What I Learned from Anger Today.

Via on Nov 25, 2011

If we have been hurt by someone, why do we hurt ourselves more by feeling the pain of anger?


Anger is not my enemy.

Anger is my friend.


Anger is trying to show me some things.


I am angry at my friend Anger.

I do not like to be angry.

I like peace, calm and joy.

I like to be peace, calm and joy.


How do I express my anger?

Do I yell and scream and say mean things?

This I will regret.

Do I ignore and suppress and pretend everything is ok?

This will cause me more pain and make it stick and hold me down.


Getting angry causes more pain. Really I’d like to cry and cry. I do. Then I feel better. For a bit.

“Patience and forgiveness are the healing middle way between the extremes of either suppressing or indulging anger and other strong negative emotions.” -David F. Vennells in “Reiki for Beginners.”

I ask for Patience to teach me, show me, guide me.

What does she say?

She says, be patient with yourself, you are learning.

She says, be kind and understanding toward yourself and others, everyone is learning.

I ask Forgiveness to teach me, show me, guide me.

How will I know if I forgive?

He says, acknowledge yourself as a sensitive and loving being. You deserve to forgive. Forgiveness will set you free to love and be loved in harmony. Accept the imperfections as perfections. 


Five Steps To Handling Your Anger

  1. Breathe & Create Space. – It’s easy to lose control and say or do things we might regret later on. Move to another room or go for a walk outside.
  2. Acknowledge How You Feel. – Notice your feelings and name them to yourself.
  3. Express in Constructive Ways. – Write it out, dance, run, stomp, yell (not at someone), howl, draw, paint, pray, meditate – this moves the energy out.
  4. Reconcile. – With yourself or another person, communicate your pain, come to understanding of the situation, and learn your lesson!

About Helene Rose

Helene Rose, MS, is dedicated to inspiring your inner radiance and passionate about supporting women to live uniquely brilliant lives. She offers private mentoring and group mentorship programs dedicated to supporting working women and mothers. Helene also works with corporations to bring balance to feminine leadership and help women and companies tap into and unleash creative feminine energy. Before founding Be Brilliant Network LLC, she completed a BS in Mechanical Engineering, a MS in Curriculum Development, worked within several large corporations, taught ninth-graders in an inner-city school, founded a non-profit to support mothers, and has been on the path of feminine empowerment and mindfulness since becoming a mother in 2004. She lives in Boulder, CO with her family. "Living a brilliant life means that you radiate joy and peace in all areas of your life. You live by your own set of unique values and are empowered to live an authentic, radiant life. Your relationships are nurturing and supportive. Your work is purposeful and meaningful. The earth glows with each step you take. When a woman fully acknowledges and embodies her brilliance, she is an authentic and successful contributor to society - no matter where she is and what she chooses to do. Her inner brilliance shines forth in all she does." - Helene Rose Register for Helene's next Be Brilliant Group Mentoring Program for women. HERE.


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9 Responses to “What I Learned from Anger Today.”

  1. MaryHelene says:

    Very nice Helene, it is key to acknowledging yourself as a loving and sensitive being. You forget that when you are angry but recapture it when you let go. TY

  2. irina says:

    Thank you for this. I needed this right now…

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