How To Love A Wild Woman.

Via Andy Charringtonon Jul 6, 2014


If she should catch your eye or brush your hand.

If you meet on a chance encounter and see the magic fizz between the two of you, if you have known her for years and suddenly feel “that way” about her, or if you have her already and don’t know how to keep her, if you love her—then love her as an action.

Love her with everything you’ve got:

Respect her as a wonder, not to be held on to or possessed, but to be rejoiced in every moment. 

Be the man that she deserves and make love magic rather than expecting it to “just be.”

Do not be selfish in your desire. Work like hell, but do it together. 

Grasp life by the wings and sail with her, not on her.

Do not crave her heart. Instead, honor it and treasure the parts she shows you, knowing that it was created to be free. 

Do not be jealous of her smile, her laugh, her body or her love. They are only yours if she gives them to you. You will never own them. 

Realize the absurdity of wanting security when life itself is insecure and finite. Accept that the only integral promise she can make is to tell you the truth. No “forevers,” no “till death do us part,” only truth. And that’s enough. 

See it her way. Even if she can’t see it yours. 

Smile at the pleasure she brings to others and do not resent it and wish it all for you. 

Respect her past as she does and know that it is only her past that brought her here and that without it you would never have found her. She has chosen you. 

Do not use intimacy as a reassurance of love, but be secure in yourself and know that she does not control your happiness and is not here to fix any unease with your life. 

Do not crave her gentle moans and whispers and never, ever expect them. Bask in the beauty of those moments and show her all of you in return. 

Let her fly and do not stunt her desires because you are scared of losing her to them. Support her dreams; entwine yourself in them if she wants you there. But let her go too. Give her freedom and choice because in following her heart she is most happy. 

Love her fully. With intent. With passion. Selflessly. And with all of you. 

The way true love demands. 



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Editor: Travis May

Photos: Author’s Own


About Andy Charrington

Andy Charrington runs his own business, lives with his partner and has three awesome sons. He sometimes writes on his blog and can be found on Facebook.


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14 Responses to “How To Love A Wild Woman.”

  1. mmaxwell says:

    Oh my goodness… I love this SO much!

  2. Lori says:

    Perfect! Makes my heart sing that you SOO nailed it!! <3

  3. Ashleigh says:

    this is. the. best! xo

  4. Maree says:

    he he he he he – that's meeeee and anyone who's ever had the misfortune to looooooove me. thanks for posting

  5. Robin says:

    I love this! I think there are a lot of us lately really sharing what it’s like to BE this girl, and it’s wonderful to see a man’s advice on loving her. I wrote about this a few months ago if you’d like another take :)

  6. KellyJean says:

    Love this! Not that I’m a wild woman or anything… ;)

  7. Sarah D says:

    I think there are a whole bunch of people out there who desperately need to see this. It's reassuring that there are men out there who recognize how beautiful, simple and true, love can be. Thank you for sharing this

  8. Heidi says:

    This is the best article I have read in my life. I wish I wrote it. I wish you were my friend. Thank you.

  9. saray438 says:

    Great. Thank you so very much.

  10. Max Cottrell says:

    Great article! Men would do well to love all women in this way.

  11. Nicole says:

    Who wrote this? Andy Charrington?

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