This is worth re-sharing today.

Via Waylon Lewis
on Feb 13, 2012
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Given Chris Brown’s starring appearance and take-home victory at the 2012 Grammy Awards, I thought it only proper to share this (from that night):

Love her.

And, this. If you read one thing, let it be this.

Jay-Z would agree.

If you read two things, this here’s a gut-check. Horrifying.

And, watch this. If you watch one thing about this, let it be this:

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And, this:

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From Reddit, where there’s a thousand great comments. Did I say 1000? About 5000 over the last 24 hours:

I’m just curious. The dude beat Rihanna, and he’s still getting marketed like he’s the king of modern day R&B? Does his record company or his fans care at all about what he did? It’s even dumbfounding to me that the Grammys let him perform.

For his fans, especially female I guess, why do you still like the guy?

There’s one from another perspective that, to be fair, deserves sharing:

“It’s really sad that these girls represent the group of people who support him. Because I support him and I don’t condone what he did. But also don’t see the point in busting his balls about it for 3 years straight when he DID apologize to her and the world (and he didn’t owe the world a DAMN THING), he did do his community service, he did take backlash from the whole entire world…I’m not saying condone it, but let him live for God’s sake. The man is nothing but positive. A positive 22 year old kid with a future ahead of him. Rihanna is over it. She forgave him. She likes his music. She wished him the best. So why the hell are so many of you still upset when the actual victim is over it? No one is proud of what he did, his SANE fans are just happy he’s making music again. Jesus. I get so tired of this bullshit. It’s been three years. Fuck all the good you do in the world, you mess up once and that’s all everyone remembers you for. No one is perfect, but shit…you’d swear every mofo in here was by the comments.”


If all that’s not enough, read this.

Now, that’s enough of that.

Let’s be good people, shall we? If we can’t be good all the time, and none of us can, let’s try to be better and wake up and come back to being good as fast as we can?

Let’s all keep this issue alive, and learn, together, to begin to find the answer to how to end Domestic Violence.


About Waylon Lewis

Waylon Lewis, founder of elephant magazine, now & host of Walk the Talk Show with Waylon Lewis, is a 1st generation American Buddhist “Dharma Brat." Voted #1 in U.S. on twitter for #green two years running, Changemaker & Eco Ambassador by Treehugger, Green Hero by Discovery’s Planet Green, Best (!) Shameless Self-Promoter at Westword's Web Awards, Prominent Buddhist by Shambhala Sun, & 100 Most Influential People in Health & Fitness 2011 by "Greatist", Waylon is a mediocre climber, lazy yogi, 365-day bicycle commuter & best friend to Redford (his rescue hound). His aim: to bring the good news re: "the mindful life" beyond the choir & to all those who didn't know they gave a care. | | | | | Google+ For more: publisherelephantjournalcom


18 Responses to “This is worth re-sharing today.”

  1. elizabeth says:

    "Yeah, sorry, but I share the alternative perspective that you posted: its 3 years old, and rehashing it just promotes some kind of self-created theory that no one can improve, let go, forgive, change, progress, move on, develop. " – good thinking, but the reason it matters so much is that domestic violence is EVER PREVALENT in our society, the world.. and for our culture/media to sweep his very serious, very real actions under the rug.. and tout him as like, some really great and positive guy… um, no. not a realistic portrayal of the reality millions of women suffer with men that beat the shit out of them. not progressive and positive for the ones really dealing with it. if chris brown could have stepped up and apologized to the world for what he had done, and donated to violence support groups, then maybe i'd reconsider my opinion of him.

  2. I think the link that horrified me the most was the women who tweeted that "Chris Brown could beat them anytime." Not only are we failing to raise gentle men, we are failing to raise women with self-respect and boundaries. Or maybe I shouldn't say "we" because I am working hard to raise one of each!

  3. breathingoutismile says:

    Horrified by the tweets saying CB could beat them anytime. I feel a chat with my kids coming on. Good lord!

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  5. Kate mcCullough says:

    3 years is not enough time to celebrate someone. Regardless fo what we know and don't know, we are not glorifying domestic violence if we talk about what Chris Brown. It's just the opposite, in fact. By being silent, we are allowing the silence surrounding this devastating type of violence to continue. Until every person who is affexted by any type of violence in their home has the support and resources to get all the help they need, then we're not talking enough.

    How do I know this? I was in an abusive relatationship. I finally wrote publically about it this week, but I haven't been promoting the article for fear of retribution by the family of my abuser. I wanty to get to that place, though. I want to feel that I have more supporters than people to fear.

    • That first step was amazingly brave–good for you!

    • Kate, I completely agree with you. I too was in an abusive relationship. I kept silent about it for many years fearing that no one would believe me (he is now a writer for Elephant, ahem). I too recently wrote about it, and gave my experience a voice, and it was liberating. It was also terrifying. There was some support and some retribution, but I felt in the end that the experience itself needed freedom…space to breath, and so I gave it that. I also had to look at why I allowed myself to be subject to such abuse….that was the hardest thing to accept. I support you. But don't let him keep hurting you with fear. The first step is recognition…the forgiveness will come.

      Thanks for posting this….the only way it changes is with awareness and dialogue…keep talking!!!

  6. Olga says:

    Thank you Waylon for bringing this up! Thank you Thank you Thanks you!!!

  7. […] he beat her up so badly that he was arrested. During his performances at the Grammys, young women took to Twitter to post how happy they would be to let Chris Brown rough them up a little […]

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