Did you know that the average adult complains 30 times a day?
We do this because we subconsciously believe that complaining about a circumstance protects us from being dominated by it.
Like we’re somehow getting back at our boss for giving us a heavy work load by complaining about her.
Or like complaining about politics, or our partner’s habits, or the state of our health, or the traffic we’re stuck in somehow makes those conditions better.
Unfortunately, it doesn’t. Complaining has zero power to affect any sort of positive change.
Complaining simply generates a negative outlook on the world. It strengthens our belief in our own powerlessness, and reinforces the idea that we are the victim of our circumstances.
Rather than protecting us from circumstances we dislike, complaining simply gives those circumstances even more power over our quality of life.
Average adults are giving away their personal power to their circumstances 30 times a day by complaining. Over time, that leaves them feeling powerless and resigned.
Do you want to be average, or do you want to lead an extraordinarily fulfilling life?
If you’d prefer the latter, then with every circumstance in your life, you have two options:
1. Choose the circumstance as it is. Accept it totally. Embrace it for all that it is and all that it isn’t. Start searching for that silver lining. Look for all the reasons that the circumstance is happening for you and your personal growth, not to you. And give up the right to complain.
2. Do every gosh darn thing in your power to create a new circumstance. Come from the empowering perspective that you are 100 percent responsible for that circumstance. Take committed actions toward affecting positive change while being unattached to the results. And, you guessed it: give up the right to complain.
I challenge you to pick either of these options in every single area of your life.
This means either happily accepting it exactly how it is, or doing whatever it takes to change it.
If you’re not willing to do whatever it takes to improve, say, the politics in this country, then you better darn well accept it as it is and stop complaining.
If you’re not willing to do what it takes to create a fulfilling relationship, then you better darn well happily accept being single.
If you’re not willing to have an honest and empowered conversation with your boss about her leadership style, then you better darn well accept it.
And no matter what you choose, I challenge you to give up the right to complain for two whole weeks.
If, at the end of the two weeks, you are dissatisfied with the results, then complain away. Complain like it’s your job.
But if you see positive results, then I invite you to consider living a complaint-free life.
If you accept this challenge, make it real by declaring it! Get out your phone and text two people to tell them that you’re taking on the no-complaining challenge.
Cheers to you taking responsibility for your life and looking at the world from a more empowering perspective.
Pass it on.
Author: Brandilyn Tebo
Editor: Callie Rushton
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