December 11, 2014

12 Things I Love about Conscious Women.


These are traits that I find beautiful and awe-inspiring in conscious women.

I have felt incredibly privileged to meet a lot of conscious women lately. This, however, is not meant as a list for them or anyone else to be a measure of their desirability.

All of these things are completely idealistic.

Life is a dynamic state of ever-expanding awareness and absolute perfection is an illusion. With this in mind I invite you to take this article as an honouring for all women who are always aspiring to grow. I hope that in some tiny way this can add to the journey.

One dozen qualities of the conscious woman.

12. Attentive patience to the growth process.

I am relaxed and trusting when I am around women who know that personal-growth takes time and is a never-ending process. I am inspired by the way they hold patience and trust for themselves that they will continue to unfold to be their very best. I see a lot of self compassion and learning surrounding the inevitable mistakes.

Compassion for their own evolution calms and comforts me, it lets me know that while they will hold me to the fire of my own growth they can also be patient with the parts of me still struggling.

11. Being more than a physical body.

Women are far more than a body to objectify and lust over. To successfully relate to a conscious woman is to meet her on many levels—her intelligence, creativity, emotional, sexuality and spirituality. For women like this, radiance is an expression of her whole being.

It’s a lot of fun to discover all the different ways we connect.

10. Holds a focus on well-being.

There is a vibrancy, radiance and aliveness I see in women who take care of themselves. While these women know that they are more than a body they still realise that the well-being of their body is utterly essential to fulfilling their deepest potential in life.

I see these women taking good care of themselves. They tend to eat healthy, organic and whole foods, sleep enough and exercise sustainably. I find this incredibly attractive. I love the woman who can get naturally high from life, nature and good company.

9. Embracing beauty.

I can’t help but soften around women who seem to actively embrace beauty, including their own.

Women like this walk with a lightness, joy, and gratitude for this planet we live on. They stop often to smell the flowers, revel in the sunshine or admire a view. Their utter delight is infectious and magnetic and I imagine the colours, smells and textures of the world being more vibrant through their senses.

Going for a walk with a woman can be a journey into the little details of the world around me. When I’m with a woman like this, I can’t help but feel as beautiful as she sees me, and all those around her.

8. Truly cares for others and the Earth.

I feel inspired by women that see the beauty of the world without being naive. These women are aware of the problems the planet is facing and care in a way that it determines most of their life choices. She leaves a light footprint on the planet and does her part in living sustainably.

She helps others when they need it and has great capacity for giving. Awakening women know that our planet desperately needs all of us to rise to a new potential for living together—her life reflects that.

She doesn’t just talk the talk, she also walks the walk and that totally lights me up.

7. Is emotionally mature.

Emotions arise, change and move through us, like the weather on Earth. Sometimes it is sunny and warm while other times cold or stormy.

I love being with women who are open yet unattached to these movements of mood. Women who can feel fully and express the intensity of anger, the depths of grief and the lightness of joy and stay with these emotions knowing that they too will pass—all things are impermanent.

Everything is welcome, the world is beautiful and it is also f*cked up and full of injustice. Conscious women can rage when needed, hurt at the suffering on the planet yet also feel the absolutes of joy and bliss.

Nothing is repressed.

6. Lives with integrity and never settles.

I think one of the biggest contributions to the evolution of men on the planet will be radiant women who do not settle for less than a man who can meet them fully.

A woman who lives with integrity and consistently aligns her thoughts and actions is a powerful force. This absolutely inspires me to grow because I want women like this in my life!

Conscious women who are living their truth, fiercely and uapologetically are transforming the world on a daily basis. Bring it on!

5. Continues to open even when it hurts.

Sometimes things go wrong. We all make bad choices, we all get broken hearts and in these moments it is all too easy to play the victim and close our hearts in defiance of life’s pain.

I am consistently inspired by the women who can stay open even when it hurts, even when it feels like the whole world is ending. Transformation is often accompanied by discomfort. By opening into, even counter-intuitively moving towards, this discomfort an awakening woman will grow no matter what.

4. Receives elegantly.

It’s a beautiful thing to offer admiration to a woman who is able to receive it elegantly without discomfort, rejection or false modesty.

These amazing conscious women value the hard work they have put into developing themselves and can accept praise genuinely. No matter how many times they hear others speak of their radiance and beauty—people will absolutely will speak of it—they are still impacted.

These women recognize that the observer is seeing ones own beauty, consciously or subconsciously reflected. An awakened woman knows that in order to completely embrace praise is also to welcome others beauty in the world.

“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” ~ ancient Greek idiom

3. Loves men.

When I’m with a woman who has genuine love for me as a man I feel deep respect for what this takes. These conscious women have done the work necessary to transcend the hurt they may have received at the hands of men.

This does not mean that she condones violence or oppression, rather she sees that many men are hurting too and has compassion and encouragement for us.

She is also a lover of men and deeply enjoys bringing pleasure to and being pleasured by our company. It is a rare man who can stand and meet her fully—she will melt into the feminine letting him know the deepest delights, as her whole being becomes a vessel for ecstasy.

This is the kind of man I aspire to be daily.

2. Loves women.

There is something that touches me when I see women connecting, loving and appreciating each other. It is a beautiful woman that, as much as she loves men, she has the same, if not more love for her sisters of the Earth.

As a group, conscious women can be virtually unstoppable in their impact. These women support, empower and inspire each other to be their very best.

1. Willingly enters the unknown.

Conscious women tend to seek the unknown. From adventures around the globe, to awakening new levels of consciousness within, to exploring deep feelings with others, to experimenting sexually.

I love, love, love being with women who embrace the unknown.

Women who move forward into the new territories expanding before them. To stay in one place, in everything we already know, is to stagnate and conscious women do not stagnate.

This is growth, this is evolution and awakening women are willing participants in this never ceasing universal force.

When we come together in this dance of the unknown, then magic is created—this is the adventure I live for.

Thank you amazing women for infusing this world with your unique gifts.



Relephant Reads: 

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Author: Damien Bohler

Editor: Ashleigh Hitchcock

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