As I move through life, I am sloughing off skin, constantly.
I don’t intend to do this, but it is helpful to loose this layer of dead cells, revealing fresh skin. If I weren’t doing this well enough, my skin would appear nasty and I would start to itch. I’d have to get the old skin off, somehow.
The food we eat is appealing because we choose it and the poop that comes out is disgusting because its appearance and smell is largely due to unconscious processes. We only seem to want what we can choose. In fact a lot of people have various lower-body disorders because there is so much attention to eating delightful food and so little care for intestinal health.
We need to do a better job of looking at the unconscious effects of our actions. They can wreak havoc on our bodies, relationships, and the planet, but it’s hard to look at these effects because they are somewhat repugnant to us.
We choose something and like it, but then we don’t choose how it changes and don’t like that. I guess it’s because we are materialist—even in relationships. Like say you have a beautiful baby daughter, and when she is a baby you love her because she’s cute and you can project your dreams onto her. Then she grows up into a very different person than you expected (she’s not you), so you don’t like her as much. Maybe you even hate her because her life expression is in conflict with your fantasy of her. So when you see her there is a part of you that recoils: that’s not my daughter! But of course really it is the daughter, and there is a misunderstanding—it’s a mind problem. The mind in this case has perpetuated the notion of the fantasy daughter which gets in the way of a relationship with the alive flesh-and-blood human being daughter.
Or let’s say you marry a beautiful wife or handsome husband that you chose and so you like your mate. Then they change in ways that you didn’t choose and so you start to dislike the new aspects. When a person thinks in this way, it’s almost as if they believe that the world is theirs alone, and when the world acts in a way that they don’t like or didn’t choose this person feels like he or she has been betrayed by the world. “It’s not fair because it’s not what I wanted.” The mind makes mischief here, too, because it has held onto the original impression of a person instead of being aware of the active unfolding of life.
A person who thinks like this is wrapped in fantasy—the “world” is all in their mind, and when things happen that don’t fit into the fantasy there is a rejection of the world. This person is not connecting with life in a full way. The evidence is here. There is a world beyond what a person actively chooses.
In yoga we might buy into a healthy lifestyle, and then get sick, anyway. There are so many factors outside of our direct control. We might abuse ourselves and still be healthy into old age. Not everything makes sense to our minds.
Do we embrace or reject experience? Can we perceive the feedback that the world is constantly providing? What do we do with this understanding?
The world is so much bigger than the one we choose, and even the things we choose change in ways we don’t choose—from the foods we eat to the ones we love (and things ignored—we don’t choose what happens to those things either).
We can add the energy of our care to the world and make a real difference, but we are really powerful when we work together, and when we truthfully acknowledge the full situation of life—not just the things we like or prefer. The shared world with both intended actions and unintended consequences is important to the ongoing experience that we participate in together.
* enhanced article from Yogic Muse *
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July’s Full Moon in Capricorn: The Heart wants what it Wants. How to Love a Woman who Scares You. Our Soulmates are Rarely Who We Expect. I Still Think of You. The 4 Stages of a Good Divorce. Men, Let’s Stop Fooling Ourselves: Size Matters. Reading This Takes Guts. To the One Who Tried to Break Me. An Open Letter to the Fixers. How your Stored Memories in the Amygdala can lead to PTSD.