned reflexes which society has imposed, the stereotyped male or female which education has led us to expect…" If anything, the awakening will strip us of those gender-based restrictions that inhibit our unfolding as the whole and holy humans we are and not necessarily into a level of gender-less experience but into a level of freedom in our expressions and expectations which may release what may be perceived as more potently masculine or feminine or… not. As diverse as we all are, this awakening will likely have only a few common defining traits. I suspect the main one is a freedom from the shackles both genders have worn for centuries and resulting joy.

    anonymous Jul 5, 2014 11:12pm

    That's very intriguing, is Nature, Man and Woman the name of the book that is quoted from? I would love to read it 🙂

anonymous Sep 13, 2012 10:06am

I do wonder, as I read over this piece, how different is the awakening masculine from the awakening feminine? As we bridge the gender-ation gap and reach the next stage in our collective unfolding, what will be the energetic, behavioral, emotional differences between the healthy masculine and the healthy feminine? And how will our shared evolution impact on our sexuality- where will the charge come from, if not our counter-balancing differences? Is gender just a way-station on our karmic quest for wholeness, or is it something else?

    anonymous May 13, 2014 9:15am

    I had some of the same wondering <3 I thank you deeply for your work……

    anonymous Jul 7, 2014 12:58am

    The soulness of each of us is the same, of the same fundamental "substance." That I know. What I do not know is how differences in bodiness and body identification must inevitably color the expression of our soulness. And I don't know whether those differences are completely unbridgeable. I think not — but that's just a theory.

    We may be writing the next chapter as we go, just as much as we are uncovering what's under the conditioning and wounding.

    What a ride!

    anonymous Apr 14, 2015 10:43pm

    Sciences says genetically, men are on the way out. (http://www.amazon.com/Adams-Curse-Future-without-Men/dp/0393326802)
    And since a man is born a woman then shuts down brain and body to transform as man. (https://youtu.be/z1Kdoja3hlk) I would suspect there may be times like the beehive. where winter comes and men are less needed. Unless we can create balance in all things to sustain the continued flow of All life.

    can you….
    Live past your Humanness, and into your Indigenousness.

    Do you know the difference?

    How would you call other men to live from the depths of their soul experience, aligned to their physical cellular material (technological recorder) Linage Memory?

    How do you call your ancestors forward to align to the present? Are you doing this already, or just following program?

    Do you know where you came from, and where, the intention of life = (soul + lineage) is taking you?

anonymous Sep 12, 2012 10:54pm

A wonderful vision. It is so interesting how the masculine and the feminine are coming together as one shared way of being as we move away from the polarities that have plagued us.

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Nathaniel B Kirby Oct 10, 2016 7:16pm

I am seeing this revolution from a slightly different perspective. I believe that ladies are leading the charge, and that gentlemen are as yet unaware. I was at a Together Tour (http://www.togetherlive.com/) event last week and the dearth of males was obvious. I believe that gentlemen will be following ladies into this revolution.

Nenad Djordjevic May 17, 2016 9:39am

We're here, armed and ready with undisputable intnetionality to help make everything better for everyone involved, starting with ourselves 1st. Onward and upward, brothers, buckle up, there's a whole world out there that longs to follow along the lines of our own liberation and deliverance ! Let's do what we can, to the best of our abilities. <3

Kiss My Wellness May 17, 2016 12:08am

I love your outlook on the powerfulness and awakening of men. It is beautiful, inspirational, and projects attractiveness through the ability of being human.

Larry Affelt May 16, 2016 1:57pm

Thank you Jeff, this really speaks to my heart. My life path has lead me to this kind, compassionate, and moral way of living and I am loving it and myself so much more than I ever have! I look farward to hearing more about this from you ...

Paul Randolph Newell May 16, 2016 12:27pm

WOW!!! Thank you so much for this Jeff! A new Man is emerging