The Day of the Girl?

Via Kate Bartolotta
on Oct 10, 2012
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Part of me loves the idea of The Day of the Girl.

For many young women, it’s a great time to be growing up.

For others, it’s difficult, even dangerous.

But sometimes I wonder if all these days that are set apart are one more way to avoid being unified. When we take a day to set a group of human beings apart, what keeps it from being another form of marginalization? If we truly want to bring equality, why not celebrate how we are connected instead of how we are separate? If we are constantly emphasizing the walls between us, we are missing out on where we could be building bridges.

In my heart, what I’d rather see is that every day, we honor each other, all of us, no one left out.

regardless of our gender

regardless of who or how we worship

regardless of who we love

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regardless of the color of our skin.

Instead of the day of the girl, the day of this the day of that… take a minute right now, where you are, for all of us. It doesn’t matter where you are, what day or time it is.

Loving kindness is for all of us—every single day.

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About Kate Bartolotta

Kate Bartolotta is a wellness cheerleader, yogini storyteller, and self-care maven. She also writes for Huffington Post, Yoga International, Mantra Yoga+ Health, a beauty full mind, The Good Men Project, The Green Divas, The Body Project, Project Eve, Thought Catalog and Soulseeds. Kate's books are now available on and Barnes & She is passionate about helping people fall in love with their lives. You can connect with Kate on Facebook and Instagram.


One Response to “The Day of the Girl?”

  1. Genna says:

    I've given this some thoughtful reflection, but I am still angered and saddened by this article. Of course, (especially on elephant journal?!), I would imagine that honoring each other's spirit and humanity is a core concept. Yes, I would like to be clear that I am in the "be kind to everyone" camp.

    But in a world where many, many girls are given in marriage by their families to an older man when they are still children, where girls have no option, in fact, our forbidden from attending school and getting an education that would blow wide open her opportunities for her life, where girl babies are still killed because they are less valuable than baby boys and where women and girls are treated by law as property there is a need for energy to help bring balance and equality. How can choosing to offer your voice and your support to those girls be viewed as wrong or a lesser spiritual concept? Here is a quote from the main site for the UN "Day of the Girl" movement:

    "The Day of the Girl is about highlighting, celebrating, discussing, and advancing girls lives and opportunities across the globe. When girls come together to talk about what really matters to us, we can teach other people–grownups, boys, girls all across the world – a new way of thinking about issues like gender stereotypes, discrimination, and opportunity. October 11 is not just a day but a movement. 10.11.12 is bigger than one issue, one organization, or even one country.

    This successful campaign to establish the United Nations International Day of the Girl was led in the US by School Girls Unite, an organization of students and young women leaders determined to advance the UN Millennium Development Goals related to gender equality and universal basic education, and other human rights issues. Our mission mirrors the United Nations General Assembly Resolution on the International Day of the Girl Child, approved on December 19, 2011:

    'To help galvanize worldwide enthusiasm for goals to better girls’ lives, providing an opportunity for them to show leadership and reach their full potential.'"

    Giving voice to the undeserved, undervalued and "voiceless" to help create change in the world doesn't take away from anyone. Elephant journal has clearly voiced approval and support for "gay marriage/marriage equality" in the past. Supporting the rights of the gay population to marry under the law doesn't take anything away from traditional marriage, right? Those who support marriage equality aren't saying that gay marriage is more important than traditional marriage, are they? Then how can choosing to give support and approval and voice to young girls around the world be wrong or, as implied in this article, a "less than/lower"spiritual impulse?

    The bottom line for me is that working for and supporting equal rights, equal pay and equal opportunity for women and girls is part of who I am. I know how the patriarchal value system and laws can be so integrated into a persons psyche and soul that it takes "a village" or a small miracle for that woman or girl to see a glimpse of hope that she can be more than what others decide she should be in life. And I support anyone who is working and sacrificing their "time, talent and treasure" to create a more equal and fair world. Doesn't have to be everyone's interest or fight, but that doesn't take away from the validity and importance of the need.