Stuff Your Stupid, Uplifting Blog Post. ~ Maggie McReynolds

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on Jan 2, 2013
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Sometimes, I get really tired of uplifting blog posts.

Or motivational quotes. Or inspiring stories of people triumphing against all odds. Or pictures of animals hugging each other.

Sometimes, I just want to be in a thunderously bad mood, all right?

Sometimes, I want to be a toddler having a tantrum; I want to stomp my foot and pound my fists against the floor, and scream, “It’s not going to be okay, it’s not it’s not it’s not!”

I refuse to be cheered.

I won’t breathe deeply, or imagine my ethereal higher self cradling me—in fact, just the thought of imagining that makes me want to run head-first into a wall.

I don’t want to chant forgiveness mantras or hug a freaking rhododendron. I will not be assuaged, damn it! Stuff is seriously sucking around here and I demand my right to be pissed off about it!

So you know what I do? I go right ahead and get pissed off.

I stomp around. I eat something ridiculous like cold leftover pizza for breakfast (because I’m too irritated to be gluten and lactose-intolerant, okay???). I cry, I play online Scrabble, I hide under the covers and sleep.

And sometimes, allowing myself to feel exactly what I’m feeling moves me past the fear and the anger and the despair and the suckishness way faster than any meditation session or motivational pep talk ever could.

When I allow myself to feel what I am feeling—even when I’m not proud of what I’m feeling—I make room for those feelings to change.

And then, sometimes, I find that after having that tantrum or hiding in mindless media marathons or eating stupid stuff, I pop out the other side, and boom, just like that, I’m calm and positive and in a good place again.

Sometimes, I find that I end up writing an uplifting blog post after all.

Damn it.

Maggie McReynoldsMaggie McReynolds is an award-winning writer, certified life coach and writing coach who helps clients with real or perceived limitations break through to create lives of meaning, fulfillment, and joy. She specializes in helping both writers and non-writers find their authentic “voice” and create compelling content and manageable writing routines that don’t suck, as well as in life, love and career coaching.



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59 Responses to “Stuff Your Stupid, Uplifting Blog Post. ~ Maggie McReynolds”

  1. Drupadi says:

    LOL. This is so true. I do this sometimes too :)

  2. Somebody needs to turn their frown into a crown. When I feel like a lemon, I like to go drink a glass of nice lemon aid.

  3. Susan Carol says:

    We all think it but didnt say it, so… Thanks!

  4. Kim Leamer Maleski says:

    We all do it! Marathon chocolate binging, mindless facebook games, or just plain old "getting into a funk" as my grandmother would have said! Thanks for reminding me that "the only way through my feelings…is to let go of my feelings!" Thanks!

  5. Kris says:

    Thank you!!! Love it.

  6. michigoose says:

    It's difficult to remember this in the age of relentless positivity! Thanks, Maggie.

  7. Martha says:

    NICE… Damn it! :)

  8. This is so, so true – I shocked a client the other day by telling her a road rage story. Apparently she thought I sit in lotus position and ommm all day…

  9. Lauren Russo says:

    Oh man I struggle with this mightily, esp around the holidays, esp around friends and family I don't see all the time. I find stomping to be very effective, too. I also find it helps having at least one person you can vent to who understands it's nothing you want to hold on to (and therefore doesn't want to bring it up after you're over it)–took me YEARS to figure that out!

    Thanks for keeping us real, Maggie!

    Also, @Christa–you DON'T sit in a lotus position and omm all day? I am so confused…

  10. ahalifedesign says:

    So important to allow ourselves to feel what we feel – both positive and negative emotions. If we shut off the pipeline to one, we also shut of the pipeline to the other. Great post Maggie.

  11. Kaybea says:

    I have done this! Gave myself permission to feel the crapiness of it all for 24hrs and then got on with it.

  12. Gail says:

    Always figured the problem was around the labels of 'good' or 'bad' feelings, then the feelings themselves. Whatever truth you are experiencing is the one you are experiencing and resisting it instead of simply letting it flow is what keeps us hung up, and strung out. Thanks for sharing. xoxo

  13. Carolyn says:

    This is a great post and so true! Often when I let myself feel exactly what I'm feeling there is an amazing wealth of insight that surfaces! Hidden in all that anger and frustration is often a truth that I hadn't been willing to acknowledge (you know, I really, really don't want to go to that party!). Thank you for sharing.

  14. bzgirl says:

    completely agree. And sometimes it's OK to be a brat & throw a tantrum – as long as you're not hurting anyone else. I think it's good to express emotions.

  15. Maggie McReynolds says:

    A well-placed tantrum really clears the air. I just make sure I'm alone first!

  16. lynnhess says:

    Absolutely!! I find that when I try to pretend like I'm not pissy, or stuff my "bad" feelings down, it ends up taking wayyyy longer for them to go away, and is much more torturous in the process. Gotta get the toxins out!

  17. Maggie McReynolds says:

    Ohhhhh yes. I wasted a lot of my early adulthood putting on a happy face. There's a time and a place for that, but there's definitely a time and a place for a little foot-stompin', too. Thanks, Lynn!

  18. Vision_Quest2 says:

    Not afraid to cry. Out of anger, not just grief or compassion.
    It does scare some people off.

    I've always been a crybaby.
    As an old lady, I don't give a crap what others think of that anymore.

  19. Absolutely agree…sometime ya just gotta feel what ya feel, have that tantrum and then move on. But, the key is NOT getting stuck in that tantrum place, as many of us are prone to do. Love your writing!!


  20. You had me at [email protected] rhodedendron. Applause! THANKS FOR WRITING SOMETHING REAL!!!!

  21. Joanne O. says:

    Perfect for the New Year – thanks!

  22. Andi says:

    I LOVE THIS. Great writing!

  23. Emily says:

    "even when I’m not proud of what I’m feeling" — This line really struck me. As soon as I feel that I'm not proud of what I'm feeling, I'm enveloped in shame over it and in comes the resistance. That seems to be taking it way too far. Not proud doesn't have to equal shame. It can simply mean not proud. It's neutral. Thanks for inspiring me to see that!

  24. Heidi Nord says:

    ATT (Adult Temper Tantrums) :-)
    Love it, you're a great writer!

  25. Jennifer M. says:

    I'm going to pat this article in a prominent place in my home. Then, when I'm pissed I will just point to it and stomp off….may just save my husband some heartache. :-). Thanks fer being real.

  26. Tattered Butterfly Arts says:

    Love it.

  27. SK22 says:

    LOL i thought that is what meditation is all about, allowing yourself to feel however you are feeling and watching your thoughts and feelings without judging them, just accepting that that's what is happening (or you are doing) right now. there's a difference though, i think, between feeling what you are feeling, and reacting to those feelings in some way (which in many ways, like eating junk, watching mind numbing television, drinking, doing drugs, etc is actually an attempt to get away from that feeling by distracting us with something that makes us temporarily feel good .. and actually get us (me) further away from feeling what im feeling..)

    nice post! i like!

  28. Michelle says:

    You've gone & done it – made me smile – once again. Thanks Maggie!

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  30. jackie says:

    Bravo Maggie! I also like to indulge in a little conscious complaining (and tantrums) every now and then.

  31. Andy Macleod says:

    Loved it Maggie. Thanks.

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