Jennifer Livingston: 1. Bully: Zero.

Via Kate Bartolotta
on Oct 2, 2012
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This is a response that shows true grace and elegance.

When we can keep our heads under the pressure of small minds, we change the world. When we set the example for our children that bullying—in any form—is unacceptable, we change the world.

I have huge admiration and respect for this woman. She didn’t argue or go on some tirade. She owned who she is and held this man accountable for his behavior. She didn’t go on the defensive. She called him out on his bad behavior eloquently.

She is exactly the kind of role model American children need.


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About Kate Bartolotta

Kate Bartolotta is a wellness cheerleader, yogini storyteller, and self-care maven. She also writes for Huffington Post, Yoga International, Mantra Yoga+ Health, a beauty full mind, The Good Men Project, The Green Divas, The Body Project, Project Eve, Thought Catalog and Soulseeds. Kate's books are now available on and Barnes & She is passionate about helping people fall in love with their lives. You can connect with Kate on Facebook and Instagram.


11 Responses to “Jennifer Livingston: 1. Bully: Zero.”

  1. I have a hard time characterizing the original email from the listener as "bullying" or that he is a bully. It may not have been the most polite or politic thing to say, but, he actually had a bit of point when he said, essentially, that obesity is a problem in the US that needs to be addressed. The news-person in this case is also responsible for her behavior. I don't condone what the guy did particularly, but we need to teach kids to eat appropriately as well as to act respectfully.

  2. Pat says:

    It was not a stranger's place to make personal comments to this lady. Although he is entitled to an opinion, judgmentally expressing it to the news reader is well past the line of polite discourse. He may have just as easily passed his judgment and been just as wrong by commenting on her clothing, hair cut, or nose shape. Her physicality is none of his business.

  3. Korumaze says:

    The way that the guy's original email was written showed no compassion, and was quite pointed and judgemental, so to my mind could be characterised as "bullying". He also seems to be attempting to control the behaviour of others through his words, which is a rather pointless exercise which usually backfires! In this case, rather than putting a focus on obesity (his expressed concern), the focus has been put onto bullying (also a concern, but not his original point). He essentially aimed a gun at one person, and then been shot back at… but he started shooting first. Here is the lesson for me – if you want your true message to be heard, remove judgement and add some compassion.
    Wonderful response by Jennifer Livingstone – best to speak your truth out loud and from the heart, and she did it so well.

  4. Guest says:

    We are beginning to live in a world where one word that could potentially be hurtful automatically translates to "bully." Everything that man said is correct – she is overweight, she does serve as a role model by placing herself in the public eye, and she is thereby carrying on a cycle of an unhealthy lifestyle. Berating a man who pointed out a hurtful truth will not help to kickstart healthier lifestyles in America. Instead of going on the offensive, sometimes one should look within instead of publicly bullying a "bully" to feel better about an unfortunate turth.

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