How do we begin to end domestic violence?

Via on Feb 19, 2009

Before: 

Here’s some Domestic Violence resources, courtesy MTV (reporting on Rihanna / Chris Brown situation). And here’s a video on how to recognize warning signs of an abusive relationship.

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Historically, for generations, dads (and moms) have opened regular cans of whoop-ass on moms, lovers and children.

Problem is, our society treats domestic violence as criminal—which may make sense but contributes to the fact that domestic abuse is too often not reported; and number two we do little to educate the men (and women) who have don’t know how to handle anger, don’t remember to breathe, who lose it…who fall victim to temper tantrums…on how to overcome their anger.

I asked my friends on Facebook to write something up about this, but no one came forward. I know nothing about this, but if anyone out there does, please offer some advice, web sites, video links in the Comments section and I’ll fill this blog out a bit more—with thanks for the many children and mommies, and daddies, who might be spared the horrors, pain and shame that is this underreported, left-in-the-dark ongoing American (they work with domestic abuse quite differently in Britain, for example) tragedy.

After: 

MTV’s Love in Trouble:

About Waylon Lewis

Waylon Lewis, founder of elephant magazine, now elephantjournal.com & host of Walk the Talk Show with Waylon Lewis, is a 1st generation American Buddhist “Dharma Brat." Voted #1 in U.S. on twitter for #green two years running, Changemaker & Eco Ambassador by Treehugger, Green Hero by Discovery’s Planet Green, Best (!) Shameless Self-Promoter at Westword's Web Awards, Prominent Buddhist by Shambhala Sun, & 100 Most Influential People in Health & Fitness 2011 by "Greatist", Waylon is a mediocre climber, lazy yogi, 365-day bicycle commuter & best friend to Redford (his rescue hound). His aim: to bring the good news re: "the mindful life" beyond the choir & to all those who didn't know they gave a care. elephantjournal.com | facebook.com/elephantjournal | twitter.com/elephantjournal | facebook.com/waylonhlewis | twitter.com/waylonlewis | Google+ For more: publisherelephantjournalcom

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10 Responses to “How do we begin to end domestic violence?”

  1. L. says:

    " Problem is, our society treats domestic abuse as criminal, so often it’s not reported" – I suggest you do some homework about the history of domestic violence; pay particular attention to how domestic violence was handled before the early 1970's. I mean no disrespect. I appreciate that you are speaking against violence. It just think it would be helpful fo ryou to have a bit more informed perspective. Thanks!

    • Thanks, L. I have a very informed perspective, personally-speaking–it's been endemic in my family for generations. I hope to end that! I have a friend who got in a fight with his ex-wife…she was beating on him…he got hauled off. I think we can all agree the system's well-intentioned (I hope, at least) but imperfect). I think we can also all agree that I'm woefully ignorant, so thank you for your patience with me. Just wanted to put the above resources out there, as it is a fact that it's badly underreported, so the web is becoming a useful resource for abused persons.

      • Paul M. Clements says:

        What's under-reported is the violence women perpetrate against males and other females. The tendency toward violence is a HUMAN condition, not a gender specific one. The truth is, domestic violence is a profitable industry for feminists, and a potent weapon in their War Against Men. Unfortunately, it's based on false data and a lot of political hype.

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  8. Laura says:

    How do they do things differently in Britain?

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