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June 11, 2020

How to Heal our Erotic Wounds (& Connect to our Pussy).

In what ways were you introduced to your genital area as a child?

What were you taught when you played with your sexual organs out of curiosity? How did you learn to explore your own little body as a kid?

How were sex and sexual pleasure introduced to you?

What were or are your beliefs about your pussy? Or penis?

We have learned to disconnect from our bodies and sexual organs early in life. We have been taught that touching our bodies is sinful, dirty, and ugly—we were made to believe that “good girls” are supposed to stand still. Their man can do anything they want on top of their bodies.

This article can be translated for both women and men, but as a woman, I will keep the focus on women. I am sharing my thoughts and feedback from personal experiences and understanding of our sexual pleasure, sex organs, and our pussy-heart connection. In most women, the pussy-heart connection is lost, broken, or dysfunctional thus producing internal, external, emotional, psychological, and even sexual blockages.

I am not a sex expert. So keep that in mind and read this article with an open heart so it can give you a different perspective on how you, as a woman, relate to your body and especially to your pussy.

When you, as a woman, lose your connection to sexual pleasure and your sex organ (pussy) as a very sacred portal to your wholeness (same could be said about men and their penis), you lose so many parts of yourself.

You ignore your erotic desires. You hide them. You might feel ashamed of those desires or fantasies. You might feel dirty or sinful, especially if you have experienced molestation or sexual abuse in your childhood life.

If you have suffered from any sexual molestation in your childhood, read this article (twice, if you have to) and carefully—even if it triggers you.

Understand your sexual wounds and slowly start claiming the lost parts of your erotic self. Without fully understanding these lost parts of our sexuality, and without coming to a fully embodied awareness of them as they are, we cannot be fully whole or free within. I can tell you this without any doubt from my own life experience so far.

With our childhoods expedited, and traumas shaping our adult selves, we learned as females that there must be something dirty or wrong to feel pleasure. Many of us think it is wrong to use our sex organs for self-pleasure or pleasure with a partner.

This makes your pussy and your heart two separate organs functioning on their own. But it is this very separation that has created all kinds of wounds, sexual dysfunction, and toxic or unfulfilling romantic relationships.

There is a lot to find, claim, and honor in you as a woman in progress when it comes to your erotic self. Because of our societal conditioning and upbringing, this part of the self is what usually suffers the most when it comes to females.

Entering our adulthood, we, as women or females in progress, might need to relearn to reconnect with our pussy in a more gentle and heartfelt way.

One of the ways to do so is by listening to our sexual organ when a man or partner penetrates us.

>> How do they relate to your pussy?
>> How do they approach your sexually and erotically?
>> How do you feel about your pussy during sex?
>> How do you feel about your pussy during self-pleasure practices?

All the answers to these questions can give you much-needed clarity of your erotic wounds. Perhaps you can begin to heal those traumas on your own, or with a partner that meets you where you are in life.

We can also start by learning to let go of control and have a deep look down there—touch the walls of your vagina and clitoris. See how it feels to let go into pleasure. Imagine a partner going down slowly on you, or as wildly and softly as you crave or need.

Opening our hearts to our pussies and sexual pleasure is more than biology.

Your pussy is a portal to your profound inner transformation as a woman and spirit—the sexual organs are no less spiritual than the heart.

I now sense that feeding the connection between our hearts and pussies is a must for us to be rediscovered and reunited with all the disowned parts of our being.

If we are to feel whole and find fulfillment in life, we need to accept, honor, and embody our erotic self fully. Without it, we would not be complete. Without it, we would miss so much of our lives.

As the source of our creativity, our erotic self is so important in giving birth to ourselves anew.

The connection between our hearts and our general organs will heal many of the inner wounds we carry within since childhood. It would make us feel alive, more confident, and more content.

And we need to do this work on our own first.

By identifying our inner sexual or erotic blocks and learning to feel the heartbeat in joy, we can give attention in the form of soft, caressing, or wild strokes to our pussies.

We as women need to heal this connection before entering a mature and fulfilling one with a man. One who will treat our pussy with the same attention that he treats our heart. I can even say that the way a man approaches our pussy is the same way he will approach our heart—we will know what is what, and who is who.

Your pussy knows the truth more than your mind.

It’s time for us to listen to our pussies and feel them into our hearts—hold them in deep embrace and reverence.
In the past, I only dated and attracted f*ck boys because I did not have any connection between my pussy and heart. I was ashamed of my sexuality.

I felt and thought that my pussy was dirty, ugly, and not lovable.

Attracting those f*ck boys reinforced my beliefs about my pussy and how I felt toward my self: ashamed, shy, disconnected, blocked, unable to receive, and always allowing abuse.

Take inventory of your life and your erotic self-expression:

>> How do you feel about yourself sensually and sexually?
>> Are you comfortable with your inner erotic desires and fantasies, or disturbed by them?
>> How do you treat your body?
>> How do you relate to your pussy during sex or self-pleasure?
>> How does your lover or partner relate to you sexually?

Bringing the pussy-heart connection to light will heal so much of you. It will heal as nothing else could. Feel your pussy into your heart when you experience pleasure. See how she wants to be held, caressed, and treated. Your pussy and heart are one, not two separate entities.

Bring this connection to life and see your internal emotional and psychological battles subside and slowly melt away. When we free our erotic self, we release all parts of who we already are and who we are capable of being in this world.

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