The Gift of Abandonment. ~ Jennifer Townsend

Via elephant journal
on Dec 13, 2012
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A mother can commit suicide.





Even if  her daughters are being sexually abused and desperately need her.








Even though their reluctant father, an alcoholic Vietnam War vet with PTSD, will drag them around to seedy bars until all hours of the night, and ultimately give them up for adoption.








Even though the well-intentioned relatives that eventually take them in will keep them at arm’s length, and care more for what the neighbors think than making emotional connections.


 But also:





People who are not blood-related can validate you in the most amazing way.












Parents of your friends can renew your faith in family,












put you on a spiritual path,












and plant seeds that will not only help you to survive, but thrive—









and come full circle to be the parent you always wanted, to your own children.








Click here for Part II…





Jennifer Townsend is Co-Chief of Clan Townsend, noted for its wee heathens and furry beasties. She is fond of saying “verra.” She is verra determined to visit Scotland (particularly Eilean Donan Castle). Finn Brothers’ music is good for her soul and she can be found most days editing articles for or blogging about her obsession with Jamie Fraser on her website or its corresponding Facebook page here.


Ed: Kate B.

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14 Responses to “The Gift of Abandonment. ~ Jennifer Townsend”

  1. kaycee says:

    Love you so. Powerful.

  2. Jackie says:

    WOW – that was so moving. I knew some of this story but not all. (((((HUGS)))))

  3. Nona says:

    Wow. Raw, honest, heartbreaking, and inspiring. ((((Hugs))))

  4. Anne Goshdigian says:

    Jenny, I don't know what to say…I've read this over three times in the past few minutes. and will surely be looking at it again. You are eloquent, intelligent, and creative, and I admire you greatly. But mostly, you and your sister are poster children for the triumph of the human spirit over deep adversity. You are beautiful, and your families are beautiful. Love to you all at Christmas and beyond.

  5. Muks says:

    Thank you for your story. I have so much respect for people who have been all the way to hell and managed to stand up and live their life. After all what happened you have healed so much that you are able to love your kids – that is just amazing.

  6. Patrice says:

    I love this; thank you. Such an eloquent delivery of the message.

  7. slsimms says:

    I felt the eye wells come close to spilling over…but what I find most beautiful is that you chose to use the pain as a platform to create the person that you can love and appreciate. This is tragic and yet beautiful Jennifer…

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  9. outlanderfan says:

    Thank you Jackie ♥

  10. outlanderfan says:

    Thank you so much Anne!

  11. outlanderfan says:

    Thank you Muks, I really appreciate that!

  12. outlanderfan says:

    Thank you for saying so Patrice 🙂

  13. outlanderfan says:

    Thank you…