10 Things I Find Sexy in a Woman (That Have Nothing to Do with Looks).

Via Damien Bohler
on Feb 16, 2013
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I love women.

I love the way they seem to always smell good; how they can change topics five times a minute while talking with their girlfriends and yet it makes sense to them.

I love the way women touch and kiss me and the way they surrender when orgasming.

This is a response to Melanie Curtin’s article celebrating the masculine 10 Things I Find Sexy About Men (That Aren’t All About Sex); thank you, Melanie, for seeing the masculine and admiring our strengths and gifts as men—for seeing our inherent sexiness and for being turned on by us.

Reading your article, I felt excited to be a man, as all the things you have listed feel good for me also. I feel seen, loved and proud to be masculine and to enjoy the amazing feminine that you and all the other women out there embody.

After reading your article, I was inspired to write an equal celebration of the feminine and express my appreciation of woman’s inherent sexiness and the turn-on I feel by that.

I love the shape of their bodies, how it curves as a complement to mine and is soft even when it’s firm.

I love that we are different and the way we arrange and think about life is different, although may seem similar from the outside.

I love the way we balance each other out and when we come together as man and woman, something unique arises for both of us.

The feminine has me in awe and I am most inspired to hold the stage so that you blossom and radiate and bring forth that love the universe thrives on so we may play and love freely enjoying this…whatever this is. All right, all right that is a getting a bit too flowery. Let’s get on with it!

10. Sassiness

A woman who isn’t afraid to express her boundaries clearly and playfully is hot.

I didn’t even know this word until about six months ago when I met a woman who embodied sassiness to me, and damn, was it sexy. She took no shit from nobody; her attitude was fun and snappy and I found myself enjoying it immensely, even when I was on the receiving end of it.

I see sassiness as a woman’s ability to hold to her own intentions in a way that is clear, direct and playful. It is when she can snap out saucy one-liners that state what her boundaries are in a way that leaves room for playful banter and further exploring those boundaries. She is telling me what is and isn’t okay and she is giving me the space to play with that, to lean into it and see what is a solid boundary and what is negotiable.

Knowing her boundaries, I get to know her more; it is an opportunity for opening and connecting, when I am solid enough to not turn into a big suck if she blows me off.

9. Freely Expresses her Moods

This one used to bother and confound me (a lot) until I got into a better relationship with the emotionality of the feminine and began to see how awesome the full spectrum of it is.

I love how in tune women are with their emotions and how expressive and honest they are. How, when she is in a loving mood she will randomly show me affection, cuddling me from behind or kiss me out of nowhere and when the storm is swirling inside of her, how powerful her wrath can be. And, when I settle into myself and enjoy the show, all of it is fun and damn, a woman can be incredibly sexy in her wrath.

And, most of all I love that when I am fully with her, whatever mood she’s in, it’s always an opportunity for opening and deeper connection.

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8. Takes Care of Herself

One of my favorite things is to lie in bed and watch a woman prepare herself for the day. Watching her apply various lotions, moisturizers and makeup that I have absolutely no idea about; seeing her get dressed—and a woman never wears the first thing she puts on—there is always at least one change if not more. To go into the bathroom and see a rack of various shampoos, soaps and creams.

That a woman carries around a handbag, a clutch, a satchel, or a whatever. (I didn’t even know what a clutch was until a woman friend told me about it earlier this week!) That she has a huge collection of shoes and clothes, and that she has her favorites which are on rotation—and that she has the ability to dress for any event.

I love how a woman will even be thinking about what she is going to wear days before any event.

I know how much effort you women put into yourself and we appreciate it and enjoy it. We may not know exactly what you’re doing, we notice, (even when we act like we don’t).

A woman’s appearance is art in motion; it is a creative process that I have little idea of. Manicures, pedicures, shaving, waxing, you name it! And then, she finishes dressing and tells me to hurry up. I put on my pants and shirt in two minutes and am waiting by the door while she is still applying the finishing touches.

7. Takes Care of Sh*t!

This is also a cliché, yet I find it so true. I know how to wash my own clothes and fold them (sort of); I can keep a house clean and pay bills. I have even mended my own stuff with a needle and thread on the odd occasion and yet, I do none of it well. My clothes are never as clean or smell as good as when a woman washes them; I have no idea how to remove a stain and I tend to throw stuff onto shelves or into drawers as they never fold quite right. I also hate paying bills and having to follow the in and out flow of money (luckily I currently have zero bills in my life).

Women are just better at this stuff and when I have a woman who takes care of this, it makes my life less stressful. Let’s swap. I’ll take care of all the “manly” stuff; fixing and moving heavy stuff around and you can take care of the womanly stuff and make things look and smell good!

6. Appreciates my Help

Source: via Sharyl on Pinterest

Truly helping a woman out makes me feel awesome. When I can give her a piggyback ride across a puddle or move something heavy for her and when she is genuinely grateful for my help.

Some women refuse help when offered and that makes me sad, hey, most of us don’t want anything in return. So, when a woman asks, or graciously accepts help, it’s sexy because we both get to feel good.

5. Her smile

I love it when a woman smiles; I mean really smiles, in a way that her heart and soul shine. It doesn’t matter what it’s directed at, it could be a baby, a puppy, a cute animal, her boyfriend, husband or even better, at me!

Any which way, every time a woman smiles that beautiful smile a fairy is born and the world becomes a slightly more beautiful place.


4. The Way She Moves

It doesn’t matter how a woman dances, just that she feels the music and lets it move her.

There was one young woman, a friend and I, met a while ago while traveling to an island in Thailand. She danced in a way that I had never seen before; bobbing up and down and her tongue would poke out of her mouth occasionally in this incredibly cute way.

It wasn’t particularly sexy, in the way we generally think about sexy dancing, yet both my friend and I were so captivated by the way she moved and enjoyed the music that we danced with her for several hours straight. It was a turn-on as she was dancing in a way that was her expression and that is what is sexy.

Of course it is also hot when a woman does dance sexy, and dances with her friends, and yes, dances with me!

3. Communicates Honestly and Openly

As adults, we can communicate as such. I find it incredibly attractive when a woman can communicate clearly. I am a pretty sensitive guy in terms of being able to feel and interpret people’s emotions, but I’m still a guy and my powers in that field pale in comparison to a woman’s awareness of subtle nuances of feelings and emotions.

Sometimes, I just don’t know what you are feeling and why and when you can tell me clearly whatever it is that is going on for you in the moment; it makes it so much more rewarding and easy to be with you. I appreciate you for exploring what is actually going on with me, so that we can find a way to mutually avoid conflict.

Bravely following the thread whether it leads us to hurt, pain or otherwise, we’re opening ourselves up.

2. Trusts Me

couple in fieldIn the past, women in my life never seemed to have trouble deciding where to go or what to eat. The fact that they looked at me to make the decisions put stress and pressure on me. I used to scream in my head, “Why can’t she just choose?”

Now, I see that as a total cop-out, as the man, I am privileged when she asks me to take the lead. I now thoroughly enjoy having some kind of plan or idea of where we are going and what we’re doing; I like to design a date in line with what a particular woman inspires in me to explore, or to spontaneously see what happens as we come together in our own unique way. I like to make it mysterious and fun, an adventure that we get to act out together and however it may unfold, it is so sexy when a woman can trust me and go along with me.

Whatever happens, I will take care of her and for the duration of our time together my biggest responsibility is for her to feel safe and enjoy the hell out of herself!

And together, we join in a dance that never quite fits what I had envisioned and is almost always way better than I expected as she brings along her own flavor and radiance to the experience. This trust can go deeper than just a date. When she sees my honesty and authenticity and trusts me, that’s just hot. Then, I can relax and open up also.

1. Shares her feelings

This is something new to me. More lately, the women in my life express to me how they feel in their body in the moment when I do or say something. And, it is incredibly sexy.

In that moment of them expressing themselves I feel very close to them, there is a circuit that is completed between us and we are dropping into the present moment.

A somewhat tame example of this (and I have other examples that are way hotter) was when I was sitting holding hands under the table with a cute girl that I like. She said, quietly to me only, that when she’s with me she has butterflies in her stomach. Wow! To share something like that with me, about me, feels incredible. She was being vulnerable, letting me know that I actually have an impact on her, and that’s very, very sexy!

In these moments I feel most like a man, knowing that this woman with me truly feels something by my very presence, that me being myself has moved her.

Anytime a woman shows her vulnerabilities; anger, hurt, fear or sadness, it allows us to be closer to one another and go deeper. I think this ability is one of the cornerstones of having an authentic relationship. And that is what I think everyone is truly looking for, whether they are aware of it or not.


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About Damien Bohler

Damien Bohler is a nomadic soul increasingly delighted by his existence on this strange and wonderful planet. He enjoys writing, climbing trees, walking barefoot, permaculture, integral theory and holding optimistic idealism for the potential of the human species. You can like his Facebook page and be informed about his upcoming book series "Evolutionary Relating", read his other writings at his website, MonkeysCorner or be his Facebook friend .


87 Responses to “10 Things I Find Sexy in a Woman (That Have Nothing to Do with Looks).”

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  3. Joy says:

    Damien, I think it’s beautiful that you took the time to write this and celebrate what you feel about women. It made me a little sad to see the backlash – but then I realised it probably raised the necessary responses in you (and us all) that you (we) needed to learn from, whatever they may be 😉

    We can’t expect that our words will be taken well by everyone, of course…I find myself wondering more about your reaction to the comments – not that I expect or need you to provide me with an answer – just wondering if the whole process helped inform you further? Were there certain things that felt more personal than others? Or was it even a case of having originally written from such a known space within you that the feedback, of any kind, had less impact than it might have if you had been in a less true space?

    I’m not sure where these questions are coming from….maybe a wish to return to the deeper nature of what it was you seemed to be expressing, from where I am standing.

    At the heart of this response, though, is an intellectual understanding that I wish I could fully inhabit – that I am more comfortable in my own skin and my own habits than I perhaps realise. So thank you for helping me in bringing that to awareness.

    It’s a long path we’re all on – I’m happy to have crossed yours for this moment 🙂



  4. Olga says:

    hahaha my thoughts exactly, I couldn't wait to finish reading and read the comments.

  5. Jamie Khoo says:

    Absolutely loving this piece Damien – not just in what you have written, but in how you have written it, which is so joyful, appreciative, respectful, beautiful, loving, witty, playful. I also love your replies – not being afraid to hear what else readers have to say, even if they totally disagreed with your points, and being so willing to embrace other suggestions and views and thoughts about women.

    If you lived in the same city as I did, I'd totally force you to come out for tea and play scrabble with me xxx

  6. Nenou says:

    I just love you…

  7. Lindsay says:

    Yes, your intention is appreciated, just seems like a you have a 50's view of what men do and what women do. It's nice when men offer to help carry something heavy, but you know what dude, I've got it! Maybe you could go put some clothes in the washer, I'd actually really appreciate that!!!

  8. Mels says:

    I couldn't agree with the post more. Thank you so much. Also, has he ever thought about how men need to express their feelings too? What is depicted in this article is a woman who cares endlessly about appearance, is dramatic, must perform "housewife" duties (not lifting heavy things), and cannot be taken seriously. Her existence is not to entertain a man. She's not on the planet to cook, clean, wear makeup, and share her feelings for YOU. I'm stunned that this author said when she communicates clearly, it makes it easier to be with her. What about men sharing feelings? Why is it only the woman's duty to share feelings in order to create a closer relationship?

    This view of a woman is what perpetuates sexism and misogyny and makes me sick. It's incredibly disempowering and blindly disrespectful. Women are just as powerful and capable as men.

    Thank you SO MUCH pagz, for being a man who realizes the power of a woman. I really admire your response.

  9. Lisa says:

    As a woman, I found this whole article to be sexy…..and sweet…and very insightful

  10. gerry says:

    the last sentence is perfect here maggie

  11. James Fraser says:

    Sexy, for both women and men….is ALL about attitude

  12. @towergrl says:

    This piece is simply divine. I refuse to say spot-on because that is such a ridiculous and suddenly overused phrase, but it is honest, accurate and quite lovely. As a female reader, Damien's article makes me want to cheer and not in a spunky little outfit, but in my very own skin! I see and feel what he loves in a woman, and have accepted that vulnerability as a beautiful thing, rather than a flaw(s). I am so pleased to read this well-written, from the heart tribute to women.

  13. Natasha May says:

    My heart absolutely raced after reading this… I'm still catching my breath. Thank you for your beautiful words.

  14. Kaeli Severer says:

    I think you did a good job of addressing a controversial topic without being overtly sexist. Nice job! 🙂

  15. jwang1155 says:

    Sir, let me acknowledge you for being brave for sharing your opinion. I also really appreciate the time you are taking to reflect on many of the things people are saying, and ACTUALLY responding to them. That sort of dialogue is very hard to come by in society, these days.

    However, I am in agreement with Maggie. As a female who has witnessed how caregivers (mainly female) have been treated within the familial context and society overall (caregivers being a blanket term for mothers, daughters, sisters, migrant workers, nannies, etc), as a female who comes at the issues from a very critical, sociological/social justice and social work oriented lens, as a female who has witnessed first hand the oppression of females and the burden this places on their social mobility and gender performativity (i.e. what we wear, how we behave, how we interact), I am highly critical of this article from these frameworks.

    I, like Maggie, do not doubt the well intention behind this article. I think the author genuinely is being honest with HIS experiences of femininity and HIS appreciation for it. However, he is not questioning the underlying problems of gender and hetero-normativity. A lot of his article speaks to his respect for females from a 'male gaze' where the female is a spectacle of beauty and grace, and the overall performance of the female gender. There were some instances where I agreed with you, for example, emotional honesty and open communication are fundamental for ANY human relationship (romantic, platonic, between opposite sexes and same sexes and those who identify as neither/both/undecided).

    And then there were some instances where I was really disappointed. For example, "takes care of herself". Others have pointed this out but it is worth repeating. What about the women who take care of themselves by exercising? By eating healthy? By filling their minds with knowledge from books, from life experiences, from personal story-telling? Are these "women" not as women as others? To value the woman who takes care of her looks without acknowledging how women take care of their mind, their body (and often the mind and bodies of others) seems to value the former over the latter.

    "Sassiness" – This section seems to imply a preference for women who are more subtle, "fun" and feminine. What happens when she is very firm and assertive, and probably pushes up against masculine boundaries? Is she a bitch? Must "women" express their opinions in a certain way, in a certain behaviour, and still have their opinion accepted solely on the basis that is a sound, well reasoned opinion.

    I think the author needs to spend some time deconstructing his own masculinity and how that plays into his understanding of relationality. A lot of what is said would have more depth, and be less superficial if you replace 'woman' with 'human'. Instead his choice of words reflect and reinforce the dichotomy of male/female and what roles they play in heteronormative intimacy and/or relationship.

    Also, for all those people are saying that the wording of the article does not/should not matter. I believe IT DOES.
    Language is how we communicate values and ideology. To me, this article communicates and supports problematic discourses of gender performativity and heteronormative relationality.

    Also, might we problematize the connection between gender performativity and "sexiness". I don't want to be objectified/perceived by my sex or gender, I want be perceived and received for my kindness, my generosity, my critical thinking abilities…regardless of my gender.

    To the author (and anybody else for that matter): If you would like clarification on the terms of "gender perfomativity" and "heternormativity", please don't hesitate. I'm no expert, but I recognize that these are theoretically dense terms and ideas and I'm more than happy to try to shed some light.

    Thank you for an article that has, for me, been very insightful into the male gaze, masculinity and its relationship to the ideal femininity.

  16. Jah Seeka says:

    Whoa… You really got beat up in the first few comments! I cannot say that I share that feedback! I love what you wrote and all of the things that you appreciated about femininity in this article, are all things that I love about being a woman. I can only hope that more men as well as future generations,

    will share your vision and see beyond the commercialized sex appeal which is sadly defining women today.

  17. toadstoolmamma says:

    I agree with you. I'm a bit disappointed, as it seems that even guys who are trying to do the right thing just don't get it. I don't think the writer had any malicious intent, at all, it's obvious that he loves women, but a lot of it reads like a pat on the head.

  18. Lindiz says:

    I agree. It is a lovely article, that made me laugh and smile. thank you.

  19. Kellee says:

    Really sweet read. Thank you and good job!

  20. luhvulblogger says:

    I think this article was very honest and was written with love and admiration for what this man sees in women. I am a feminist, I am a woman, I want to be treated with respect. I don't want to be whistled at by strangers, or "hollered" at from across the street. I don't want to be expected to do or be anything just because I am a woman. At the same time, I enjoy wearing makeup, I think it's fun. Does that make me less of a deserving, respectable, intelligent woman? I would rather not be the one to lift the heavy couch on moving day, but I will definitely help. I would rather cook dinner than mow the lawn, if he wants to cook with me GREAT, but I won't feel less of a woman or a feminist if he doesn't. The point is not that one sex tends to do one thing more than the other, it is that I and we have a choice. I am a woman and I love all of those things he said about women too. And there are a number of seemingly superficial things I love about men. And he did point out that a woman's wrath is very sexy so he didn't just prefer the playful. You and your husband are of course entitled to your opinion, and as a woman I appreciate people standing up for us, but I think the writer is more on our side than you think. My boyfriend is actually a lot better at cleaning and laundry than I am, I don't think being good at those things is demeaning for either sex. I'm guessing that the women in the writers life have just always been better at it than him and he loves that, but I'm also guessing that he knows that it's not gender exclusive.

  21. Amy E says:

    This is a great article! Any man that can appreciate a vivacious woman, will never be bored. Feel flattered that she feels safe enough with you to express her true feelings. She is being genuine. Using humor to diffuse anger is a precious gift.

  22. Regina says:

    Gracias Damien, lindas palabras.

  23. foreveralone says:

    This article paints a certain dynamic that I cannot relate to. That I suspect many women cannot relate to. I don't know if it's sour grapes or not, but not all women are in a place to "take care of themselves" – people recovering from lifelong traumas, a life of poverty and constant struggle to survive.. find it hard to let their guard down and be vulnerable, dance and relax, drink a glass of wine and let their hair down and "surrender" to pleasure they way it's portrayed here. It hurts, that's all. It's not fair. Such romance is a privilege and we are the untouchables. We will never be beautiful in your world.

  24. Savvy says:

    I dont understand the negative comments at all. Its beaituful to see someone write a positive piece and be thankful for something. ANYTHING. Not all of us have the same opinions but if we spent more time appreciating what we enjoy and LESS time nit picking (yes you negative comment leavers) we would all be much happier. Thank you for the article.

  25. Ailsa says:

    I think the idea behind the article is lovely but not all women are anything like you describe. Essentially you only find a woman sexy if she holds these traits. Some women will go through their whole life’s never doing make up, or applying lotion.

    The intention behind the article is nice but I imagine not all women can relate to this… Only the ones that are like this will be able to.

  26. Hippolyta5437 says:

    I'm happy to see I'm not the only reader who is taken aback by this article. I found it mildly insulting and misogynistic. I understand that this is the author's personal point of view, what he values in women….but it feels very limiting and even demeaning. I guess those women who cannot relate to all of these specific qualities (like myself) will be a little off put by this article. I am reminded of Maya Angelou's poem, "Phenomenal Woman". There are many qualities in women I personally find beautiful and sexy with any age, size, and variation of standard beauty. Women who glow with confidence, intelligence, competence, purpose, love, and laughter. I hope the author reflects upon his work once more.

  27. Hippolyta5437 says:

    I think your response is perfect. Thank you.

  28. Lucy Davies says:

    I totally agree. It really makes me sad. I simply think this author could do with looking up what Feminism truly means…and maybe it might make him rethink- in his bio describing women as 'ripe' also makes my stomach turn….pretty silly hippyness in my humble (hippy!) view!

  29. Lucy Davies says:

    Ok so everyone here seems to generally feel the love and that's great. That's wonderful I'm sure you're a sweet guy who means so well. Also, as a fellow writer, I appreciate the prose and congratulate you on getting your work out there and starting so much discussion! Great. Amazing and positive. However, personally I just can't get over the 'make-up, taking-care-of-herself' section. I can't get over it because, every day for most of my life/ since puberty I've gone through it, and on the whole, honestly, for me it isn't fun. Occasionally, with a group of girls it can be fun. Getting in fancy dress for a festival, is fun, putting on bright red lippy and sparkley eyelashes and bindi's is fun. But generally, day-to-day, my self-care is not fun.

    Everyday I have one thought in my mind when I get ready and it's not ' oh FUN! what shall I wear today?' It is more like; 'what shall I wear so that I am accepted / acceptable for whatever I have to do today' Its not ' OMG I LOVE waxing!' it's 'if I don't wax then he won't like me', if I don't wax; 'everyone in the swimming pool will laugh at me' it's 'if I don't put on make-up I'll be told I don't look smart enough' if it's a day of an interview or some other event, I stress about it even more. I find it hard to believe that many men feel these daily pressures. Or for that matter even appreciate them. Don't get me wrong I adore men it's just to me, this piece and your words after it are all very 'cute' but, ultimately it's old-school-patronising-patriarchy dressed up in travelling-hippy-thai-trousers.

    Finally for the record I'd like to add the sexiest I have ever felt was when my (now husband) told me that I looked hottest when I just woke up, without any make-up on, when I hadn't shaved for months and my legs prickled his!

  30. Olive says:

    poor guy! It makes me sad how judgmental and argumentative the comments are. This is what he finds sexy and no not ALL women will fit in.
    I’ve learned one great thing from this article: never read the comments because people are jerks.

  31. Hannah L says:

    This article made me feel sort of sad. I am more of a "tom boy" type of girl, so I was disheartened to read this list of things men find sexy for a female such as primping, cleaning, receiving help, and being "sassy". For example, I do not have any crazy getting ready routine that involved doing nails/make-up/hair etc. I hate that I feel like I should behave in the ultra feminine manner when it's just not me.

    I was happy to hear about men appreciating the diverse emotional ranges of women … but what about a driven, hard-working, strong, smart, talented, independent woman??? From my experience, I'm unsure if men like that, and it hurts my feelings.

    What if I don't need help moving something heavy? I still want someone to appreciate me =(

  32. Adam H says:

    Wow…the thread for this just runs and runs!

    Monkey…I loved hearing your thoughts…but a few of the comments just left me feeling really despondent.

    I saw you being honest about your feelings and then, by some, totally shot down, even including the word misogynist. I don’t think this is okay….effectively some responses on this thread are telling another that their feelings, which they have bravely shared, are wrong…

    I believe there are a growing number of men who are trying really hard to develop a new way of being with and living with women (and men) that is more authentic than the traditional male roles allow. I believe that an important part of this is speaking your truth and being honest, without fear of judgement. But my experience is that one of the biggest barriers to being authentic about what i find sexy or sassy or a turn on is the threat of being called sexist…and even at this point I’m thinking…can I talk about this?

    I totally get that, of course, all women (and men) are different and that the continual media brainwashing of the ‘perfect’ female body type must be incredibly hurtful. For me, as a short, blond man I am repeatedly faced with the description of the ‘perfect’ male type as tall, dark and handsome…it goes in this kind of thing…I know.

    So i guess my point is that can we try to have a dialogue about the differences between men and women in a way that celebrates them and is positive and doesn’t immediately reach for easy catch all terms like misogynist when that was clearly not even vaguely the intent.

    Thank you Monkey for having the courage to share….

  33. Monkey says:

    I think driven, hard-working, strong, smart, talented and independent are sexy qualities too!

    The whole make-up and lotion part was a not-very-well edited point by me. I wanted to convey the way a woman pays attention to herself, not the actual use of make-up or whatever.

  34. Monkey says:

    Thanks for your comments bro!

    I find myself simultaneously increasingly accepting of the desire to create gender-neutrality, and entirely resistant to it.

    I love the polarities between masculine and feminine, men and women. I love all the unique flavours and expressions of humans available on the planet. I have zero desire to ever try and reduce all of this diversity to some kind of bland, homogenous sameness!

    The universe is one of polarities and paradox. Can't get rid of them (at least not without entering non-dual awareness, at which point who gives a fuck whether something is gender-neutral, inclusive, or whatever).

  35. Dani says:

    In my opinion, as man, this article is full of prejudices and denigrating for women. Can't be accepted in XXI century, feminism is loosing if women accept these , with a smile…

  36. Heidi says:

    Really enjoyed reading this blog. Honestly, as I was reading it, my thoughts were that you were refreshingly, emotionally evolved. I was also happy to read what Adam H had to say.

  37. Ana says:

    I loved your piece. I wouldn't change it or let women "proof read" it and "edit" it because it's your personal opinion and you have the right to it. I smiled when I read it but then was surprised by the amount of somewhat "offended" comments. I am a woman and I am genuinely scared of where we are going with extreme feminism these days. I see women who can't connect with their feminine anymore because they are so focused on equality. I found this article really honest, so thank you for writing this