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January 21, 2019

How to Manifest Self-Love—Even if you feel a bit Crummy Today.


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Most women have heard the phrase “self-love” being thrown around on Instagram, in blogs, and in the pages of glossy magazines.

If this term is new to you, self-love is the idea that our entire lives are shaped around how we feel about ourselves.

If we want to love our lives, we have to start by loving ourselves.

But did you know you can actually manifest self-love?

I studied, lived, breathed, and preached self-love, acceptance, and worthiness—trying to intentionally creating my future. I was inspired by books like the The Secret, but always ended up frustrated because it seemed to work in some cases, but not others.

My manifesting was spotty at best, and I couldn’t quite put my finger on why.

Until I looked below the surface.

Today my vision board is full of incredible things that I’ve been able to manifest, like living in a gorgeous house in Bali, getting signed to a top modelling agency in New York, and completely booking out my in-person retreats in Ibiza and Bali.

How did I go from missing out on my desires to becoming a (self-proclaimed) master manifestor?

It’s simple.

I focused on my level of self-love.

If we want to manifest the things we want, we have to become a vibrational match for them first. What does that mean?

Take one of my clients, for example. She wanted to manifest funding for her new, epic business, but despite putting her full attention on her vision, no money was turning up in her reality.

When she explained to me how defeated she felt, it became crystal clear what the problem was. The more she focused on the pain of not having what she desired, the further away her desire got.

Imagine you’re at a party, and an acquaintance strikes up a conversation with you. “I feel so desperate and ashamed,” she tells you. “Nothing in my life is working out the way I want it to, and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong.” On and on she complains over her cocktail.

You might have compassion for her, but you’d probably also want to climb out of the nearest exit.

Nobody wants to be around that kind of energy.

And neither does the universe.

Instead, I directed her to think of the place she feels happiest, just to see how the energy might shift in her. Instantly, she lit up. Suddenly, she was vibrating on the same level of the thing she desired. She could feel in her body what it felt like to have the money flow in, and she began to breathe a lot easier.

If you want to become a magnet for your manifestations, you need to start living as if you already have them.

That’s how you become a vibrational match for what you want to receive.

People with high self-love are great manifestors.

But how do we get great self-love in the first place?

You guessed it: we manifest it!

Follow these two simple steps, and you’ll be off to the races:

First, ask yourself, “How do I currently feel?”

You may have been feeling pretty crummy without even realising it. And spoiler alert: when you feel crummy, you manifest more crummy things.

Next, ask yourself how you want to feel instead.

This is where the manifesting magic happens.

Once we can identify how we would like to feel, then it’s a case of jumping into that reality. We can try it on like a new dress.

Then observe how the outside world shifts in response to the shift in your inner world.

Happy manifesting!

author: Gina Swire

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Editor: Julie Balsiger

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Sehar Sahotra Aug 5, 2019 4:11am

It is a really beautiful definition and clarification of self love.

R. Apr 21, 2019 11:27am

Good luck with your vision board.

Dr. Dawn Davis Mar 26, 2019 9:00am

This is great. I’m also so tired of the cliche’ “self-love” bandwagon. It was a breath of fresh air to read this and hear how clearly and eloquently you spell out the concepts of vibrational match.
I still struggle with how to maintain the vibrational match when I’m feeling down–and I don’t want to get into denying that I feel sad or whatever… would love your suggestions. thanks!

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Gina Swire

Gina Swire is a self-love expert, mentor, and manifesting queen on a global mission to help a billion women fall madly in love with themselves. After struggling with her own self-worth and image issues, Gina quit her career as a plus-size model at the height of her fame in order to embark on her own journey of transformation.

Today she travels the world leading live workshops, hosting retreats, coaching private clients, and speaking on stages from Burning Man to Bali, as she inspires women everywhere to love themselves, love their lives, and use it all to do good for the planet.

Her work has been featured in Vogue Magazine, Elephant Journal, Yoga Guide Magazine and Psychologies magazine. You can learn more about Gina at her Instagram page and become a part of this self love movement at her website.