Love like the Ocean.

Via Kate Bartolotta
on Jun 23, 2013
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I believe that love is like the ocean.

When I was a kid, going to Sunday School, we sang this song about having love like an ocean; I always thought it was corny. As I’ve grown up and have loved and been loved in so many different ways; been broken by it, restored by it and shaped indelibly by its coming and going, I’d have to agree: love is like the ocean.

It isn’t static; it ebbs and flows, sometimes in ways we can’t predict or explain.

It isn’t always a smooth ride, and it isn’t usually something we can contain or control.

It is the most vast and powerful force on our planet.

Sometimes the tide seems so far out and we feel like we’re just walking on broken shells amidst the tidal pools. Sometimes it’s calm, steady—giving us an even keel to bring our boats to shore. Sometimes it swells so high we think we’ll be overwhelmed and drown in it.

But love, like the ocean, always comes back.

There are many inspiring love stories, both sweet and tinged with sadness, but I think this is my new favorite.

Cynthia Riggs and Howard Attebery got married this May at 81 and 91, respectively—after 62 years apart. They met in 1950, while working together in the lab at Scripps Institution of Oceanography. As they worked, their friendship grew and they began passing messages to each other by cryptogram. Then, the summer ended. Cynthia went back to school in Ohio. They went their separate ways, and moved on with their lives.

Then, in January 2012, Cynthia received an unexpected package in the mail:


I don’t believe in fairy tale love. One soul mate for life? Well, the jury’s out on that one too. 

But I believe in love like the ocean. It might show up in different ways; it might be a rough ride sometimes; it might take 62 years, but love is like the tide—it always returns to shore.


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About Kate Bartolotta

Kate Bartolotta is a wellness cheerleader, yogini storyteller, and self-care maven. She also writes for Huffington Post, Yoga International, Mantra Yoga+ Health, a beauty full mind, The Good Men Project, The Green Divas, The Body Project, Project Eve, Thought Catalog and Soulseeds. Kate's books are now available on and Barnes & She is passionate about helping people fall in love with their lives. You can connect with Kate on Facebook and Instagram.


9 Responses to “Love like the Ocean.”

  1. Jillian says:

    Thank you SO much for this piece. This was exactly what I needed to read today. I have two missions today – remain in the moment, and to KNOW that LOVE is ALWAYS GREATER THAN fear. And even if it's frustrating – a maddening trip through my wounds and inner, shadowed places – this beautiful article has helped restore the faith that LOVE WILL FIND ME in due time. I recently had a Medicine Wheel reading done…I know that I've found my Twin Flame, but this is going to be a long, long journey for us…and I KNOW that patience, courage, strength, perseverance and LOVE are the things that are going to get me through until it is our time…

    Again, THANK YOU <3

  2. Brooke says:

    I LOVE this story. It reminds me of my husband and I's story. 0:) My husband and I grew up together as pretty good friends. I moved away when I was 14, though, and I hadn't seen him for 12 years when he came to visit me from Korea. Well, he was visiting his family in Florida and drove up to Atlanta to spend a day with me. Anyways, a few months later he came back to see me and proposed. 0:)

  3. Amy says:

    Sharing!!!! Wonderful story.

  4. Amy Ippoliti says:

    Sharing!!! Wonderful story.

  5. LoLo says:

    Thank you for sharing this!! So beautiful and encouraging to my heart!

  6. briannastrumm says:

    Incredibly inspiring and moving. Thanks for sharing.

  7. James Pitts says:

    There is one enduring Love one can count on and that is the Love of the God of Abraham and Isaac and Jacob, who sacrificed his only born son that we may be forgiven of our sins. The result: Peace that surpasses all understanding.

  8. LBrown says:

    I loved this story also, and today of all days i read what you wrote To know that love is always greater then fear hit me right in the head. I am so in love right now and fear rejection .I need to talk to him tonight and this fear is taking control. I have to believe that this is our love. thanks do much for writing this LB

  9. Amy E says:

    What a wonderfully romantic story! Inspiring. Beautifully written! Thank you!