[Warning: Photos contain Nudity & Sexuality] The Art of Oral Sex.

Via Kate Rose
on Jun 3, 2015
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“Honey, If I can still walk to the kitchen after sex, then you don’t deserve a sandwich.” 

 

Editor’s Note: This is just one take on sexuality. Enjoy it—or not. Sex should be fun, and mutual, and extra-ordinary—not taboo. In that spirit, may this be of some benefit. ~ ed.

Oral sex is just as delicious for us as it is for our men. And while each woman is different, there are certain techniques to help ensure that not only will she be screaming with pleasure at the end—her legs will be left weak and shaking.

Unless foreplay has been going on all day though erotic and sexy messages, your partner will need a little heating up. Start by kissing her mouth tenderly, then biting her lips. If mutually agreeable, grab her by the hair (no pain!) and let her know that you intend to take control of her. You can take turns, taking control.

While you are moving between slow shallow kisses, and deep penetrating kisses, let your hands roam her body—her skin, grabbing at her flesh and softly running your fingertips along her back so goose bumps arise.

Let your tongue trail down her neck, and her ear lobes. Suck on her neck alternating with small bites while you begin to massage her breasts, moving your thumbs over her nipples as you start to rub your hand over her pussy—without penetration.

Whisper in her ear that you want to taste her, and feel her cum in your mouth. Tell her that just tasting her makes you hard and you want to lick her until she can’t walk.

Gently slide one finger down over her clit and into the opening of her pussy, feeling how wet she already is. With one finger gently repeat this several times while sucking on her nipples, lightly biting them as well. To tease her a bit slide your fingers inside of her, while you take her entire nipple in your mouth—if she gasps and raises her hips you’re on the right track.

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When she is fully ripe and ready to be licked, her clit should feel like a small pearl underneath your fingers, and the lips of her pussy should be swollen and wet.

Once you feel your woman ready for you, begin licking and kissing down her stomach. Don’t rush on this, as alluring as it is, anticipation will drive her wild. Spend some time on her lower abdomen and hip areas, including the crease of her thighs—kissing and licking, both softly and firmly. Grab her ass with your hands and kiss the inside of her thighs, alternating between using soft kisses with your tongue and deeply sucking and nibbling her skin.

Once it seems she won’t be able to take anymore, take the tip of your tongue and flick it against her clit. Do this several times and then place your entire mouth over her clit and suck while making up and down motions as you do. Don’t be afraid to use (a little) bit of your teeth to help with stimulation.

At this point she will be moaning and unable to control her body, if her back is arching and bringing her pussy down away from you, grab her ass and bring her further into your mouth.

Let your tongue relax and lick her pussy up and down giving a little suck to her clit every time you reach the top of it. Let your tongue circle around the opening of her pussy before you put it inside of her to taste her. When you do this gently take your thumb and rub her clit slowly.

When you’re ready to have her climax for you, lick her pussy up and down again, this time firmly latching onto her clit and sucking and moving up and down like before except this time move your fingers inside of her and begin gently humming while you’re sucking—the vibration you create will make her have a leg shaking orgasm.

Don’t stop even once you start to feel her spasm and shake—don’t stop until you feel her cum and then pulse and throb against your mouth. Gently kiss her pussy and let your fingers move up and down her thighs.

Let your woman guide you at this point, depending on the strength of her orgasm she may need a few minutes to let her breath settle, or she may guide you right into her mouth or inside of her.

For a woman who has embodied her inner goddess, this type of sex is more intimate than anything else, because you are at the very core of her sexual being, and tasting every single part of her. This is where you will get to feel her every breath catch, and experience the waves of pleasure as they rise from her body.

This is the ultimate surrender of a conscious woman to a man she trusts.

And although she currently may be left breathless—trust me, she will show you her appreciation.

 

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“I’ll stop writing about sex when people stop being interested in it.” ~ Erica Jong

 

Relephant Reads:

6 Ways to Have Radically Intimate Sex.

Plus: How to have a fun, sexy, heartfelt, genuine, mutual experience when making love.

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Author: Kate Rose

Editor: Travis May

Images: Photography by The Torture Artist Photography by Jeff Fiore. Used with permission.



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About Kate Rose

Kate Rose is an artist, free thinker, lover, writer, passionate yogi, teacher, mother, rule breaker, and rebel. She can usually be found walking barefoot in the moonlight between worlds with the dreams of stars still hanging in her hair, swaying her hips to the music of life and smelling of sweet bourbon and honeysuckle. She lives for adventure and wakes each morning with the excitement of a new day waiting to unfold at her feet. She truly believes the best is yet to come and waits, with bated breath, to see what it may hold. Follow her on TwitterFacebook or Instagram, and find more of her words on her website

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34 Responses to “[Warning: Photos contain Nudity & Sexuality] The Art of Oral Sex.”

  1. carl says:

    Thank you for exploring one of my favorite things in the world. The feeling of building and sharing the energy created when you explore a woman that way is truly magic.
    And I will have to disagree with Al Pacino … It's the Taste of a Woman.

  2. Ride says:

    The women feature need to eat something. I prefer a woman with curves.

  3. kateanne00 says:

    Hi Ride, What's amazing is that people come in all shapes and sizes -but at least to me, women in general are gorgeous even if their particular body type isn't one that we usually sexually desire. The thing is these bodies are distorted as well, as they are in poses -I have curves for days, but when I lie down I have ribs, hip bones, and collar bones that protrude -it's just physiology. Either way, these women are amazingly beautiful, not just because of their physical characteristics but because of their confidence in posing nude. I love that you prefer women with curves, but to assume these models don't eat isn't fair to them either, and again, to me, all women are gorgeous -especially with their clothes off -regardless- of size or shape.

  4. Charles van Hooirjn says:

    This sounds like my personal roadmap to the female orgasmic wave. I have never let a girl down, although I have done this with a select few…they have been blown away into oblivion. Thanks for sharing, I knew I was doing something right

  5. Ayala says:

    Nice to know men will read this and learn to take their time. But hairless women? It's a trend I cannot abide.

  6. zenguitarguy says:

    Every woman is different. In taste, in response, in need. It was nice, and somewhat erotic, to read your words on what basically works for you, but women are all so vastly different that this does not necessarily apply to all. Some women like the alphabet drawn with the tongue. Some like to be read poetry while in the act. Some like their G-spot explored, some like a vibrator at the same time. Some women want to move freely and respond, and some to be held so fiercely that the act is holding her in place. In other words there is no tried and true methodology. there is only the joy in the exploration and the willingness to always be willing to look over and over again for that which connects the most deeply. Whether it is the first time with a new lover or the 5000th time with a wife/partner.

  7. kateanne00 says:

    Your absolutely right! I even prefaced this entire piece with that same sentiment -In preparation for this, I interviewed different women about what was the best they ever had, so this piece is a collection of different women, and experiences. Some did talk about vibrators -and food- as well, but since sex is so vast, as are the options, we decided to just strictly talk about oral sex, no toys. It is interesting you brought up the ABC's, all the women interviewed said they can tell when their partner is doing that, and that although it feels 'nice' it usually can't bring them to orgasm. Women are vastly different, and isn't that so wonderful -if anything, maybe women will be more confident in asking for what they like after reading this, and maybe men would want to try some new things. It's all about opening a dialogue between consenting and willing partners.

  8. kateanne00 says:

    Love that you noticed that Ayala-I'm currently working on a piece about just that. Stay tuned!

  9. zenguitarguy says:

    May we all keep exploring!

  10. Rachael says:

    I loved this article and the pictures that went with it. We get so used to seeing women in porn that have these tiny “perfectly” proportioned labia, it was nice to see a woman that looked more “natural” who seemed to feel utterly beautiful and sexy in her skin. While I understand that these exact moves may not work for every woman, it is definitely a good way to start for a guy that may need a little direction in this act. If a woman has difficulty putting what she wants into words, sharing this article could help both partners. She could learn to start communicating and her partner could learn what she wants. Yes, this was an erotic NSFW article but it wasn’t pornographic in any way, to me at least. As consenting adults we all need to be comfortable with our bodies and what makes them tick. Knowing what you like, love, need, dislike, hate, etc… makes sex or kissing, snuggling what have you better for both people (everyone) involved.

  11. Mo says:

    And they are all hairless

  12. Chelsea says:

    Very well said~

  13. Tori says:

    Enough with the stereotyping. Just because a person is skinny does not make them anorexic. Some of us have a high metabolism and its insulting when you make ignorant comments like this one. You may love whomever you want but don't down grade a type of girl to life another up. It's contradictive.

  14. Melina says:

    Hot. I guess those I have been with should not have gotten a sandwich! 😉 They did not follow this exact technique. That is not to say I have not had great orgasms, but this is more advanced sounding. And again, no, the girls are not anorexic in these photos! Some women look like this naturally.

  15. omaria henry says:

    that was superb elegantly wonderful beautiful sexy and romantic one of my best articles about love ever read

  16. liesl says:

    🙁 boo! i have been a fan of all elephant journals….. then this comes through. feels like pandering to the lowest common denominator. at best.
    in a world over sexualized, the actual fun and joy of the act of intimacy is being lost… so even good words are completely disregarded when you choose to put pictures of women who are stereotypes of men fantasy…. is everyone waxed or shaven?? there are a lot of studies being done right now on the way the porn world is destroying the chances of people having healthy sex lives, and the whole "bald pussy" is right out of the porn culture. i have also seen the studies showing that being bald like that also makes you more vulnerable to disease. so a bit bummed that instead of sticking with healthy female culture, you chose to post pictures that high school boys will be beating off to tonight, along with some creepy old men….. woman are more sacred in their sexuality…. these photos are ironically male influenced.

  17. Lynn says:

    My boyfriend used to leave me shaking every time we had sex. Now it’s more like a wham bam thank you mam. I miss those earth shattering ecstatic sex romps!

  18. hatterasman says:

    I simply do not understand this generation's hair phobia and why grown adult women want to look prepubescent.

  19. Garrett says:

    They aren't doing it to look prepubescent.

  20. Jess says:

    Yes!! I have had some amazing orgasms this exact way. But with a woman. I wish Elephant Journal did not automatically assume it’s readership is hetero. Though (as someone who has been with men and women both) my experience is that most queer women don’t need this guide. 😉

  21. Ang says:

    Agree Jess. I’m fairly new to accepting my sexuality and reading stuff like this I always read it by replacing the male pronoun with the female pronoun. At least it’s helping me realize how gay I am lol.

  22. pacocean says:

    Try being married to an electrical engineer. He's married to the computer ONLY. Haven't had ANY sex with him in NINE years. He isn't the romantic type at all and had I known that back in 1990, I would have NEVER married him in 1994.

    I wish all the women good luck, and I envy the women who have attentive boyfriends and husbands. You're ALL lucky.

  23. JohnH says:

    And you remain married to him because…. ?

  24. Observer says:

    So women should not be stereotyped, but men who like a shaved woman are "the lowest common denominator" and old men are "creepy". It's the usual feminist argument: Whatever men like, need, or think, is of no importance and not to be considered or acted upon.

  25. Douglas says:

    How about some male nude photos of men who are not male model’s? If so [email protected] and yes I’m heterosexual…all for the art or not..

  26. carrie says:

    Every man should read…

  27. Old geezer says:

    Many women PREFER to have no hair in their crotch, just as most PREFER to shave their underarms, their legs, trim spare hairs from their face, and so forth. My wife is one of those. At age 50 she decided she didn’t like hair in her crotch, and began to shave. She said she was interested in doing it before, but her then-husband thought it was weird. Now she’s 73. She still shaves every couple days, and always before any sexual action. For the last decade or so I’ve done the same, and she prefers me that way, though shaving for me isn’t as easy and quick as it is for her. Both of us use a four blade razor. She prefers shaving dry. I always do in the shower with shaving cream. Yes, I’m 72. This is done strictly for ourselves, and secondarily for each other. We are both faithful, one of the conditions of our marriage, after both trashing previous marriages with playing around.

    If you prefer to be hairy on your body, anywhere or everywhere, that’s cool. We won’t judge you, so please don’t judge us.

  28. Laura says:

    Actually a lot of us remove our hair to prevent chafing on long bike rides and during other physical persuites. It has nothing to do with appearance or pleasing someone else. It’s all about comfort.

  29. alex says:

    Women know what women like. And there's more emotion involved. Plain and simple the most mind shattering erotic sex you can have.

  30. KP says:

    I love hearing about older couples who are still sexually active. Too often my generation loses sight of the fact that older people enjoy a healthy sex life. Thanks for the reminder that age doesn’t have to keep us from enjoying sex.

  31. Millionlov says:

    Each time i have sex with any woman,they ask if am a hors but am just been good to them.i never ge tired having sex;);)

  32. Matt Caplin says:

    I’ve read some, most, but not all of the comments here, and I’d like to insert my essence into this little pool of being we’ve got going here. I read this, and it turned me on. Like little switches flicking on, pulses of electricity coursing through my body, feeling myself come alive. You stimulated my mind and conjured within it the memories I cherish of loving connections I have shared in the past, of sending sensations of love into the bodies of past partners and receiving them into myself… That is such a power, to communicate so deeply the sensations you, as a woman, enjoy… and though others may desire everything to be black and white, I appreciate every perspective, every shared memory of sensation, every bit of it all… It is through the diversity of shared thoughts and feelings that I learn how to become a better lover. I am grateful to you, Kate, for cultivating a deep connection with yourself and teaching others one pathway into the core of sensuality. And to those who commented disrespectfully about the photos – that is not your body. Love thyself. Allow others to do the same. Shaved, unshaved, none of it matters to you, unless it is your own body and it affects your own comfort. To feel free, cultivate freedom. Thank you for sharing your vital energy, Kate. <3

  33. Brash says:

    Then go for a woman with more meat on her.. Thats your preference. She does not "need to eat something" because her type isnt appealing to you. Would you tell her she "needs to gain/lose a few inches" if you did not prefer her height?

  34. Brash says:

    Do you only have sex with men with beards ? Otherwise by your analogy, you are having sex with men that look prepubescent because he shaved. Its personal preference to remove hair if you dont like it there. In fact I find it judgmental and offensive to assume that someone is looking for prepubescent females just because they prefer to not bushwhack through a forest of hair when pleasing a woman. It would be just as judgmental to assume that someone wearing skimpy clothes is "asking for it."

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