Moving Beyond the C*ck. {Adult} ~ Simon Paul Sutton

Via on Jul 3, 2012

Driven by my greedy cock I’ve made some crazy choices.

It’s clear that the world is driven largely by the negative aspects of power-hungry masculine energy. Greed, competitiveness, anger, frustration and violence when looked upon closely all stem from a foundation of fear. Fear is a big part of what creates the dysfunctional ego which has at its foundation a lack of consideration or awareness of others. I have firsthand experience of these imbalances.

When we are obsessed with me, my and mine, we are ego driven. Questions like, what can I get and what can I take in order to get what I need, are clearly unbalanced and out of alignment.

I’ve manipulated women. I’ve cheated on sexual partners who I claimed to have loved because my cock was not fulfilled. I’ve inflicted pain and abuse on my body by taking stimulants in a lust-driven desire for sex. I’ve driven drunk and risked my life and those of others. I’ve paid for sex thinking somehow these women will give me what my ego needed.

But I’ve learned it’s all fruitless, false and futile. The cock will never be fulfilled when not truly understood. It has a bottomless desire for friction. Lust is derived from this cock mentality. It is temporary and fleeting.

When acting from this place I would go as far as to say, men become unconscious. The cock harnesses uncontrollable power to fuel the actions required to fulfill its needs. At times I can feel hypnotized by its desire while at the same time excited and dazed. I am not saying the penis is making the decisions but linked with sexual urges and conditioned thinking of what a man and his penis should strive for, the cock is definitely in the driver’s seat.

The final prize—if obtained—is ejaculation. Most men as soon as they have ejaculated are not attracted to the partner they desired only moments before. Men lie in order to get sexual contact with a woman. This soon becomes unfulfilling and then we blame our partners and crave more sex, different sex, multiple partners at once, role plays, pornography, drugs, drink, fetishes and the list goes on. All deluded ideas of the dysfunction which drive us to explore the darkest recesses of our imagination. This only takes us further away from what we are truly seeking.

Men are not aware of the power of orgasm and ejaculation. As boys we are not shown the complete function of the body. We are not told that the energy within us is so powerful it could literally move mountains. We do not know that this energy is our fuel for creation and love. We’re not aware of the responsibility we hold. We were never told we have a prostate gland in our anus which holds pent-up emotions or our penis knows what to do if we learn how it works.

All boys are shown is how to pump and tug and cause friction, which desensitizes the penis so it can be banged in and out of a vagina to stimulate senses and create ejaculation. You may as well bang it against a brick wall. In fact men will stick their cock into any hole just to follow through on the act they think is natural.

Men are seeking fulfilment for the emptiness they feel within. We desire human connection but seek it in a way which doesn’t serve us. The conditioned mind creates separation and justifies the emptiness to uphold its identity. We don’t know how to communicate our feelings and often feel vulnerable which is judged as weakness, whereas vulnerability is love.

We have become detached from ourselves.

We need to move beyond the current idea of cock to experience the real cock.

Do you fancy moving beyond the idea of cock? In order to move beyond the cock we’ve got to go back to basics, we’ve got to relearn what we are as living organisms, we have to explore ourselves deeply and learn to love ourselves wholeheartedly. We have to take responsibility and become disciplined to make conscious choices.

Photo: Michael Julian Berz

Moving beyond the cock is about real connection to all that is. It’s about understanding how the bodies are designed, deepening the connection where each person surrenders to the true nature and function of the genitalia. Moving beyond the perception and psychology we have about sex and intimacy. It’s about re-education and transparent communication.

Men did you know the main connection to a women is initially her breasts not her clit. Did you know a woman’s body craves deep penetration not clitoral numbing stimulation? Did you know that after twenty minutes of lying naked together the energies of each organism merge together which creates a foundation for authentic intimacy? Did you know real connection comes from looking into each other’s eyes not from behind, with a head in the pillow!

Men and women, are you ready to start again and let go of all that you thought you knew about sex, the human form and the way you make love. Does the idea fill you with fear? If so, let fear be your friendly guide and voice your vulnerabilities, and you will experience that deep human connection you have been seeking.

We are capable of more than we can imagine. Do not settle for second best when you know in your heart you are worth more. Let’s not cast blame here either. Let’s not blame the cock for it knows not what it does. It’s just doing what it has been taught. Time to retrain the cock and pussy and while we are at it, shall we name them the Lingam and Yoni?

Men and women, are you ready to move beyond the cock?

 

Simon is an explorer of life. Four years ago, in an epiphany, he realized he was predominately living in fear and unconsciousness. All at once, he became aware of the magical life experience in all its glory and connected to something vaster than once perceived. Some say he was reborn, some say it was a kundalini awakening. He describes it as connecting to something far greater than his former limited view of self—love for lack of another name. But not the love which is in fact fear masquerading as love, but something much more pure, a love of everything, a deep gratitude for existence and a feeling of sheer joy to be able to be part of something so beautiful. You can find Simon on his groundbreaking project, Simononthesofa.com, and at his website and blog, Global Love Letters, and of course, on Facebook.

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17 Responses to “Moving Beyond the C*ck. {Adult} ~ Simon Paul Sutton”

  1. Bonita Spencer says:

    Thank you Simon for leading the way with your informative and direct article. For too long now the Lingam and Yoni have been both misused and misunderstood resulting in much suffering. Now you are showing us that true satisfying connection is possible when we go beyond the body banging of lustful consumption and reach out to one another with transparent awareness. Your efforts to share intimate knowledge in this way are healing and restorative bringing a remembering to what has been forgotten by most of humanity… The body is the sacred vessel for our beautiful creative energy, within it is where alchemy takes place, where as you say we can go beyond the misuse of the cock and find true heart felt connection.

  2. Olga says:

    Love it!

  3. Lloyd says:

    The imbalances of patriarchal nature are changing and this is allowing humanity (men and women) to rediscover who and what we truly are. Both Men and women are deeply confused during this process, it takes strength and courage to admit this, however it is a vital part of the process if we want change that will equally empower the masculine and the feminine. This world is driven by the patriarchy, male dominance where women take a backseat. This makes the men a product of an old non serving cycle which is now breaking, awareness is seeded and despite the whole world around us suggesting and dictating how men should behave we are seeing the insanity of this proposed normal and natural behaviour. Women stand up with strength and proclaim enough is enough and Men have the strength and courage to speak your deep inner truth despite what the world around you suggests and persuades. Thank you Simon for being part of the process of the awakening to the possibility of change, change where Women and Men walk this earth as equal aspects of universal magnificence!

    • Truth Seeker says:

      Men and women have been doing this for years — having sex in mutually satisfying ways. Your view is truly archaic, I think. What Simon says is actually contradictory. Let's move beyond the cock, but let's make sure the cock is truly, deeply, madly penetrating, too. Women do need the cock. Very, very badly. They want the cock, and they hope you will give to them in ways they find satisfying. The women on this site, probably twice as much. No, three, times. So let's give it to them, shall we, with righteous glory? There are many different ways to have sex, too, and role playing, some of which may well appear coercive or dominating, may well be part of it. For some, it taps into deep psychic needs.

  4. emercer says:

    hell. yes.

  5. yogasamurai says:

    I love how everyone on EJ describes themselves and their sites with adjectives like "ground-breaking" and "immensely popular." As if that makes it so ?

    Does EJ get a percentage, or a fee to run these infomercials? Seriously…

  6. yogasamurai says:

    The penis is beautiful and needs no restraining or taming. The Hindus celebrated the connection of the lingam and yoni in all it profundity. This connection is the channel of life itself. There are many ways to celebrate this connection – and penetration – without ejaculation per se. Simply by being connected in these realms with much greater spiritual and emotional awareness.

    Key point — this doesn't mean making the woman and her "fantastic" vagina the object of sexual gratification – as much as she may want it to be. Vagina-centrism and the female orgasm are not the solution to the world's problems. That's just the flip side to "phallo-centrism." Okay?

    • Simon says:

      Hello Yogasamurai

      I feel you are saying the same thing in your own words from the perspective of true connection to the Lingham and Yoni. This article isnt really about female orgasm so I am not sure what your key point is. I agree female orgasm isn't the solution to the worlds problems. I would question whether the world has any problems does it? do human have problems would probably be the more apt question and if so what would be the solution to an individuals problem? And of course if you want to move beyond judgement of right and wrong then if there is no wrong what is there to solve? As always words can mislead and as I am sure you are aware we are all caught up on words. The great thing for me is to tune in on a personal level. When I was abusing others and cheating on women and causing perceived pain, I was driven from what I call an unconscious operating system. Reacting to sub conscious programs which were not serving me or anybody else. (you could argue that and say all happened exactly as it should for me to be here and the experiences I created also were what the other person needed to learn and grow) this is of course one view of it…

      What I noticed once my awareness opened and observation shifted was that each and every thought, action, choice, deed was having a ripple effect on the whole of reality, so if this was the case then I can co create something more beautiful in my eyes, something with a harmonious resonance and full of love, compassion, wonder and joy.

      Do I want to change what was or have any regrets? No. Did the pain and unconscious acts have to occur? Maybe, maybe not! Do we have to continue to repeat these cycles as we evolve? I don't think we do. Are we evolving regardless? Yes indeed. Maybe it matters not what we do or where we are or how we got it here. Its all just happening and its more about our reaction to what is. When we realise this life takes on a different form.

      I may have deviated from your question, I hope this clarifies something from what I personally experienced. If not. that's magic too. Thanks you for engaging. I have only just come to see this comment feed!!! all in perfect timing…all now.

      • Truth Seeker says:

        The key point is don't blame yourself for being a man with a proud cock. Use it or lose it. And don't place the onus on men for making sex more integral and whole and deeply fulfilling. All the "negative" qualities you ascribe to men women have too, in equal measure. Stop buying into this repulsive neo-Victorian feminist ideology that treats men as rapacious beasts and women as delicate passion flowers. These are cartoon stereotypes. It's also hate speech. Gender dynamics don't work that way, and women know it, and so do men who are truly aware..

        All that said, I appreciate the vision you express. It's just too bad more women aren't up to it. I'm glad mine is. Peace Man Thanks for commenting, even nearly a year later.

  7. catnipkiss says:

    I lovew this! My last lover was pretty cock-driven and made love with his eyes closed. I am ready for the next step, the partner who can truly connect. Yes, and Yes, and YES!!!! – Alexa

  8. Grace says:

    Brilliant Simon! I love how honest and straight forward you are in this article. Well done! Grace

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  11. Beyond duality says:

    Not all men have cocks and not all women have pussies. Yet the energies described still exist. So placing the sex organs at the centre of thinking about things in this way is limiting. Are you ready to move beyond what you think a 'man' and a 'woman' is?

    • Simon says:

      Hey Beyond Duality. Thanks for the engagement and the question. I feel moving beyond beyond is the journey but of course this takes a process of moving beyond what we already know. This article is part of that moving beyond which I am sure you can see. It happens in stages as I am sure you know ifyou are asking if I or anybody else is ready to move beyond what we think a man or a women is. Of course this takes us into the realm of nothingness and even any word we use here cannot take us beyond anywhere because beyond has no name and no label……..so if you want to head there we can but not with words. But you know this. So if this article and the stage it is uncovering is of interest then great and if you want to hang out in the beyond then lets just look into each others eyes and laugh at the wonder…While we are here I like to play in many realms and share the journey for myself and for others to benefit. But that is optional of course. No expectation, judgement or condition. Just evolving transparently xxxxx Big love

  12. Thanks for sharing your insights and awakening. I hope your article ends up being the catalyst change for many. Too many people miss out on real pleasure, and are more concerned with how good something looks on the end of a penis. Sex education should focus on what the possibilities are, learning to harness that energy then letting go.

  13. Adrian says:

    Thanks for raising some awareness Simon around sex, intimacy, attraction, polarity and consciousness. The fact that many of us learn about sex through unconscious means drives a lot of the ills of which you speak.

    I am a fan of exploring Taoist techniques which include semen retention and focus a lot on the sacred union of two individuals coming together to explore each other and the divine. When you add some David Deida style polarity-play into the mix, I believe that is when things get very interesting.

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