‘I am not what has happened to me, I am what I choose to become’. – Carl Jung
When things in our world don’t turn out the way we want them and our experiences of them are anything but pleasant, there is a tendency to think that there is something wrong with us. The realm of personal development and therapy can also give us this misrepresentation of being broken or damaged in that they are often about revisiting your early life period and healing, which can get us stuck in a mindset of fixing.
While everyone has their own approaches, the paradigm that I have come to practice, which is a combination of Eastern Philosophy and Jungian methodology and I mentor my clients using these concepts, is what Carl Jung stated: ‘I am not what has happened to me, I am what I choose to become’.
In a coaching model, we do ask our clients to reflect on where their story is coming from so they can bring those shadow parts into consciousness but not to heal the past or themselves. It is very important not to get stuck in this broken/fixing idea, which comes from our limited ego mind. Our ego can keep us there to stop us from reaching our full potentials. Ego is not to be perceived in a negative way. It is simply doing it’s job, which is to protect us. However, protecting us may have helped at an early age and period but it does not serve us at a later time. The absolute reality is that we are whole, love and full of unlimited potential. Based on interpretation of our life experiences we may have hidden our true self and it is through our journey in life and learning higher knowledge that we can dust off those conditioned limitations and show up in this physical world as our true self. Our true self can never be broken, damaged, harmed, it is pure light and love. What has happened in the past is no longer a reality. Reality is our present moment. Knowing this, the fact that today is a new day, how would you like to create your life? What kind of relationships would you like to have? How would you like to feel every day? You have the choice to experience every moment of your life the way you want it. You are the creator of your life with unlimited potentials. Have fun and amaze yourself!