September 2, 2020

How to Make a Real Connection: The Ins & Outs of Healthy Relationships.


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“All life is a movement in relationship. There is no living thing on earth which is not related to something or other.” ~ Jiddu Krishnamurti

Relationships, an integral part of life, have the power to make life beautiful or dull—meaningful or meaningless.

Relationships are a one-on-one environment; if we go by this logic, there shouldn’t be any problems, but because it’s between human beings, there are always complications. 

There is a famous line: तृष्णा ही दुख का कारण है. It means that expectations are the root of all problems. But, on a practical level, is it even possible not to expect? Well, in my opinion, even if it’s possible, it’s quite difficult. It might be possible, to some extent, in one or two relations, but not in every relationship.

In my opinion (obviously based on my experiences), both parties put great amounts of effort, time, and emotional investment into a relationship’s initial stages. They take care of each other’s needs, likings, and dislikings because that fear of losing the other person still exists. But as time passes, both people involved start taking it easy—taking it for granted.

To some extent, it’s nice; if we cant become comfortable with someone, then what’s the point of the relationship? The real problems in relationships start when one or both begin taking the other for granted—the priorities change. Like plants, relationships need to be nurtured—given the right amount of sunlight, water, shadow, and fertilizer.

In the same way, relationships need regular doses of care, concern, trust, love, belief, and togetherness. But as we spend more time in the relationship, it starts taking a back seat; someone becomes less important to the other, and the relationship slowly dies.

There is so much being said about how to be in a relationship with ourselves—how we need to be in love with ourselves, and so on. They say, if you love yourself, then you won’t regret not having anyone in your life. 

But is it possible? Is it possible to be content and happy with only yourself? 

We all need someone, a companion—a partner with whom you can share anything without fear of being judged and who treats you as his/her first priority—someone you can share your insecurities, fears, dreams (even the weirdest, funniest ones) without hesitation. 

Just the thought of it brings a smile to my face. 

Life isn’t easy, but it’s beautiful to be on the journey with someone’s hands in yours and someone’s lap to take a nap on—someone to do life with.

Relationships are an important part of our lives and emotional growth. And they can be great if we cherish them—treat them with care. 

An excess of anything is bad; whether it’s investing too much into a relationship or taking it for granted, both can ruin it. And don’t be afraid to get rid of toxic relationships!

Save your healthy relationships with a little pinch of salt and sugar, but only with people whose presence enhances your overall well being. 

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