A Mindful Approach to Blame & Taking Responsibility.

Via on Jun 9, 2014

Rumi

“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing,
there is a field. I’ll meet you there.

When the soul lies down in that grass,
the world is too full to talk about.
Ideas, language, even the phrase “each other” doesn’t make any sense.”

~ Rumi  (13th century)

Let’s meet in this field, far away from routine.

Stop everything you’re thinking about, and just consider these words typed up on your screen, appearing magically, mesmerisingly in front of you on a multi-coloured screen. Did you ever think how your life is created as reality, and yet how much are you conscious of, and what is actually real?

We live inside a bubble of perception.

Everything that seems real isn’t. Everything is an illusion, and arguably the only thing “real” is the soul.

What people are seeking is seeking them. What people are seeking is inside of them already. It is waiting, it is asking them to wake up. It is tapping them on the shoulders.

What you focus on is really reality for you, but it’s not “true reality,” if there is such a thing. Absolute reality is beyond human perception.

The world I see around me is filled with people rushing around doing things, and trying so hard to make it in the world. What would happen if everything stopped—just momentarily—and everything went silent. Imagine the difference it would make.

Imagine what it would be like to live in a mindful world, where people could actually be fully present, and lend their presence to their life. Bringing the full force of mindfulness, one’s conscious awareness to each instant, would be power of such magnitude it would stop the world. And stopping the world, would change the world.

We could become aware of our choices, become aware of ourselves and how we have created our circumstances, how we are responsible for everything in our lives.

Everything we do is based on the choices we make.

The deep subconscious programs that run are consciousness that is usually beyond our awareness or conscious responsibility. These programs are often not even ours and we are probably unaware that they run our lives. We are victims of our programming to a degree. The moment you become aware of this is the moment you “wake up” and start becoming consciously aware of these programs. At that moment, one becomes responsible for one’s choices.

Everything I do is based on the choices I make. I am only responsible for how I perceive what unfolds, which I desire to be enjoyable. The more responsible I am, the better choices I will make. Choices are based on what we are aware of, which is admittedly and pitifully little. 

I dream of having conscious freedom to decide, to choose my own path. True freedom is not to be free of others, it is to be free of our conditioning, the one who controls us.

To know that you are a soul—that is freedom.

Let’s choose now, together as a society, to remove blame from our emotional vocabulary.

Let’s stop blaming our parents.

Let’s stop blaming our lover, partner, children and grandchildren.

Let’s stop blaming our boss, job and economy.

Let’s stop blaming our social status, economic status, gender, age, skin color, religion and nationality.

Let’s stop blaming circumstances, or the weather conditions.

We are responsible for every choice we make, every decision, every thought, every feeling, every action.

Make that responsibility count.

Come and live fully in presence.

 

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About David G Arenson ND

David G Arenson ND worked in corporate South Africa, before embarking on a spiritual odyssey that took him to Jerusalem, Australia, Asia and beyond. En route, he earned degrees in complementary medicine and various professional certifications. Having worked throughout the world as a wellness specialist offering healing, speaking, teaching, soul-coaching, and consulting, he established his own retreat company, METAMORPHOSIS RETREATS, dedicated to transformational travel. As a Naturopath and Soul-Coach, David integrates spiritual journeying into grounded wisdom for everyday living, presenting powerful concepts in personal change and living on purpose. He is now available for consulting or soul-coaching sessions via skype. Or you can contact him to discuss retreat options for your company. To find out more, visit his website, mretreat.com---Email him at davidgarenson@gmail.com. You can also connect with him on facebook and twitter @davidarenson.

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4 Responses to “A Mindful Approach to Blame & Taking Responsibility.”

  1. melliebear says:

    This was very nicely written! Thank you for sharing!

  2. Melina says:

    http://www.bullyonline.org/schoolbully/myths.htm

    Check out this article that points out where the "no blame approach" can go wrong when people are being bullied, mistreated or oppressed. It can sometimes mistakenly lead to no accountability and to giving the bully or oppressor more power…it can also lead to misplaced blame as in vicitim shaming and blaming.

    Also I strongly believe that there is such a thing as right and wrong…sorry Rumi

    • There's a difference between blame and responsibility. Actions have consequences. A culture of taking responsibility is really the ideal, instead of "victims." Where there is a case of someone being bullied, it's important to address it, and work with the bullies as well as those being bullied. Rehabilitation is the ideal. Neither a victim should be shamed, nor a perpetrator punished to an extreme. A perpetrator must learn there are consequences to his/her action. Consequences don't need to feel like humiliation or shame. Sensitivity is required. Call this a mindful approach.

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