What Makes A Hero? ~ Brad Fisher

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Shouldn’t saving people from harm be the norm not the exception?

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about what it means to be a hero.

Definition: hero (male) and heroine (female) came to refer to characters (fictional or historical) that, in the face of danger and adversity or from a position of weakness, display courage and the will for self-sacrifice—that is, he-roism—for some greater good, originally of martial courage or excellence but extended to more general moral excellence. ~ wikipedia.com

People have told me that my wife and I are heroes for the way we take care of our seven-year-old daughter with a life threatening illness and our regular 10-year-old son. I don’t feel like a hero, I just feel like a father that doesn’t want to lose his child to a horrible terminal disease.

Some people believe a hero is someone who has overcome great odds, persevered against great odds or both. Does this mean the people who survived the Titanic are heroes while those that died are not?

Are the survivors of the Holocaust heroes while those that died at the hands of Nazi Germany are not?

Not long ago I watched a show about American War Heroes. The subject of the show was to figure out what separated these heroes from the regular population of people. None of the heroes interviewed felt like heroes and none of them could explain why they put themselves in mortal danger sacrificing themselves for the good of others.

A wave of selflessness overtook these heroes making them act, putting their comrades lives ahead of their own.

Since our daughter’s diagnosis with Spinal Muscular Atrophy Type 1, I have met hundreds of families that go” beyond the call of duty” to care for their children. Is there a limit as to how much effort, time, money etc. they should put into their children? Is there a limit as to how far one should go to ensure the safety of another human being?

 The great child advocate June Collwood said, “If you see an injustice being committed, you aren’t an observer, you are a participant.”

Are the men and woman who save people during times of genocide like the holocaust in the second world war, Rwanda, Serbia Croatia War, or the current African conflicts heroes?

Shouldn’t saving people from harm be the norm not the exception?

A few years ago when a bridge collapsed in Minneapolis we saw acts of heroism from passersby saving people trapped underwater in cars, on the bridge, near the bridge etc. I started to wonder if these heroes were also heroes in their daily lives or were their actions to act and climb down a collapsed unstable bridge just a primal reaction of the moment?

It’s my opinion that there are different levels of acting in heroic ways and that heroism is in fact subjective. Those that act heroically only to gain fame or monetary reward is the lowest level of heroism; their actions are still heroic but the actions are offset by their own personal needs.

For me the true heroes are: the woman living down the street that has cared for her disabled daughter for 46 years, the parents who care for children with life threatening illness at home and spend all their time ensuring their regular children live full lives, or as Christopher Reeves put it:

Danna Reeve and Christopher ReeveWhen the first Superman movie came out, I gave dozens of interviews to promote it. The most frequently asked question was: “What is a hero?” I remember how easily I’d talk about it, the glib response I repeated so many times. My answer was that a hero is someone who commits a courageous action without considering the consequences. A soldier who crawls out of a foxhole to drag an injured buddy back to safety, the prisoners of war who never stop trying to escape even though they know they may be executed if they’re caught. And I also meant individuals who are slightly larger than life: Houdini and Lindbergh of course, John Wayne and JFK, and even sports figures who have taken on mythical proportions, such as Babe Ruth or Joe DiMaggio. Now my definition is completely different. I think a hero is an ordinary individual who finds the strength to persevere and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles. The fifteen-year-old boy down the hall at Kessler who had landed on his head while wrestling with his brother, leaving him paralyzed and barely able to swallow or speak. Travis Roy, paralyzed in the first eleven seconds of a hockey game in his freshman year at college. Henry Steifel, paralyzed from the chest down in a car accident at seventeen, completing his education and working on wall street at age thirty-two, but having missed so much of what life has to offer. These are real heroes, and so are the families and friends who have stood by them. ~ Christopher Reeves

For me heroes are those that have a choice to act or not act selflessly and choose to act in such a way as to give of themselves to a greater good, and those that overcome great personal obstacles becoming examples to others. A greater good can be something as small as giving up a vacation so that your kids can go to camp or crossing the street just to help someone needing help.

Two weeks ago Help Fill A Dream was at our home erecting a playground in our backyard that was donated to our daughter so that she could play with other children and her brother. The men that showed up on their own time, on a Saturday to spend 7 hours working just so our daughter, whom they had never met, could have more happiness in her life—these men are heroes!!!

Everyone really does have the potential and capacity to be a hero because heroism is not measured by the type of action but by acting solely for the better good of someone else beyond ones self!

The other day I ran across a quote by Gandhi that really described how each of us could live a selfless heroic life:

I will give you a talisman. Whenever you are in doubt, or when the self becomes too much with you, apply the following test. Recall the face of the poorest and the weakest man [woman] whom you may have seen, and ask yourself, if the step you contemplate is going to be of any use to him [her]. Will he [she] gain anything by it? Will it restore him [her] to a control over his [her] own life and destiny? In other words, will it lead to swaraj [freedom] for the hungry and spiritually starving millions? Then you will find your doubts and your self melt away. ~ Gandhi

Brad FisherI was once a realtor, musician, band instrument repair technician and world traveler. Now I’m a nearly 50 husband and father to 2 fantastic children, bansuri flute player, yoga practitioner and full-time care giver to our daughter that has a life threatening illness spinal muscular atrophy type 1.

 

 

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4 Responses to “What Makes A Hero? ~ Brad Fisher”

  1. Gabriela says:

    How inspiring! We often tend to look for heroes outside of our own world, which disconnects us from reality. You reminded me that there are a few heroes in my own life. Maybe I should remind them, also, as they tend to be overwhelmed by those very obstacles you were mentioning. In their endurance and perseverance, it might do them good to be reminded that their lives have a meaning, a deeper meaning than most of ours.

  2. Ritu Sehgal says:

    For me, our children are the real heroes. To smile in the face of difficulties everyday. To never give up. SMA may affect their bodies, but their spirit is strong and shines through. They may not have much but find joy in the smallest things. I salute them.

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