We Only Ever Have Today.

Via on Sep 11, 2012
Photo: NYTimes

I was in a job interview.

People started running around and yelling and making phone calls.

I looked at what was up on CNN on someone’s computer and my brain couldn’t make sense of it. It didn’t seem real. I thought my dad was flying to California, so I immediately tried to get him on the phone. It was chaos. It turned into days of chaos. Weeks of chaos. Checking in with friends who lived in the city. Watching the news. Not being able to stand the news anymore so we watched a DVD of old Seinfeld episodes to feel something other than sad and horrified.

On September 10th, 2001, I was staying in the Millenium Hilton next to the World Trade Center. We had been in the city for a wedding. My (then) fiance and I talked about going to the top of the towers. I had been before and he hadn’t, but we were short on time and funds so we said, “Next time.”

Next time is an illusion.

We never have next time; we only ever have now.

It was a small loss, a minor disappointment in the wake of so much destruction, but it taught me something enormous.

The only day we ever have is today:

When I saw this posted to Facebook this morning, I remembered what day it was.

It’s today.

Today is the day to tell people you love them.

Do that thing you’ve been putting off.

Be more generous than you have to.

Be fully present.

Hug a little bit longer.

Celebrate, just because it’s Tuesday.

Have the second glass of wine.

Write a letter, a real one, and send it.

Call the person you’re mad at.

Say you’re sorry.

Be extraordinary.

Give everything, everything, because the only time you can is now.

Don’t save anything for next time.


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About Kate Bartolotta

Kate Bartolotta is the strongest girl in the world. She is the love child of a pirate and a roller derby queen. She hails from the second star to the right. Her love of words is boundless, but she knows that many of life’s best moments are completely untranslatable. When she is not writing, you may find her practicing yoga, devouring a book, playing with her children, planting dandelions, or dancing barefoot with her heart on her sleeve. She is madly in love with life and does not know how this story ends; she’s making it up as she goes. Kate is the owner and editor-in-chief of Be You Media Group. She also writes for The Huffington Post, elephant journal, The Good Men Project, The Green Divas, Yoganonymous, The Body Project, Project Eve, Thought Catalog and Soulseeds. She facilitates writing workshops and retreats throughout North America. Heart Medicine, Kate's book on writing, is now available on Amazon.com You can follow Kate on Facebook and Twitter


10 Responses to “We Only Ever Have Today.”

  1. Adrienne says:

    I love you Miss Kate. I suppose I am the 2nd strongest girl in the world.

  2. cesar says:

    wonderful reminder.. thank you Miss Kate.

    – cesar

  3. Lori Ann Lothian says:

    Beautiful! Winne the pooh and wise kate. I WILL have that second glass of wine. :-) hugs

  4. coco says:

    Thank you for talking about 9/11 today.

  5. Jodee says:

    Thank you. Love this.

  6. Anne Samit Anne says:

    A beautiful post to print off and read again. And again.

  7. Dearbhla Kelly Dearbhla says:

    Beautiful Kate. Thank you.

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