Is Mindfulness First World Bullsh*t?

Via Monika Carless
on Apr 6, 2015
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“Mindfulness is First World Bullshit.”

So said a Reiki client of mine, climbing off the massage table and reaching for the bowl of seeds and nuts I had set out for him.

Huh?

I am used to all kinds of reactions after Reiki sessions. But mostly I expect that kind of bliss-ed out, spacey look until I’ve fed and watered them. Not much talking happens straight away. But this client had words to spare. And thus ensued a barter of ideas while we sat and decompressed.

“Why do you say that?” I asked.

“Look around you.” I did. “What do you see?”

“Mmm. A room with a fire, a cozy space, nature outside the window…you eating seeds like a squirrel…” I laughed. He was eating voraciously, mind churning. “You’re supposed to be relaxed…I must be losing my touch.”

“Seriously. I was thinking while you were getting my food…thanks, by the way…we’re just a bunch of spoiled, first world brats, we have everything we want.” He waved his arms around the room to show me all I had.

Personally, I don’t think that I have everything I want. I need a new kitchen with a larger pantry and a gas stove.

But I said nothing, and nodded.

He continued. “We know nothing of hardship and we arrogantly spout off about living more spiritual lives and being mindful of others, yada, yada. But it’s all first world bullshit. People who are struggling don’t talk about mindfulness; they just go about their business being mindful, because they understand struggle. You know, being kind to their neighbor, sharing what meager amounts of food they have, working in community, with the unspoken hope that if they are in need, a helping hand will be there. People who have less seem to have more to give than us Westerners who have much and give proportionately little. Mindful should be our state of being, not this cultish thing we do to make the world better, or to add meaning to our lives.

“You don’t think we should do mindful things then? Westerners can’t be blamed for the circumstances they’ve been born to. Should we add suffering to our list of things to do? Although we do suffer a lot from our thoughts in this culture.”

I added more wood to the fire and was suddenly and poignantly aware of how easy it had been for me to acquire two bush cords of wood. I hadn’t had to scour the forest looking it, hoping there would be enough for me and the rest of my village. I needed a cup of tea, and of course, my cupboard was full of teas—thirteen kinds to be exact.

“I do think we need to be mindful, of course, but not to “change the world” as we so often arrogantly say. The greatest people in history didn’t go around doing Ted Talks about how to change the world; they just lived mindfully by default. There was no other way to be, they had no great ideas of shifting societies, nor did they talk about their “vision.” It was a day by day walk where their souls, defined by the hardships they had seen or experienced, could do nothing but live a spontaneously mindful life. But we have to imagine hardship. We have to manufacture a mindful life out of our excess. First we fuck up the planet, rape and pillage it, then we freak out and start screaming “mindful” like a bunch of lunatics. God, we’re all suffering from First World insanity.”

“Wait, I need tea and something to write on.”

“You going to write about this for your elephant?”

“Yeah.” I smiled. “My elephant.” Where I wrote about mindfulness. Where countless others communicated words about mindfulness. The irony of what a deep privilege my freedom of speech is was not lost on me.

This man had me thinking. Deep.

But I had been hungry once, had experienced long line ups for food in a communist country, had gone home with nothing because by the time my grandmother and I reached the counter there was nothing left, and we hadn’t any American dollars for the stuff on the top shelves. I’ve broken down at my first site of a grocery store full of food when I arrived in Canada. I’d lived in a one room apartment half the size of my present kitchen.

What became of those memories?

1. A passion for local food, and farmer’s markets. The village square, packed full of farmers and jostling housewives was the place where one could count on a decent basketful of purchases.

2. A need to foster community, in whatever way I found possible.

3. A drive to remember that all I had was an illusion. All I truly “had” was this one moment of time to live my kindest, most grateful life. Everything else was meaningless in the grand scheme of things.

“So, what’s your suggestion, then? How to live mindfully as citizens of the First World?”

“I think we have to begin with our attitude. Being grateful, humble. Yes!”

He jumped and so did I. “Humility” That is what I lack. I’ve replaced it with smugness. It’s become part of my ego, all my mindful living. I think that what I’m talking about is intention. Keeping it pure.

Mindfulness for mindfulness sake.

“Like Gandhi said, change yourself, change the world?”

“Yes, exactly. Forget about being the hero, changing the world…just work on yourself. The rest will come. Start here.” My client pointed at his heart. His eyes watered. “That’s what I’ve taken from today’s treatment. I need to work on myself.”

“Have we been talking about you all this time?”

“Yes.” Now he cried openly.

“Shall we meditate?”

“Yes. I need to go in.” We closed our eyes, and started with OM.

A few words from one of my favorite teachers, Eckhart Tolle, about being the change and what we are responsible for.

 

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About Monika Carless

Monika Carless seems to be following the setting sun---from Europe to Eastern Canada, to mountain and ocean life on Vancouver Island, B.C. A Reiki Master and Holistic Nutritionist, Monika follows The Wise Woman Tradition as a Solitary Witch, seeking the Sacred through nature. She believes in skinny dipping, laughter with friends and moonlit walks as therapy for the human soul. Many passions fire this Scorpio’s quest for living as authentically as possible. A road less ordinary and a heart filled with love is what you’ll find her patiently seeking. Monika is the author of two novels, The Dark Pool, and its sequel, 'The Raven and The Aspen King', a tale of erotica and pagan mysticism, delving into polyamory, past lives and love at its most courageous. Connect with Monika on her blog or Facebook.

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9 Responses to “Is Mindfulness First World Bullsh*t?”

  1. purpleinkrambles says:

    A soothing, thought provoking write up to wake up to. My guess or rather my experience with humility is how easily it is looked at as weakness or timidness. Especially at a work place or a public space. So there have been days/weeks when u oscillate between deciding to do the right thing[humble] or just choose what's popular, then when the pendulum stops, it stops over the state that is inherent to you or that state that you mindfully choose to be. Thanks for the brilliant piece.

  2. Oh my word, thank you so much for this. As soon as I started readign the article I bristled and started picking “wise ™” things out of what your client had said to dissemble his arguments – ‘When people use ‘we’ so much to back up their arguments, it means they don’t have an argument to…’ and on and on. As I read on I felt myself freeze when you reached for pen and paper (for ‘your elephant’) thinking you’d capitulated far too early (‘and isn’t it like us, etc etc…’) but I read on and when you outlined that you’d been hungry once I thought, ‘yes! because so have I, and homeless, street-living and bereft and I’ve earned this comfort zone’ (haven’t I?). And so I read on. And you never twisted the knife back in on its bearer. The knife just disappeared, like it was never there in the first place. Just a new opportunity for learning. And I recognised my own smugness – I was considering the very same thing, just yesterday, in fact. I know that I have a tendency to swing from a place of lack to a place of entitlement, whooshing past a simple sense of deservability. And I know how spiky smugness makes my energy, and how hard it is to balance between pridefulenss and self-incrimination. At least, it’s hard when I’m all I’m thinking about. When I’m practising mindfulness, though, I turn this fish-eye lens out onto the beauty of the world and the experiences occuring moment by moment. It’s a saviour, which is why I want to protect it. But mindfulness is tougher than me and doesn’t need my stuck up fists and jutting out jaw to protect it.

    Thank you so very, very much for this. I’m grateful, and humble.

    Georgia

  3. simplysolitary says:

    Georgia, thank you for this. My conversation with my client taught me that we are all learning, about ourselves, about our experience on earth. And it's all good.

  4. alalaho says:

    Wow, thank you for sharing your friend's insights. Perfectly said. That is the base that I find when I reflect on how I am proceeding through life. Humility.

    Love & gratitude
    cesar

  5. Wonderful! Now, you may not write in the same fashion as before. Namaste

  6. Kathrin says:

    Thank you for this great article! I love it! Not letting mindfulness, yoga and spirituality become part of our ego, but being grateful and humble. Such a great reminder!

  7. Bet Lamed says:

    Thing is, the more mindful I am, the bigger the chance to do at least a few things right.

    At least, that’s the theory. Mindfulness is supposed to help us overcome the ego, and that in turn would make us somewhat better at being human.

    So…if mindfulness is worth more than just some vaguely cuddly feeling, then our behaviour when we’re “feeling” especially mindful is actually an indicator of whether the whole thing is worth anything. Either it does change us in some useful way, or it fails.

    If it is true, however, that means that it is far more than just a “first world issue”. It might then be an important tool in changing (saving?) the world.

  8. saradarce says:

    Sadly, there are no actions here as to "HOW" to become "Conscious" – So I will share one that without fail, works.. to gain humility, gratitude, happiness and "consciousness." As a wise man once told me,"Help as many people as you can." This is not to be confused with giving people money or to telling them what they "should do."

  9. Munni says:

    Who coined the phrase – first world ? that intself is bullshit