Secrets of Tantric Sex. ~ J. Brown

Via on May 4, 2012
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Yoga originates from Tantric sex cults.

Or so says William J. Broad, senior science writer at the NY Times, in a sequel to his debut about how yoga kills.  In fairness, I’ve heard interviews with Mr. Broad since his controversial foray into yoga and he seems like a thoughtful guy. He readily admits that he comes from a science background. In fact, before writing about yoga, he was an expert on the global spread of nuclear weapons.

Scholars have long debated the origins of yoga, which existed as a purely oral tradition for thousands of years. I may not have any academic bona fides but I think it’s safe to say that just because there is a document, dating back to medieval India, stating that cobra pose has the specific purpose of sexual arousal doesn’t necessarily mean that yoga originated from Tantric sex cults.

I do question the merits of making a case that yoga originates from Tantric sex cults as some sort of roundabout justification for the Anusara yoga scandal. For those who may not know, there has been major trouble involving sex scandals and abuses of power in the Anusara yoga community. In his NY Times article (account required to view), Mr. Broad suggests that indiscretions among yoga teachers are not surprising given the sexual underpinnings of yoga.

Mr. Broad’s attempt to shed light on the origins of yoga and the sex scandals that happen in the yoga world are an example of how yoga cannot be understood by empirical means alone. My understanding of Tantra, and the role that sex plays in Tantra, is not based on any text but rather my personal experience and intuition.

When I was 27 years old, I was asked to teach some workshops out of state. I had just come into my own as a teacher. The manager for the center was impressed after visiting my class. I was excited-this was the first time I had been invited to teach outside of my NY yoga scene and I saw it as the beginning of a star-studded career.

I arrived in the early evening. My host took me to dinner at a local spot with some other folks who were active at the center. Then, we returned to her home, where I was staying for the weekend. As we parted to retire, my host made it clear that she was interested in having sexual relations with me. Ostensibly, an attractive older woman offering herself to me willingly was a dream come true scenario. I hesitated only because I was there to teach yoga and I really wanted to do a good job.

So, I took a rain-check and left open the possibility that I might take her up on the offer another night.

The following morning, when her yet-to-be-divorced husband came in to grab a few things while I was sitting at the kitchen table with his daughter eating blue oatmeal, I sure was glad that I deferred. At least, I could hold my head up.

The workshops went reasonably well but the more important learning happened in the conversations outside the allotted format. The demographic of student was primarily women in their later thirties and early forties who felt trapped in unhappy marriages to wealthy men. The women were open about their sexual frustration and had read books about Tantric sex. Their impression was that Tantric sex involved men who can separate ejaculation from orgasm and have extended periods of sex that provide spiritual orgasmic pleasure beyond imagination.

In a rare and early stroke of honesty, I found myself using the experience of the night before and my host’s husband coming in the next morning as the basis for my conception of Tantric sex.

The funny thing was that these woman were not very interested in mutual respect or nurturing, they just wanted to get laid. But when my last night came and my host, wanting to see if I was for real, asked to cash in on my rain-check, I didn’t hesitate to decline for obvious reasons.

I’d be lying if I didn’t admit that some small part of me regrets not indulging myself that last night. After all, everything was on the table and it was “no strings attached.” Fortunately, I knew in my heart that if I was to have authentic Tantra, meaning that my spiritual path is dictated by me alone and not by hierarchy or dogma, then I had to be an honorable man and hold myself to a high standard of behavior.

Regardless of what you may read, yoga originates not from an ancient text or time but only from within living hearts and minds.

Read more:  Yoga or Advil?

J. Brown is a yoga teacher, writer and founder of Abhyasa Yoga Center in Brooklyn, NY. His writing has been featured in Yoga Therapy in Practice, Yoga Therapy Today and the International Journal of Yoga Therapy. Visit his website at yogijbrown.com.

 

 

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9 Responses to “Secrets of Tantric Sex. ~ J. Brown”

  1. Great article, J.! Typically for you, it is delivered with humility, humor, and common-sense. Refreshing qualities to have in a 21st century yoga teacher in the US! Also, thank you for referring to the recent Anusara / JF scandal over the past few months; as I have been abroad for the last 4 years, I wasn't aware of that, and read / sorted through the articles with interest. Not only the content, but also the point of view and the agenda of each writer was informative. In that spirit, your article is a good example of who you are, as your friends and students know: open, candid, real. Blessings to you, and hope you are well. Om Tat Sat.

  2. Elize says:

    Your last sentence is great. As important as understanding/knowing our roots and history, it is only a very small piece of a very big puzzle. What (typically) matters the most, it what is here, now, present, alive.

  3. J. Brown says:

    Two pertinent sentences got edited in this post. For whatever its worth, add this to the 4th to last paragraph:

    "Regardless of whatever prowess I may have in the sack, a real Tantra could never bring harm or dishonor. Partaking in sex as part of Tantra requires more than a casual relationship. The spirituality of sex is rooted in mutual respect and nurturing that is not possible among strangers or divorced from its life context."

    • Valerie Carruthers ValCarruthers says:

      Letting you know those edited sentences didn't disappear. They were used as the excerpt ("teaser" if you will) to draw views for your article under Yoga Latest, Spirituality Latest and any other sections where it appears.

      Valerie Carruthers
      Team Leader
      Elephant Spirituality

  4. Valerie Carruthers ValCarruthers says:

    Fascinating post. How refreshing to read of a yogi who adhered to his dharma when he unwittingly finds himself playing out an episode of Desperate Housewives.

    We can keep telling ourselves a quick hop in the sack is all in the name of exploring Tantra. Or we can learn to compassionately turn our frustrations and unsatisfied desires inward and see them squarely as the longing to know our inner divine nature.

    Just posted to "Featured Today" on the Elephant Spirituality Homepage.

    Valerie Carruthers
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